Son's Birthday Party Worries.......

Why dont you just invite neighbor and/or relatives???

I can see why you are worried..this would be sad if your 6 year old is expecting a party. I always mailed invitations to classmates homes. I was often a 'room mother' and had all the addresses but I think anyone can get them?? Or at least their phone numbers? I definitely would call all the parents asap and see what is going on. Otherwise, take all his stuffed animals, action heros and have them all out at a party plus and neighbors or relatives. Happy Birthday to your son and Good luck!!

At six years old, the children may not have let their parents know about it. I have also been in lots of situations where parents NEVER check the bags. It is a safer bet to call and just see if they got the invitation and if the child is coming. You cannot force people to come to a party, but if somehow they do not know it is happening it would be a shame for them not to get to come.

Hi. Shar19. I am sorry that your child's classmates did not receive an invitation to school. You know what you should have done Shar19, I believe that it would have been better that these invitation could have been sent by you directly to your son's teacher. That way, nothing could get mixed up at all. I do find it strange that none of the kids responded to your child's invitation. You only received one "no", response, which I think is really odd. I would have a talk with the teacher about this. I hope that she made sure that all of the invitations were actually sent in all of his classmates "take home bins." I think that you should call all of the parents today to find out if they have received his invitation. And if they will be allowing any of their children to attend your son's Birthday Party. I wish your son a Happy and a Blessed Birthday, Shar19!

IF they received the invitations that is very rude they haven't responded. I would be a little bit doubtful they received them. I definitely would check w/the parents. My dil was telling me just the other day they have stopped letting them bring the invitations to school to be handed out. That may be the reason u haven't heard. They may not have received them. Hope y'all have a great party. Tell your son happy birthday from me.

Oh I do remember going through this also and although the kids did sound very promosing to my kids that they would come it would turn out they continued to forget to inform their parents and or did not show the parents the invites. Often times they would forget to mention it until the last minute and by then the parents would have other plans. So perhaps contacting the parents directly and the sooner the better before they make other plans. I never really understood that because when mine were so eaer to attend another child party they would rush home and inform me right away. Maybe because they knew that I would be one to decide if they could go or not and wanted approval right away before I made other plans for them. Good luck and hope the party is fun with several of the children attending.

We do check but mostly we call the parents witht he invite WE have gaver Grand daughter a party where nonly grown up sour friends came no kids This last on she invited school friend he first mixed up with kids. well My grand son didnt like it as he didnt have all of her attention they walked out and took present with them. SHe did ge the present but for Christmas I haVE A WEIRD DAUGHTER IN LAW. Hope you have more show up than the one that said no. and yup people are that rudse now a days

This is really a tough one and something that I've experienced twice with my daughter, the first time when she was in kindergarten and only two of the boys from her class came to her party and again this year in second grade. She only had one classmate show up to her party. However, with the second grade party we were a little bit more successful because all of the kids that live in our neighborhood were able to come to the party. It is something that you just learn that people are rude and also that the dynamic of the school will really show a lot as to how many people will show up to a birthday party. I don't feel that birthday parties are all about presents and I even said that gifts were not necessary but a lot of the parents at Kathryn's school won't take their children to birthday parties because they cannot afford to give gifts.

I think it is better that you call the kids' parents to make sure they really know about the invitation, maybe the kids forgot to inform their parents. If they were informed, they might be really busy and did not bother to give a reply. People sometimes think that it is already understood that the one invited will come to the party even without confirming it. I for one, have an unwritten rule with my friends. If we have a get together and we send text messages to everyone invited,it is understood that everyone is attending, those who cannot should text back and inform. I know this is not supposed to be the right thing to do, but maybe, just maybe, this is what's in the mind of the parents. I hope most of your son's classmates will attend, it can really be disheartening for your kid if no one will go.

..why not let your son invite his classmate? in first place, rarely, children in the age of 6 still can't do email confirmation or cellphone... i am also planning party for my son's birthday,, but its just a small party only for close family and friends..

Force them to come :)

well it could be that some children didnt bother to open their bags after going home and its possible their parents are unaware of the invitatiion..well the best way to get know is call some of his best friends parents and invite them personally,if they appear at the b'day party then i guess that will be really encouraging for the little b'day boy... the other thing could be possible is you go in the school and ask the teachers to have an announcement for the children and give them a verbal face-to-face invitation again by yourself effectively...so that they go home and could tell their parents about that with some more interest rather than just showing up a formal invitation to their parents..i guess that will be helpful..best of luck..have a good b'day party.

I think it would be a good idea to contact the parents directly. Children don't always give their parents all documentation that they take home, so some parents might not have seen the invitations. The ones who have seen it might not have noticed that they have to respond, or might have got it on their to-do list but not got round to it yet. Has your son asked his closest friends if they are coming? If he's had verbal confirmation from 3-4 of his good friends then that might be enough for him to enjoy his party even if no other kids show up.

If I were you I would start calling the parents. The same thing happened to me with my son when he turned 5. I hand delivered all of the invites and got no responses, I was talking to one of the mother's the day before I asked for the RSVP's to be back and I tried to not be too rude and bring it up in casual conversation and she looked at me like I was crazy that I was asking. She said, "of course we are coming, I didnt think I had to RSVP if we were coming" so low and behold I started calling the other parents and sure enough that was the consensus with most parents. Some of them admitted they forgot as well too though. So to make a long story short. Yes I would call the parents.

I would make a personal call to each parent of a child that you invited. Tell them that you think the invitation got lost between your son and school or school and their home. Tell them that you are trying to plan for the food and party favors.

I wonder since your son's birthday party may not on Saturday or Sunday and this may be a trouble for other children to attend to this party since their parents may be busy at work at that time. But no matter what, they shall give you a reply. I think it is better for you to call the parents to make sure whether they come or not. If it seems less people come to the party, then you can invite your friends and relatives instead so that the party can still go on. I love China

Hi Shar, Oh that is sad. When exactly is the party? I think I would make some phone calls if more haven't responded by May 17th. I saw all the responses about the kids not giving the parents the invitations and I think there could be some truth to that. I know that parents should go through their kids bags at night and I imagine many of them do but these are kids. Getting "mail" in their box is exciting when you are 6. I can imagine that they opened them on the way home from school. Also many go to a sitter after school. Did you invite the entire class? Well, I hope this turns out well for your son.

I know every one said pretty much the same but I would check with the parents just to confirm if the child is coming or not....some parents can be a bit unsure letting their children go to a party if they don't know you at all or very little about who you are...so a phone call would be nice so they can be assure their children will be safe.

Yes..there are some that are that rude. I have had some experiences for sure where this is concerned. I would call them and ask. They somnetimes will change their mind if they talk to you even if they weren't planning on attending. I sent out invitations once to a skating rink party. There were a certain amount of children that could attend for a certain price. Like 12 I think...well...little did I know my precious third grade daughter made some invitations of her own. And noone called to say yay or nay. As I sit there at the skating rink...children just kept coming in. I was freaking out because how was I going to turn invited children away? Afterall, they had their handmade invitations from my social butterfly daughter Before it was over, I had my checkbook out balancing my heart out..that party really cost me a pretty penny. There was a long talk afterwards about parties, money, and the way we have to plan things. I would call if you have the numbers. Just tell them you are trying to get things organized. Good luck and take care!

Giving out invitations through the children is not that advisable. They tend to forget to give them to their parents. So, in order to be sure, you could perhaps call the parents at their phones and confirm whether they are coming or not with their children. I think if half could come, then it would be a party after all. What is important is that there will be children attending the party.