Torn: Should I do this or not?

I totally agree with all you said sophiecheer. She should talk to her brother about how it bothers her that he is doing that to her official girlfriend who's abroad. But when he does that, she should do it in a manner that is not confrontational but in a lovingly way, as a sister as to her brother and vice versa.

I am glad that we share the same opinion about this matter, Simplyd. And I agree that the manner of her approach should not be condescending to her brother. As you said, it should be in a "lovingly way". Blessed day.

I have already talked to my brother, he knows that I'm not tolerating it, but sadly he doesn't see anything wrong with what he's doing. The new girl keeps calling him and he says he has no choice but to answer because he pities her. Anyhow, I'm still thinking bout it but I know I don't think it's right to talk to the girl but I'm jut angry that there are these types of women who know that the men they're flirting with are attached. Oh well I guess there's really nothing I can do about this one.

I have confronted my brother about it, I am yet torn whether or not to tell the girlfriend because she's far and it's tough in her situation because she can't really do something about it.

I am Sure you'd help the girl friend because i do remember that her situation is reminiscing a bit to yours when it happened to you, i remember those discussions. but if you do this, chances are that you're brother could hate you for meddling his flirting but the good side is that you'd give that girl a chance to let go of the chain.. you're choice laydee, but remember the possible consequences if they do break up and he finding out that you intervene. have a nice day.

I have done my part and I don't know if he's listening, but if his life will go to rubbles, then that's his life.

Yes, I have already talked to him about it and have decided that I would no longer meddle with his affairs. If he's going to continue his ways and things would go bad, he no longer has the right to blame me for not doing anything about it. I think he's old enough to decide for his own. Thank you for the response. Have a great MyLot experience!

I have talked to him and have decided not to take further action. It's difficult to fight for a love that perhaps isn't there anymore and forcing him to do something that he no longer feels doing would be something I too would regret in the end. I know the girlfriend might think ill of me for not telling her so, but I think I should take the more 'mature' side of things and instead of just reacting, I shall take time understanding both their sides for now. My friends here and in mylot have proven a great point. Good relationships may be difficult to find but it's more difficult to keep, I cannot stop a person from doing something that I think is 'wrong' because it's his life anyways. I should only not lack in reminding him of the mistakes and pray that he would understand and get my point before everything is too late. If by chance it would be too late, then I can punish them both forever for the mistake that they have done. hehehe.. Thank you for dropping by.

Yeah, I have decided not to meddle. It's just futile because ultimately it's his decision anyway. If he's going to make a mistake, that is his life and that was his choice at least I told him my thoughts and warned him beforehand.

I'm pretty sure they're more than friends because she comes over. Once I even saw that she was upset about something, at first, I thought it was only because of the frustration about her job. But when he told me that she was romantically linked with her (and promised he ended it) I totally got the idea of what's really happening. I know I should not interfere, but how do you turn a blind eye for this one if you know that a person out there is loyal and is working so that they could have a family when she returns???