Love Break
By balaji85in
@balaji85in (459)
India
May 16, 2011 9:31pm CST
Who gets more hurt due to Love break? Boy ( or ) Girl? In my point of view its a boy who gets more hurt due to love break. I am not trying to say that girls don't have any hurts in this case. Boys are getting more hurt rather than girls is my view. Because usually girls used to cry & vent out their emotions with fiends, & families. For a tiny thing also they get more hurt & will start to cry out until their emotions go out. But boys don't cry usually. They will control their emotions inside of their heart and also mostly they don't share with others like girls. So boys are getting hurt in Love break. So basically boys are more sensitive rather than girls.
What you people think about my view & what is your opinion in this case?
11 responses
@vinod4net (628)
• India
17 May 11
I feel girls are more emotionally mature and adjusts to breakups in a more mature manner than the bods. Boys are loud and aggressive but girls accept it silently and bravely. Also girls are better at controlling emotions and do not normally show emotions in public. Its true that boys are more sensitive and hence more expressive about their feelings and same reflects at the time of breakup's also.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
18 May 11
Girls accept the break ups silently is true.. They controlling their emotions and do not show emotions in public is also true.. But they used to cry until their eyes become desert which boys wont do.. Because girls are basically soft in nature, they can't hide & also they can't keep anything inside of their heart either can be the situation whether happiness or sadness.. They will burst out.. Not in the public, along with friends, parents..
Yes.. Boys are more sensitive and hence more expressive about their feeling and same reflects at the time of breakup's also :)
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
17 May 11
I don't know. I can't speak for women, it really seems they get hurt more but I'm really not sure. You can't really determine these types of things because it's subjective to every individual. Everyone has a different way of taking things in and how long they keep it in until they let it go. If you really wanna know, I'll have to say people that are really emotional get hurt the most.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
19 May 11
In general point of view i agree with you... But in the psychological point of view... I have an evidence with the point which i came with this topic.. I said the valid reason on what causes gents are getting more hurt rather than ladies..
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
17 May 11
I do not think it is one or the other I think that it is more a matter of who did the heartbreaking. The person who breaks off their end of the commitment is never as hurt as the one who didn't see it coming or didn't really want it to happen. It is very true though that the sexes often show this emotional harm in different ways. It is not socially OK for a male to cry in public where it is expected of a woman. Men often react violently where woman scream and yell. Both are driven by the same emotional toll just show it different.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
18 May 11
Disagree with the point that Men often react violently.. I can give many examples for that.. In many situations Women are behaving very strange to the men.. Many innocent men are being affected by women.. Not in all cases, & all women.. Speaking about the exceptions in both genders..
I came up with the points in this discussions are psychological aspects of human being's love break up situation.. Also my points are vice versa in some situations.. Exceptions are exist in all the things...
@davidkwan95 (185)
• Indonesia
17 May 11
In my opinions, it depends who loves more. I mean, a man can't really fall in love easily (playboy also rarely fall in love!), and if they really love a girl and get a break up, he will surely hurt more.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
18 May 11
How can you say that man can't really fall in love easily, Love is a feeling.. We can able to feel it.. That feelings can comes to a man at any situation.. So men also fall in love with a girl...
@veproye31 (75)
• United States
17 May 11
All that you are saying is true, it is better to have a broken bone than to have a broken heart. Love break truly hurts.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
18 May 11
WOW !!! Superb philosophy.. Love break hurts us truly & ultimately.. But the discussion is about who is getting more hurt due to love break whether boy or girl.. Your answer says that both gender gets equally hurt.. It is also true in some situations
@fairytail (32)
• Philippines
18 May 11
i believe that getting hurt depends in every situation and on every human who deals with it, sensitivity is an attitude, coping up with break-ups may seem to be harder especially if a girl or a boy don't know how to handle things, i believe that renewing our perspective would really help, because the real issue lies behind, who was really hurt, and in dealing with break ups we must see to it that we should be willing to accept the reality that the relationship is really over, it does not work out well for the two of you and be grateful enough that once in your life, you get to share a love, it may not be destined to be forever but i believe that every person has a capacity to love truly and sincerely, even if they tend to show the opposite..
i also believe in your point of view that men may have the hardest time to deal with break ups, for men in nature don't tend to show much of what they really feel.. but the important thing is, everything in life can be learn and relearn, so let us be brave in dealing with every situations in our lives, may it be for a girl or a boy..
rock on mylotters!
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
17 May 11
During a break up, it is not a question of who gets hurt more, but probably who can take it and move on. Getting hurt especially by someone we love needs a lot of recuperating to be able to bounce back from such emotionally-laden situation. Depending on the circumstances or the events that have transpired, surely one way or the other both eventually got hurt and even how intensely painful it may be, one has to realize and learned from that.
@davidkwan95 (185)
• Indonesia
17 May 11
In my opinions, it depends who loves more. I mean, a man can't really fall in love easily (playboy also rarely fall in love!), and if they really love a girl and get a break up, he will surely hurt more.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
17 May 11
You say boy hurts more because you are a guy. Learn to step into the shoes of the other party. When two are in a relationship that doesn't work out, each party will say the same thing to their friends: "I've been hurt more." Now who gets hurt more?
Mmm...food for thought.
@gyani1978 (147)
• India
17 May 11
That's all about the boys and girls feeling, its depends that how much they love or attach to each other.
But remember, if you break up with someone, it is only because there is someone else waiting for you. It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.