Loving is not owning
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
May 15, 2011 3:40am CST
[b][i]Loving is now owning
We can let it go[/i][/b]
Those are lines from a song by a local musician. The melody is very nice, too. The song tries to impart that we cannot own a love forever. It could be possible that things will not work right. When the time comes to part ways, just let it go.
How would you handle a separation? Honestly, this is a question I could not answer because I hope that what I have now with Papsie will last forever. But separation always come. Even without another person as the cause, death will surely come.
Papsie, as I fondly call hubby, always tells me that we both should be prepared by now if one of us departs. It is fact of life that will eventually and surely happen. I know that for sure but it is accepting that is difficult to deal.
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11 responses
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
I agree, there are really some circumstances that we can't handle. Separation is something we can never ran away from. It happens in God's time, it may be in the wrong time but it sure will happen. Denial is part of the grief process. That why we can never know when we can be emotionally be 100% prepared.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
it also remind of this saying the truth would set you free and the song release me and let me love again. though it hurt when love fade or disappear. the decision to release the person to love another one is a greatest sacrifices of love. love mean not only being together with the person you love but also being forgiving and a matter of acceptance.that for me ids the real test of love to sacrifice one happiness for the other person to get it.
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Hi...yes it is true... We can force a person to stay with us, we don't own them.. We love them and they love us willingly.. We have no right to force them to stay with us, even it is really hard to do.. We did not hire them to love us... But can we really let them go even we still love them? Can we suffer from the loneliness as a result of it!? Can we move on even it is really hard to accept the pain inside? But sometimes we really must to accept it, we have no choice.. All we must do, is to show and make feel to that person that we really love that person before he decide to be apart from us.. For that way, he may not decide to be apart from us.. If a person feel that he is secure with us, he has no reason to be away from us...
@loveyjohnmark (31)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Well, the best part of being in love is when you just love a person and be happy about it, even if that person can never be yours, even if you know that it can't last forever. That is the true essence of love. It's not about owning someone, it's not about winning a relationship. It's just about being happy because you know you love someone. It's about being guiltless, because you know you didn't take away someone from anybody, you just love and love unselfishly.
God is love.
Jeff
@loveyjohnmark (31)
• Philippines
16 May 11
Well, the best part of being in love is when you just love a person and be happy about it, even if that person can never be yours, even if know that it can't last forever. That's the true essence of love. It's not about owning someone, it's not about winning a relationship, it's just about being happy because you know you are guiltless coz you know you didn't take away someone from anybody, you just love and love unselfishly.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
15 May 11
These lines are so true! When people fall in love they get possessive and that possessiveness gives them a feeling of insecurity. They start putting restrictions on each other and that's when life and love lose their meaning. I am saying this since I have experienced this and it's a very painful situation when you have to explain your every action to the one you love.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
15 May 11
I believe my friend that LOVE never die that's why it will last forever, only change is the wants, the character of person, they are thinking that they not feel love but the reality is always there.
Its hard to handle separation really I did not experienced but I seen in others and I saw the feeling and devastating effect in both side... see you around
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Separation is really one of the hardest things to deal with especially when we are very much attached to a person. This feeling of attachment makes it hard to accept the loss of a loved one. It is very true that loving is not owning. We have to accept that some point in our lives, we have to let go of the one we love. This is inevitable. There's no easy way to handle separation. It would surely cause us so much pain. Everyone goes through this but to be able to overcome this with grace, we have to lift everything to our one and only God. He is the best solution to all our problems.
