Do you agree that men hurt more than women when it comes to love?

Canada
May 18, 2011 4:54pm CST
In the event of a bad breakup, do you agree that a man hurts more than a woman? I'm not talking about those little boys that throw tantrums and mistreat they're ladies. I'm talking about a man that really loved his other and she broke up with him. I always say a man is strong but when he hurts he really hurts and probably 10 times worse than a woman would in the same sitation. Do you think this is true?
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@pradoz (404)
• India
19 May 11
you are generalising asubject which can be more easily defined by individual strengths and weakness.There are strong men and weak women and vice versa,in the emotional aspect.So don't let your individual experiences lead to such a geberalisation.Any rejection hurts a person,but the extent to which it is allowed to dominate his or her feelings depend upon the man or woman
• India
19 May 11
pradoz is very true of course! It depends upon a person's emotional aspect. And yes, it's not true that generalsation always works in case of psychology and love.
• India
21 May 11
"I think the man would feel it deep down unlike a woman who would most likely cry it off" exactly! Men usually hide their emotions in deep chasms of their heart and do not popur it out like women. And stuff like breaking up with the person who he loves the most will only cause an emotional uproar that results in exposing all the hidden emotions- and it's not really nice sight.
• Canada
20 May 11
I agree with what your saying, However I still think a man would hurt more simply because a woman may go through more heartache than a man would. But to say it is a woman and man that have gone through the same amount of heartache I still think a man would hurt more depending on the situation they may react differently but I think the man would feel it deep down unlike a woman who would most likely cry it off
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
19 May 11
I think they are same. Because there are men that suffer more pain but girl is more emotional than men...But today I think more women is cheater than men...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Yup! This is only my observation. Because my partner also I caught her cheating me. But she never admit the sin that she is committed. That is also happen to my friend...He's girl friend cheated him...This two cases maybe a ratio of probability that most women are cheater than men... I don't say this is base on a survey but I base this to my observation which I assumed the probability...
• Canada
20 May 11
I dont think they hurt the same. I think a man because hes not as emotional he would feel pain more. I agree with you when you say there are more woman out there cheating than men. I believe this is because woman can be more devient
• India
19 May 11
Yeah you are probably very true and on the right track. When it comes to breakup if it is been started by a woman they are just breaking up silently or without any physical or emotional beings they always have a genuine reason.. about 70% of woman when they breakup they dont create a panic situation but they just want the scene to get over as quickly as possible so that they can move on. But when is come to men, they just create a hazard when they breakup.. even when a man goes through breakup stage with that unbearable pain he tends to do anything in his state of anger. So i strongly feel that men hurt more as compared to women when it comes to love.
• Canada
20 May 11
I agree with your train of thought. Sometimes the pain maybe unbearable to a man as appose to the same feeling for a woman she knows the hurt will eventually go away. A man I think would choose anger over sadness and I think that is one reason they resort to it
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
19 May 11
Both male and girl get hurts. - But express them differently.
I guess depends on the individual, i think man hurt different and response differently from girl hurts.Guys maybe hurt and express externally while maybe girl hurts and express internally, when guys hurt they want to go out, maybe when girl hurts they want to go inside the house or room.I guess both can hurt much but express it differently or hide it differently.
• Canada
20 May 11
I see what you mean. If you ever see a man cry it really saddens a person I find. I think this is because they say men arent suppose to cry, they are the stronger person. They associate crying with weakness however I find a man that can display his emotions is quite strong just to do that. Its not a good thing to bottle things up inside.
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
19 May 11
Yes, I think it's true because my when I first met my boyfriend he talked about how much he was heartbroken over his first girlfriend. Every girl knows that you should never talk about your ex in front of your new girlfriend, but I think guys need to talk about it more. Maybe it's that they never get a chance to talk about it with their friends because they are supposed to be less emotional. Anyway, I think they are less forgiving about breakups because sometimes they say, "if you break up with me I will never talk to you again." For me I was heartbroken for a couple months but I don't care about they guy at all now, whereas my boyfriend always gets antsy if I mention his ex.
• Canada
20 May 11
Yeah that maybe a sign that he still not fully over her. Or isnt over the break up. This is what I mena when I say they hurt more, they feel it more. It may take longer for them to get over that person. Also depending on how much they actually cared for that person and how the break up went. I know if it was a situation of her leaving him for another its really hard for a man to digust that. I think it maybe a testosterone thing
@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
19 May 11
I don't think so. Well it depends on the feeling that a person shared with someone whom they loved. If its he who loved the girl badly probably its he who will really gets hurt that much and vise versa. All of us are made equally it just depend on the person if how's he/she going to manage the emotion.
• Canada
20 May 11
It depends on how they handle it yes. I think a man would resort to anger as appose to a woman who would resort to sadness. I find woman are much softer than men and even though we are really hurt we will have more good days than say a man would
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 May 11
I don't know if I would personally generalize men and women in that sense. After all, we're all different. We're all going to deal with relationships differently. I would think that both men and women will hurt when it comes to love. They will also both suffer as well.
• Canada
20 May 11
Yes this is true both will suffer but who do you think will feel it more. I just think a man would because I think they dont go through breakups as often as a woman would. So when a breakup occurs its not as normal to a male as appose to a woman who has gone through it numerous times.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
19 May 11
hello, I think this is true because most of the girl already can move on without any boys anymore they can be alone unlike to those guys who really have a hard time to court and to sacrifice for the women they love. Lets just think that they really in Love to that women and then the women just broke up to her without any reason or without any valid reasons of course it is really hurt for the side of the man.
• Canada
20 May 11
Exactly in a situation as you mentioned if he did get dumped without any explaination or indications why; I think that would drive a man wild. I hate to see a man cry or know that hes hurting which I feel is because men are not usually emotional or show signs of sadness
@Orson_Kart (6776)
• United Kingdom
18 May 11
Nope! love em and leave em, I say. When I was a teenager, I used to get upset for something as small as a girl didn't like me. Now I could think of nothing worse than adulation. Comes with age I guess. Where's my pipe and slippers?
• Canada
20 May 11
So your saying the older a man gets the less emotions he feels? Ive heard it the other way especially when he has grandchildren and such. I've heard they get softer with age.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
18 May 11
In the case of love and men and women suffer but each in its own way.Women cry while men do not show very clearly why I do not know of pride.But zanm that each is difficult when it comes to parting it hurts every poppy that not everyone recognizes it.Everyone suffers but everyone has a way to overcome this. All are equal and men and women and all suffer. I do not know how what suffers. But it is very bad when they hurt. Have a nice day.interesting discussion.
• Canada
20 May 11
That is what I mean when you say women will cry as for a man wont really show emotion. I think once a man does show emotion that is when they are hurting really bad. I think at that point they hurt more than a woman would.