Sadder than sad :(
By mtrguanlao
@mtrguanlao (5522)
Philippines
May 20, 2011 9:15pm CST
Have you ever felt sadder than sad in your life? I don't know,but that's how I feel today,sigh! I miss my hubby so much! I know most of my friends here know that my hubby works abroad,he just left yesterday morning for work again,sad! I think I will never get used to it. So sad especially when my baby looks for him. I just hide whenever I feel my tears will fall,don't want them to see me crying. My son would always say Mama,Papa will come back. Of course I know he will,I just hate myself feeling sad again. Hubby says I should do everything to make me busy but can't help it. I'm really like this,oh my! I just wish time will fly so fast so that it is already the day for his vacation with us again.
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15 responses
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I feel the same way, my long time boyfriend works abroad too. And i feel so sad..He's already one year there and I miss him so much. :'(
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Hi nurseclare!
One year is long enough,is his contract will last for 2 years?
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
I see,don't worry Christmas is already fast approaching,hehe! Just make yourself busy like I do and you'll never know,it is already the day of his arrival,yahu!
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
I understand how you feel. I am experiencing what you have experienced now. It's just even sadder when you don't know when your partner will come back home again to be with you thinking only 1 month that he will be staying with you. It's really a sad feeling when your loved one is away. I really wish we can all be together with our partners and stay by their sides forever.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Oh if only it is possible gaiza but he works in a cruise ship,if he's working on land,maybe we could be with him.
Yes gaiza,I just have to be strong for myself and my kids,thanks!
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Hi gaiza!
It's really sad but we have no choice,it's his job. He wants a better job for us to have a better life,his job here in our place cannot suffice our whole needs including the amortizations we got. Just can't help feeling sad especially if your husband is as loving and so kind.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 May 11
Hi my dear sweet friend
I'm sorry you are feeling sad and no you will not get use to it because you love him dearly and would want him with you at all times. You will always feel sad when he leaves but he is so right that you do need to keep very busy or you will get depressed. It is okay to cry and release because bottling it in will hurt you and not motivate you to get through the day.
I too have a lot going for me these days and am blue as well, but I do try to keep busy and at times the mind just wonders and we can't help but tear. So I suggest you and I keep really busy and try to comfort one another so the both of us can at least smile a little bit.
Try and keep telling yourself that though you miss him he will come home soon.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi my dear dear friend!
I have teary eyes now my friend. Thank you for all the things you've said,I really need it. Hubby wants me to get used to it but you're right about it,that's exactly the reason why I will never get used to it,sigh! I love him so much,he is such a very nice person,so kind and a loving father and husband. That's why I really really miss him. Just got a txt from him my dear friend,he's now going to Seattle. Their ship will tour around Alaska he said.
My baby is still asleep,good thing I have friends here in mylot to comfort me,thanks my dear dear friend!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 May 11
You are welcome and do keep coming here when you get a chance, it is such a great place to vent and discuss. You will laugh most of the time which is what we so need at times like this.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Definitely my dear friend! You just made me smile and comforted me. Love you my friend! Thank you again!
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi mtr...
I can feel how sad you are because I used to feel that way when my father was working abroad. But all things come back to normal for a few days because I know he left for our own good. And that's what you should think also. Like your son said, "Papa will come back"... So don't be sad now my friend. Your mylot friends are always here to cheer you up.
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@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Oooops.. Sorry to respond back very late. Anyways, here's my hug for you...
And hope you're sadness is gone by now. You're hubby is right, you should think of the future. He should go back so that you can save then have your own house soon. Good luck for that my friend.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Haha,don't be sorry for being late my friend,I'm like it always,lol! I understand!
Quite going with the flow now my friend,happy that hubby is okay and he's now on their cruie ship.
See yah my dear friend!
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
22 May 11
Hello my friend!
I'm glad you made it here,I really wanted my close friends to reply in this discussion of mine 'cause I wanted to talk to friends when I'm sad,it makes me feel calm and comforted.
Yes adnileb,that's what I really should think of,his arrival. And his arrival really excites me,I know in a few days,my sadness will go away but I will still miss him for sure. Hubby said I should just think of our future to lessen my sadness. We plan to build our own house my friend,we already have a lot but it's not yet fully paid,maybe after 5years we will already live in our own new house,yehey! We plan to start the construction after 2yrs.
So your father worked abroad friend,your mom must be so happy that he is always with her now.
See yah my friend! Thanks for being here!
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi inay..
Its normal to be sad inay. Of course, who will like to see their someone they love leaving?
Its normal, because you do love him very much and don't want to be away with all of you!
Just make yourself busy inay, you're hubby is right! Anyways, there's still internet.. YOu can talk to him and see him. I know it is different when he is really with you, but at least you do see him! :)
ingats inay!
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hello my dear bunso! Thank you for being here with me now,needed it much. Just making myself busy online but it seems I still don't have the mood to do some articles for triond that's why am here. I just did one article this month,oh my! Good thing there is SU,sharing my old articles to my followers to add views,hehe!
I love you bunso,thanks! Take care!
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi reallysunny! So you know ohana,lol! You can also be one of our ohana here,hehe!Glad to see that avatar again!
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Hmmmm.. You really love your husband. It's really sad to be away from somebody you deeply love. Just stay strong. I know you can make it. Anyway, he's doing it for the sake of your family. Just call him from time to time. Cheer up! :)
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
Hi jdex!
Yes,that's the only thing I am thinking of to accept his departure,he is just a very responsible husband and father to my kids,he wanted to give us a better life. Good thing my kids are with me and I have online works to do to make me busy.
Thanks jdex!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
22 May 11
Hi. mtrguanlao. It is natural for you to feel sad when your spouse is not at home with you and your children. I get lonely when my husband is not at home with me too. I even get lonely and sad when he is here at home too, because I miss going out with him to many places like we used to go before. We don't have a car, so we hardly ever get out to enjoy ourselves as a family like we used to. I pray that God will allow this to change for us. I hope that you won't be so sad as your husband is gone to work abroad. I know that it hurts you even more to have to tell your children, that he will be coming back, when you miss him. I pray that the time flies by so that you can see your husband again.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
23 May 11
Hello cream!
Thanks for the prayers my friend,need it most!
It really hurts more when my kids are looking for hijm especially my baby but you know what? I feel my baby accepts why her father is not around and I'm glad she's like that. My hubby told her that he will be away for him to buy her lots of chocolates,it's her favorite! We will just have to wait for his arrival cream and that's what I am just thinking of.
See yah!
@shibham (16977)
• India
21 May 11
Hi amiga..
I understand your feelings and value it. It really hard to face the departure time with our beloved one. You have already passed more than 20 years together, hence the depth of your love is increasing and has lots of meaning. I think this is not the first time you have cried but thanks to mylot that you now able to share your feelings with us and at least we can try to lessen it.
remind it that he is doing all everything for the sake of his family which consist you and other two. If he would an unemployed, then your agonies would be more and more.
No tears for the next time. take a promise today.
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi amigo! Glad to have you here in my discussion as I really need my friends to talk to now.
Yes,you are right amigo,if he will not leave us for work,we won't have a better life that he wants to give us. I know it's also sad on his part to leave us but he is that responsible and I'm proud of him for being a responsible husband and a father to our kids. This is just what I always think to accept our situation.
Can't promise amigo that I will not cry next time,hehe,really can't help it.
See yah amigo,thanks for being here.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 May 11
Oh dear. But hey that again is a temporary departure right... I know at this point you are filled and occupied with all the good memories between you and hubby and they are yours to cherish... I would start planning for the next visit and the days when we would be together again... As you say - time will fly so fast so that it is already the day for his vacation with us again. - yes, time will fly this way and it will be soon the next visit/vacation time
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hello dear Sids! It's a relief to see you here as I wanted all my close friends to reply to this discussion,wanted to see you all when I'm lonely,happy now that most of my close friends responded already.
Yes Sids,I'll just have to cherish all the great moments we had when he was here. He even told me to mylot so I wont get bored,hehe! He knows mylotting is one way to make me happy. He knows about all of you here,told him about our trio tandem and my other friends.
Just have to think always of his arrival.
See yah Sids and thanks for being here!
@Harold_ks (1673)
•
21 May 11
Yeah it's really sadder than sad when you are away with the one you love. You will miss him/her so badly. You will miss the things that he/she used to do. You will miss his/her presence. I have also experienced that. It's really hard. But constant communication will ease the loneliness especially when you are exchanging sweet and loving phrases plus kisses. Communication makes the distance closer and that will be the key.
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi Harold!
Oh yeah,good thing we have skype,fb and ym now as communicatiion tools,this really makes our loved ones closer to us but you know there are times when I see him on skype,it is more that I miss him,oh my! But it is now better to have skype than just a phone call like we do before.
See yah Harold!
@mauricel (113)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Yes! I do felt that way. It was the day that I have to leave my mother's house because of some issues between me and my other sibling.
I don't want to leave the house but on the other hand I will be the best for us.
I do missed her a lot.
Me and my mom are okay and I know that time will come that I will be back in her house not to stay but to visit
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
22 May 11
Hello mauricel! Welcome here!
It's really sad to leave and be left by someone you love. But you said it's for your own good so I guess that makes sense. I just hope you and your sibling will be okay soon.
Thanks for sharing it mauricel.
See yah and happy mylotting!
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Hi friend! Sorry for my delayed reply,I have no internet for two days that's why,grrr!
We are just humans friendso it's normal to feel this way but this wont be forever,I know in time we will be happier than happy and I will be more glad than you friend if that time comes to you!
See yah!
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
21 May 11
hello mtrguanlao,
I understand your feelings i had many experience in departure and arrival of a friends and loved one even I know they will come back I can't help not to be sad I am still become emotional.
In due time when your kids future are settle for sure he will not go to abroad for a work instead he will go to there with you for a vacation
Have a great day
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi bhabycatch!
He stays with us for two months for a vacation and goes back to work abroad for 6 months,it's been like this for 8 years but still I'm not used to it,still can't help crying when he leaves,sigh!
I've always been wanting to see the day that he will just stay with us here and work no more abroad but he said we still have to save money for our new house so I just have to accept it for our future,that's the only consolation that I've been thinking to comfort myself.
See yah!
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
21 May 11
It shows you are such a loving couple and that is encouragement to many of us in here. You can always keep yourself busy being in here and spending more time with baby. Before long your hubby will be back again.
Don't cry or be sad. Your baby is depending on your strength while his papa is away on work. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so your love will strengthen till he returns. Cheers, ok?
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi tiffnkeat!
That's what I've been doing and what I really have to do,you are very right,I really need to be strong for my kids. Don't want them to see me sad,I just have to comfort them,I am their strength now.
I will cheer up tiffnkeat,I just have to. Thanks tiffnkeat for all the things you've said.
See yah!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
21 May 11
What a shame your husband is away and you are feeling so sad! How long until he returns? Do you have Skype? It may be a good way to see his face and feel a little better. My sister used to be in a similar position because her partner used to be away for months at a time when they had a small baby who used to cry for her daddy. Keeping busy is a good idea although I know it’s hard. Keep thinking about the day he comes back and each day is a day closer. It will get a little easier in time. Hang in there…You still have us…
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi friend!
Happy to see you always in most of my discussions paula!
We were able to chat on fb this afternoon paula and am so glad he's fine! Skype and YM is not available in his hotel so we just chat on fb. His contract will end on November paula so we will see him on November and he will stay with us till December,yehey!
Yes,that's what I am always thinking of..his arrival,to lessen my sadness.
Happy I have someone to talk to here in mylot and you're one of them paula,thanks for the advice.
See yah friend!
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