Always Call People by Name!
By oninomar
@oninomar (505)
Philippines
May 15, 2011 5:21am CST
Hi everyone.. Will you agree that it is really important to always call people by name? Calling people by their name is showing a respect to the person... Instead of calling a person like bro, dude, hey... Why don't you call them by their name?they will be much more happy to face you when you know their name...
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34 responses
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
16 May 11
I agree that most people like to be called by name. In sales, they teach you that using the persons name a lot puts them at ease. If you call someone by an endearment or other nickname like dude, it is sometimes because the name was forgotten. I don't know what to call my friends parents. I don't want to seem to familiar, but Mr. or Mrs. is too formal. My one friend's mother used to send me Christmas cards and sign them "Cheryl's mom".
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
15 May 11
When I was married I didn't call my husband by his name. I had a 'specialì' name with which I called him.
Some of my friends have nicknames and we call them by those name rather than their correct name because we have always known them under those names for decades.
If I don't now a person well enough to not use their correct name then I would nevercall them any of the names that you mention.
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
16 May 11
@mysdianait: I believe sometimes nicknames can show our closeness with that particular person, but sometimes it can be annoying as well...Some of my friends would prefer themselves called by their real names rather than nicknames, or those bros and dudes...As for them, it is simply because it is what your parents give to you...Why must we be ashamed of good things that our own parents give to us?
Nevertheless, personally I don't think it is not appropriate...As long as the person approves the usage of that name onto himself/herself and show no sign of offended by those names, I believe we can call them by whatever means...
Those sound words - psst, hey, etc. - doesn't count as names, though...
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
16 May 11
What are we supposed to call you? Live or center?
I never call people with 'hey' or 'pssst' unless I am trying to attract the attention of someone whose name I don't know. Like when someone throws their litter on the grass in the park!
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
17 May 11
@mysdianait: livecenter will be the best, but you can call me lc for short, just throwing out suggestions...live or center wouldn't be too bad, either...
Plus, I believe that suit the situation...I don't think respect is appropriate for someone who doesn't respect the cleanliness of the park and others as well!
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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15 May 11
I almost never call people by their name. This is partly due to the fact that I'm terrible at remembering them but a lot of it is because of the American influence in business where (according to negotiation theory) we should always use a name to build confidence and make people feel closer to us.
I hate the habit, personally. I mean I REALLY loathe it when people use my name all the time. A one-off use when we meet is fine but if they start throwing my name in every other sentence, it really rubs me up the wrong way... I'm not stupid, I know what my name is, thank you. It's just not necessary and, far from encouraging me to trust the speaker, makes me want to slap them silly.
I don't even use names with my brothers or close friends. I don't see the point unless it's when we first meet or I need to specify who I'm talking to.
But then I don't use "bro" or "mate" either.
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@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
15 May 11
Hi there oninomar!!
Well I think it depends on the kind of relationship you have or the degree of closeness you have with that person.If I don't know that person well or if I've only known him for a short period of time, I think I'll prefer if he call me by my name.But if that person is really close to me or m friend,then I'll allow to do that.
Although I really agree with you that people should be called by their first name, I can say that there's still an exception for this.Example is when that persons name is hard to pronounce or his name is too long.
@harck721 (372)
• Philippines
15 May 11
I think it's important for people to call others by their names, but you when you're close enough, a little informality wouldn't hurt. I also don't like people who give other people they hardly know nicknames. I know someone who doesn't really bother to remember other people's names and gives them demeaning nicknames instead.
@anklesmash (1412)
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18 May 11
I think what shows care and respect is finding out what they would prefer to be called whether it is their first name, a middle name etc or mr or mrs whatever or even a nickname.This shows you have taken the time to think about their thoughts and feelings.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
16 May 11
Hahaha but you didn't read it carefully enough maybe?
I was married and now I am a miss again.
That 'mys' is a mystery
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
16 May 11
@mysdianait: I think your real name would be Diana, right? Considering you are married, I wonder if you have been in myLot long before your marriage...That "mys" in front of your name makes me think you are a "miss" until I read your post below...
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
15 May 11
It shows people that you care when you are calling them by their name. if you can't make that kind of effort, you leave a distinct impression. everyone matters and it shows that respect in how you treat them.
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
16 May 11
@sender621: I believe it depends on culture as well, though...In my culture, calling older person by their names are considered rude...I don't know if it is okay in your culture but that is not true in my culture...Nevertheless, some people are more comfortable dealing with other people by calling them with names...as for me personally, as long as the person is not offended, it is okay to call them whatever as you wished...
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
I think some people call others using bro, dude, hey, mate and many others maybe because they don't know the person by name. I agree, it's really much better to call the person by name for it's more appropriate and really shows respect. If I was called by these names, I wouldn't look at the one calling. I really don't like being called like this but you just can't ignore it especially when someone calls you hey, you left your wallet. Of course that's another story but you just can't help it and you really have to turn around and face the one calling you hey, dude, mate or whatever.. .
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 11
Yes, you are right.
By calling people the name will be a easier way to start a new relationship.
This tactic is very useful when we are promoting or trying to persuade a stranger in sales.
I did have the same experience when someone who approached me to promote a product.
ha! ha!
By calling me the name, the gap in between me and this stranger will be closer.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
18 May 11
Yes, it is good to call people by their name as sign of respect. However if you a friend or a buddy of him it is just alright,be sport. Calling someone who is not yet very well close to you with an insulting alias is not good,just like my husband who hated it so much to be called kinky hair.
@heavenrenz (190)
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15 May 11
I know most teenagers do that, calling a person like bro,dude etc and they think it's cool And I agree with you people should respect one another by calling them by their own name sometimes it is a music to their ears when you call their names.
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
15 May 11
@heavenrenz: I must agree with that...Most teenagers nowadays are more comfortable calling their friends by nicknames rather than using their real name, but I think it is all about practical...I think no teenager will expect their peer to call them by name - it is somewhat weird for them...Indeed calling person by name shows the respect, but I believe you can call anybody by anything as long as they are not offended by that...
No offense, though and happy myLotting!
@adarshvishwanath20 (101)
• India
15 May 11
Hi, Yes, you are right. But youngsters don't mind calling their pals as dude, bro, etc,. If you are calling a person as dude, it shows your closeness with that person. Some people think it is cool & they are updated if they call some one as dude. College students feel happy when their friends call them dude, bro, or any short names or nick names even. We can call people by their name when they are little elder than us or if they are not so close to us.
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
16 May 11
@adarshvishwanath20: Sorry if I spell your name wrong...I just don't want to copy and paste your name into the text area...Frankly said I purposely do so...What is the reason for that, you think?
I think one of the reasons some people are calling names for their friends would be this - their names are long like yours! Besides, I would agree that it shows the level of closeness between the caller and the person called...I don't think you would call your boss by his/her name, do you?
By the way, no offense my friend...Your name is still writable!
@livecenter (1136)
• Malaysia
17 May 11
@adarsh: Now it is a little shorter! Nevertheless, I have no experience working in corporate world so I don't really know that people working there call their bosses by name...Pardon me for my lack of experience!
However, professionalism is differently defined in different cultures, and for my culture here, calling the bosses by names will simply attract more attention towards you, which I believe a kind you don't want to have if you plan to work longer in that particular place...
@adarshvishwanath20 (101)
• India
16 May 11
I don't mind my friend. By the way thats not my calling name, my calling name is Adarsh. Now do you feel it's short & you can easily call me by my name? Yes, I call my boss by his name. I work in a corporate world where right from the associate level to CEO of the organization is addressed by their names. It shows the professionalism in the corporate world.
@nenaandtrey (223)
• United States
17 May 11
I so agree with you! If not there name you should respect them by what they are a maam or sir.
But these kids no days have no respect for any one more less them selves.
Thanks for sharing. Hope you have a great day!
@greenfeathers (1206)
• United States
17 May 11
As an individual who is 6' 8 1/2" tall, unless they are close friends, I rarely get called by name. Nonetheless, I have no doubt who they are speaking to and personally, I believe the tone of voice and the mannerisms of the individual calling the name/nickname is a far better indicator of the level of respect that person holds for you..Enjoy!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
16 May 11
This is a great idea. Join the army and suggest this exact same thing and see what their reaction will be.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
16 May 11
hi!
Yes it is much better to call people by their name. All those you have mentioned that bro, dude are all informal way of them especially young people or certain group address their pal. We will find it strange and will assumed it as rude but if their friends are okay and happy with it there is nothing more we could do. I would rather call people by their name anyway~
@PhoenixLancer (18)
• Indonesia
18 May 11
If I call my friends by saying Bro, my other friends will reply to me too. But if I call his name, only that person will reply to me. Somehow, if we don't know their name yet, we call them generally. If we already know their name, we will soon use that name to call him or her. That's what I think.