How do you judge an online friend/chat-mate/acquaintance ?

Hi jai Di I am too slow on this one at least... Dont know where and how the patience comes to me at this but yes, I do avoid getting personal with many online friends untill I really get an idea of what they pose up. Somehow, I have been mostly blessed with my friends in the online world barring a few occasions where I was wrong in judging them... faced the burnt, lost some friends, some money, some jobs etc... but it is all a package that comes when you get online...

Hi Jai! You see it is not an easy task to 'understand' on line friends. You need to interact them on regular basis and you need to decode their behaviour through their words. My principle is - if an on-line friend is 'consistent' in his/her behaviour and attitude, it means s/he is trustworthy. When we interact with on line with friends, we feel many limitation e.g. we just cannot see their face expressions and gestures, which we can see in real life. It is their words and wordly expressions only, which help us understand them. However, if I find an on line friend inconsistent or wavering or dis-courteous, I do not feel like interacting with him/her.

How do I judge an online friend I haven’t seen in person… It’s hard to tell the real you unless you meet the person for real. But the words he/she uses is an indication. The choice of words and how each is worded, that can give a clue somehow. However, online conversations wouldn’t be enough to completely display one’s character. Sometimes, we have to meet and be with that person to know him/her a bit more. As much as possible, I try to be nice online. Being rude is a no-no for me. We don’t tolerate the use of foul words whether online or in person, most especially in our home. Being online, I believe that often, our words become us. How we interact to others portray ourselves and our personalities. Our words are a direct result of our thoughts and beliefs. Therefore, it often gives a glimpse of who we are in person, our moods and the values we live in. We can never be 100% right or 100% sure about a person, because pretty much, how we judge a person is subjective. Each of us may look at another person differently. What we see and feel about a person can vary and differ. I like making conversations, some of my mylot friends that I have met, I chat with for long hours. It’s also my way of knowing them a bit. I don’t know how others see me or my personality. I believe that regardless of what others think we are, we should be confident in knowing who we really are… as we see ourselves, regardless of how others see us. It’s also important that a person likes himself/herself first… before others are able to like them. Depending on online mood, I can be both conversational and quiet… or serious and light-hearted. In person, I’m pretty much the same. But in every opportunity, as much as we can, we must try to enjoy and choose to be happy. Because wherever we are or wherever we go… it may not always be sunny everyday… so we should always bring our own version of sunshine. Hehe Have a great Thursday morning! [i]And now we get to the usual part Where you get to pen thru natural flair and art The words you often mention by heart Which singles avoid like a wart. Regardless of discussion topic It always appear like an epic Words so… prolific Now, isn’t it just… terrific! Someday will definitely come It will ring... just in time Be patient, friend of mine Because I'm definitely doing just fine. [/i] lol

Hello dear sister, I had some online friends in the very beginning of my net life (long before) and I stopped to be friends with them when I know them more. I cut out those contacts mercilessly and I stopped using one of my mail address too for avoiding them completely. Now I have friends from mylot only and out of them, chat-mates are very less. Most of them are within mylot only. I think it is really difficult to judge online friends. In mylot we do get some ideas about them from their posts. Now tell me how do you judge me.

Hello jaiho,hope you are keeping well. I really don`t have any friends online nor do i do any chatting online since i hardly have any time for it.In real life i am a very easygoing and friendly person but not gregarious.By that i mean i don`t go out of my way to make friendships but wait for the other person to make the first move.Once that is done then he has me as a friend for lifetime.I always like to make friends but in person and not thru the internet because one really does not know who or what type of a person one is dealing,therefore i prefer to stay away from online friendships.

Even offline one has not enough parameters at hand to judge anyone. What you see is what you get (WYSIWYG)is only meant for the data output in computers! Worse would therefore be the situation online. I never judge anyone here but only deal with them to the extent that is required to interact.

Personally I always try to judge a person online and treat them like I would in person. Because personally they are a Human with a soul and feelings, but then sometimes if you ever meet you could find they are not your type etc. and then feel Stupid but then it was better to find out now than later. But overall these are people that you have never met, and may never meet, and a lot of them could have great thoughts, feelings and values like you. And one day if you ever do meet you want to not have left any secrets then as well.

Hi didi... I can judge. dont know how but can. You may say it my sixth sense or something like that. You better now how i am on online relationship as you have better evidence for it. have a nice day.

I have maximum chatmates from your country, i believe i have some soul link with Philippines, next comes USA and last is India, if i chat i want to see the other in cam, if not just a voice call, because i have met so many cheaters on line, most are selfish persons, some guys say they are girl, just don't know why? Well you are a matured woman , intelligent enough to judge people online too.. Blessings from Dada Enjoy life to fullest. Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .

Hello jaiho! We can all be friendly with people we have interactions online. Well, for me, I can say I am not that friendly in person but I can be friendly online. I guess I feel more comfortable having conversations online not like in person. I don't know, I can be shy at times, so I always prefer being online and be hidden! Well, anyways, we can talk in anyone online, though we can never really tell who's telling the truth or what. If we always have contact with them, we can judge them by whatever they are saying. But what if in here, you know me by my username, but can you tell if I am really the one who is typing in here now? We can't be sure, right? So, by online friend, some can be real, some can be fake. Also in real life, there will be instances that you can encounter such person like those. It's hard to tell unless you really know them well.

I treat my online friends or chat partner just the way I did my offline friends, maybe with more carelessness that I would with my offline friends. So basically I am more truthful to the online friends that I would with my offline friends, cause it's not hard to loose and gain a friend online. There are always some people who would like us online than there are offline. I don't even care if I made some guys fall for me online....

I try not to judge online friends but I am just human and it would be hard not to classify the people whom you always interact with. For me there are only 3 kinds of people on the internet 1. the sweet ones 2. the smart and opinionated 3. others who are not my friends I only mingle with people from 1 and 2.

Personally i do not judge too much people i chat online,because they are all hiding behind those msn nick and avatar and pretending to be someone else and having fun relaxing and speaking their mind off without the consequence in real life world if done face to face.However, i do admit some are plain stupid1 and plain naughty to cheat people of money and such.Better be careful and not believe anything while chatting.

Usually through the quality of their written conversation. And also it would take some time before I would fully trust them, probably longer than I would if I met someone through face-to-face. We meet someone face-to-face, you analyse other things apart from their speech, the way they dress, the way they hold themselves, their body language and their general vibe.

I try not to judge them, I try to get to know them or just enjoy talking to them.

Hi jaiho: I like you as a Mylot friend. Now your question. As you have mentioned people may be different online. In my case I try to act as I normally act in my everyday life but at the same time, I think people are usually nicer with their online friends because they are here to feel relaxed and meet new people. You can enjoy your relationship with an online friend, maybe you can ask some question about your friend relatives, what does he do, what does he think about a subject to get some clues. But you won't get to find it until you meet him offline. ALVARO

Hi Jaiho, I cannot say I am expert on this but I had lot of experiences in any kind of online relationship expect romantic one I don't want to judge someone easily because I want to give them a chance to know them sadly some who were given a chance just wasted it . I don't easily trust someone online when it comes to a romantic relationship it will never be easy to believe them but I don't want to judge them either I just want to be more careful so I will not have a heartaches. In the world of cyber we can whoever we want to be lies and stories are there but the honesty we can rarely found it. happy mylotting

No body can judge a person right just chatting online, no matter for how long you've been interacting with eachother. What ever we put across online is not true always & some people may even pretend to be so nice & caring. We don't know what exactly that person is outside. We can only judge a person when we stay in constant touch with that person knowing his character, attitide, behaviour, everything. Then only you can come to a conclusion. We should have seen him reacting in several various situations, circumstances, environment. Online friend can not be as genuine as a friend whom you know personally.