Mom's Surgery Went Well But....

(For the most part, copy and paste) I just talked to mom and she's so depressed. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

Awww I know life can be rough Cats, but hang in there, and try to remember, it is always the darkest before the dawn. I don't know where you live, do you live near Joplin Mo? If so, keep an eye out, even though I am in Ohio, those storms continue to move east, we got hit hard last night and they are predicting more tonight. May you and your family stay safe, and I'll pray for your mom so she doesn't have to go out in that horrible weather...

No thank God but I live in North Carolina, just under the Virginia border and my parents are in Virginia, just above the North Carolina line. We're about a 30 minute drive apart. It's supposed to rain and thunder all week, off and on. Hopefully this nasty stuff will disapate before hitting anyone else. Joplin Mo is too much meaning, one time is too much. I feel SO sorry for those people! I know the feeling that they're going through since having a tornato hit us when we were in Texas and a near hit later on but went over us and over a large hill behind us and hit the town of Gerald or something like that. It happened on the 27th of May and killed 27 people. I'll never forget that. The whole town was flattened. Even the asphalt, bark off the trees and foundations were torn up. It was so unreal.

Hi Jo, no it's not fair, not at all. I've been told that we come into this world as babies needing care and most of us return to the baby like state needing care. Sad it is indeed. People who die before that happens to them are very lucky in my eyes. They don't have to go through the torment of getting old. Anyway, I just talked to mom and she's so depressed. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

I promise to keep you updated. She should be either going or at the doctors office now. I hope they can do something to help her. There has to be something they can do for her. Hugs to you too sweetie!

hI Cat, glad to have an update on your mom. Sorry it's not better news. Hope & pray by the time she has to go back things will be working. We don't understand why things happen like they do but u can't help but wonder. Let me know how your mom does. hugs.

Hi bunnybon, I promise to keep you updated on everything. Same goes for you, please keep me updated on your progress too. I hope and pray it's nothing but a cyst. Bless your heart! I'd be scared too if it were me going through this. You have us, your friends here on mylot to support you through. I won't forsake you. Now my update, I just talked to mom and she's so aggravated. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

No no no dear one! Your problem could be just as serious if not worse so don't feel pultry about anything! I pray that it's not as serious or worse but it could be. God I hope not!! And I'm glad you don't have any clots too! Wow! I know how scary that had to be! Damn sweetie.... whew. I'll be looking for your discussion..... Bless your heart!

i really feel a bit pultry complaining about my arm when your mom is in so much more pain and trouble. im so sorry girl. I so pray that your moms bladder works soon. maybe its hard to get herself to do because of the pain. it must be terible painful. i went to the ultrasound this morning. first thing she scared me by saying shes checking my neck vein for blood obstructions, like blood clot. yikes!! but lucky it wasnt that she said. so now im doing a discussion about it. thanks for prayers i know thats whats keeping me and your mom going.

Hi paula, I wish I had better news but I don't. I just talked to her and she's so depressed. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

Sadly I don't have an answer for that cats! I am so sorry your poor mother is going through this, no wonder she's depressed! Who wouldn't be under such circumstances? The only thing we can do at times like these is pray a lot and hang in there. Easier said than done, I know but these times are truly sent to test us. Take care, keep us posted on your mum's condition. I'm still praying....

It's not easy seeing our mothers go through what they do but we also know it's a fact of life especially when nearing the end. It just seems everything just falls apart either all at once or one at a time. Bless both of our mothers!

Hi stary, I've copied and am pasteing my response. I just talked to mom and she's so depressed. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

Tell them to ask their gyn doctor the next time they go in for a pap smear! Their doctor will tell them hard heads and maybe then they'll learn something and hopefully before it's too late. My mom was pregnant 7 times but only 3 of us lived which is a lot of her reason for her bladder problems. My aunt had 3 but she's highly obese which is her problem and of course between them both, they lifted heavy things through their younger lives but back then, they didn't know better. Sweetie, May God Bless and Care for YOU TOO!!

Oh I am so sorry. What a burden for her and worry for you. My Mom always told me not to lift very heavy things because it can cause the bladder to fall..that and having large, heavy babies. I have told many people the same and all of them laughed at me saying that was simply not true. I am glad you are being careful. You all are in my prayers. I wish I knew why things like that happened and why we have the tough challenges in life that we are dealt. It's easy to say 'for growth', but when in the midst of things, one wants to scream "enough growth!" God Bless and care for all of you.

Thank you stephcjh, she's still in need of your prayers.... The update on my mom.... I just talked to her and she's so depressed. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

Hi jerzgirl, my husband and I have asked the same thing but mom doesn't know if they can do that or not. I'm hoping she'll ask her doctor today when she has to go back again this afternoon. Here's the update, I just talked to her and she's so depressed. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

Thank you yoyo for your prayers! Unfortunetly, she still needs them. I just talked to mom and she's so upset. She went to the doctor this morning and they removed the catheder and still her bladder wouldn't let go. They sent her home and told her to drink all the liquid she can and maybe it'll MAKE her bladder work. Since she's been home, she's drank two cups of coffee, a half a glass of water and her nutritional drink, still, it won't work and she's miserable. She's to return at 4:30 and if she hadn't urinated by then, they're going to catherize her again and are talking about putting a bag on her side. She's not too happy about that. Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. Now I'm watching the weather outside my own house, it's getting dark and the winds are picking up and when I talked to mom the winds were really starting to pick up and the sky got real dark so we knew the storm was moving in but I sure hope it passes when she has to go back to her doctor because I don't want either her or dad driving in it. *sigh. Why is life so deg gone hard? I don't expect you to answer that but I did have to ask. grrrrr

Hi yoyo, you obviously know a bit about this subject, don't you? Do you work in the medical field or close to someone who does? Mom's sister had her bladder fixed or put back 17 times and it's fallen yet again and now has this device in her back that she's had for roughly 6 months and it's suppose to control her bladder so she won't leak or full out wet herself like she has been doing. She told my mom that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's like a pace maker, it has a battery and is programed. She has to go back and have it reprogramed in hopes that it'll work. Mom said she'd be damned if she'll go through that. She's rather have a bag on her side than to have to constantly have to be cut open to change the battery every so many years. You know, maybe it's a good thing I didn't have kids. I still wish I could have but maybe it's a good thing I don't because it's the main cause of why their bladders have fallen besides lifting heavy things. I try my best not to lift anything heavy so that I don't pull mine down and I do exercise that area to keep it up inside me but we can only do so much. I'm going to be starting a new discussion, an update on my mom which is a good one so be on the lookout. lol

Hi Jen, it all worked out for the better!! Yay!! I'll be starting a discussion in a few minutes on the update and it's a good one!