Should I go or not?
By CrimsonRain
@CrimsonRain (336)
United States
May 24, 2011 12:52am CST
My friend is inviting me to go clubbing this weekend, but I'm not a club person. I don't even drink alcohol. Honestly, I don't wanna go. But this friend is a very good friend of mine, and she's leaving the country soon. This might me the last time we could hang out together. But she's also inviting some other friends that I'm not so comfortable to party the night with. So the more that I don't want to go.
If you were me, would you go or not? What do you think? What would Jesus do?
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9 responses
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
24 May 11
Hello CrimsonRain,
If I were you, I would go. Nobody will force you to spend all night into that club if you don't feel confortable and you don't enjoy the company.
Just think positive: imagine you'll have a good time and maybe you will spend some lovable moments with your good friend. Try to ignore the other 'friends' that you don't like and concentrate on having fun. As you said, it might be the last time you can party with your good friend. Enjoy her company and forget about others. Good luck!
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@CrimsonRain (336)
• United States
24 May 11
One more thing, I have work in the early morning the next day. Do you think I still should go to that party?
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
24 May 11
Well, I understand that you really don't want to go there.
Nobody forces you to go; it is your decision, after all.
There is no impediment if you have to go to work early the next day after the party. You can use this as an excuse to leave the party earlier if you don't feel comfortable. But if you enjoy the company, you can stay late and still go to work early in the morning. You don't do this every day, so I'm sure you will be able to cope with the fatigue the day after the party.
@rhizziel2301 (169)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Since this is the last time you could hang out together if i were you i would go to clubbing... do it for her although your not comfortable with her other friends dont mind it just to think you would enjoy for the moment that she still there with you and im sure she will be happy when you come.
@CrimsonRain (336)
• United States
24 May 11
Let's say this may be not the last time. Will that make a difference?
@rhizziel2301 (169)
• Philippines
25 May 11
Hmmm ok you said she is your good friend why don't you try to join with them and to be close with her friends when you do this its consequences will be strong your friendship.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
25 May 11
I feel the same like you because I don't like going to the club, too. Is it possible for your friend to have a gathering in another place before she leaves the country? Such as you can invite her to have a meal together. It will be comfortable for you. But if she doesn't have the time, then perhaps it is better for you to go to the club anyway. After all, you will never know when will be the next time you will meet each other again.
I love China
@bdance22 (86)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Well if I were in your shoes then I'd go.
Show up for a while , enjoy her company. If you know it might be the last then that is what you should do. She'll remember you for it. We all have to make sacrifices and if this is the sacrifice you need to take in order to make your dear friend happy then do it.
You dont need to drink or talk to anyone for that matter. Just be civil and say NO when needed.
She'll thank you for coming and she'll miss you more when she leaves.
@CrimsonRain (336)
• United States
24 May 11
Well, I don't think that clubs are a good place to meet new friends at.
@Jesuriel (267)
• United States
24 May 11
Oh, this sounds like me. I've been put in this position many times. I bet since your friend is leaving the country you feel like you should go to make her feel good, but you don't realize that you're not making yourself feel good. I think you should talk to her and tell her how much you appreciate her for being such a good friend and tell her that you don't want to go to the club because you don't feel comfortable around those people and that you don't drink. If she's a really good friend she d=should understand. Good luck. :D
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 May 11
You should go if the experience is one that will satisfy you and make you happy. You should not go just to please someone else. if it is not what you want to do , then passing it up is not wrong. it is only wrong if it is a sacrifice to your own beliefs.
@original8 (107)
• Belgium
24 May 11
Just enjoy it
thats the best thing we can do in every moment just enjoy
@maximus1985 (55)
• Romania
24 May 11
If you say that you care a lot that your friend is leaving you should go. You can stay as long as you want, talk with who ever you want, drink what you want. But of course, the decision is all yours. Do what your heart says to you, and what you desire..