When again, you said I love you?
By indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
Indonesia
May 24, 2011 9:16am CST
I heard the song, sung by a singer. Song lyrics like this.
When again, you said I love you. I love you, who like the first.
The song, like voicing my heart. My husband never says I love you anymore. I really wanted, my husband said it again, though only once. First, my husband often told me. But now, it looks like I will not be heard again, from my husband's mouth.
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15 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 May 11
Hi indahfth
Though there is nothing I can offer to change your husbands ways, I can say to you that perhaps you say to him; honey I love you. He may or may not respond right. But then the next day, as he wakes up, goes to work, comes home from work and or as you both lay down for sleep, say honey I love you.
Perhaps if he hears you say it several times he may one day or several times say I love you too. My ex-husband was this way and although he is a total different story, he never use to outwardly say I love you unless he wanted something. Sad because I know you would like for him to say it out of the goodness of his heart.
It is okay for you to initiate because marriage is an entity for both. So do not be shy indahfth and say I love you occasionally and this may get him to freely do so.
Good luck my dear friend you know I think of you many times and am so wanting you to be very happy.
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@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
24 May 11
Hi Indah!.
Actually you made headache to reads it because I know nothing I can do to solve your problem. Actually I am stopping here just to have relax and say hi to my friend because real life made really busy.
I personally think you should talk about your relation ship with your husband. Talk with common sense and no anger, what you both want in your marriage. Is he remarried again?. I know you don't wanna divorce but he had to fair with you and not just think about his own happiness.
Good luck in every thing and i wish the best for you.
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
25 May 11
A lot of times in life, we get caught up with everything around us. To often we forget about the affections that we need from one another. Maybe all you and your husband need is a break away from everything so you can take that time to reconnect. I know recently I've been feeling this way because my husband has been working many hours. He says I love u, but we really haven't gotten to spend any time together, to get that connection that we need. Hope that helps and you and your husband can reconnect with one another, and share those feelings for each other again.
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@celticeagle (168263)
• Boise, Idaho
25 May 11
That is so sad. You are actually going to go the rest of your life without hearing your husband tell you he loves you. Do you think he really does or has he lost the feeling completely? Is it because of the jewelry issue? I think it is just very sad that you can't get back what you had before.
@celticeagle (168263)
• Boise, Idaho
25 May 11
Lovely. So he is allowed to see her in your country and you have to just set back and watch and let him?
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
12 Jul 11
It's your own husband.
besides that it is a way of fostering harmony of couples in their relationships.
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
24 May 11
hi, indah...
perhaps you can try on this way...
record down the song, then let him hear it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 May 11
It's so sweet to hear someone we love saying "i love you".
I am not a showy person,but i always say that word,and i love hearing that word either.
I wish one day,someone whispers in my ear "i love you"
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
I am sorry to hear that. There is nothing I can to about it. I too would wish my husband to say those words to me no matter how long we have been married. I am not married yet so I really can't tell how to have your husband be able to say those words again. have you tried saying I love you to him? Did he answer back? Maybe he only needs some pushing or have you say it first before he responds. Try talking to him as well. Maybe he needs a little cuddling and more sweetness in your relationship to bring back the magic you felt before.
@rainbowink (296)
• Philippines
25 May 11
Hello, good communication with your husband will bring you more years of happiness together including of course saying "I love you" to each other often or however/whenever you practice it.
There are guys who like to SHOW IT rather than SAY IT. Most guys are like that. Correct me if I'm wrong. They'd rather make you feel you are very well loved than just utter the words and don't really mean it at the time being.
In your case, tell him it would be much sweeter of him to say those three words to you. Tell him you love hearing his voice when he says those words. Tell him you feel special then. Tell him it won't make him any less of a husband if he tells you the truth - that he loves you very much.
When you start talking about it to him, it could also lead to both of you planning further with your family/relationship. Trust me, good communication with your partner could make you happier as a couple.
Good luck and hope you could update me on this matter. :)
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
11 Jun 11
maybe your husband didnt notice that he isnt saying those words to you anymore. we girls show feelings easier than guys. maybe he thinks that you know he loves you, so he doesnt feel the need to say it. anyway for you to hear these words you just have to say to him you love him^^ im sure that he will say that he loves you too. just tell him first^^ you are together so it doesnt matter if you are the first or if he is the first to say. isnt wrong if you say it first^^ just say and wait for his answer^^ im sure he will say he loves you too^^
@lonbautista (5)
• Canada
25 May 11
well you know my friend all of us dont have the rights to tell you what to do, well just give you some advice hope it will help you, dont ever lose hope or dont ever lose your love to your husband just keep on showing him that you love him and keep telling him that he is the most important person in your life, dont give up always love him....
@shirley84 (8)
•
25 May 11
treasure immediate,cherish beside the person.
I am a single,but I have a ambiguous boyfriend.In this relationshop,I am waitting for his "i love you",not again,but for the first time.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
25 May 11
I understand your longing. I have found it better to think about the things he does for me, and how he has been faithful all these years. I will I had saved the letters he wrote when he was deployed. It seems that for some people, writing the words is easier than saying them. Blame it on his heritage, or whatever, but don't dwell on it.