What if you found out your boyfriend is a gaaay?

Hi chiwasaki, I would say that your friend should forget her boyfriend because it can be a problem in future later on.Also this is not good to have in affair with one and getting love letters of another one.

I have thought of that scenario before when my boyfriend copies a gay action. If that happens to me, at first I would really laugh hard! Why? Because I'd ask myself how did I not know even if we were together for so long. I would also think I don't have luck with boyfriends since he's gonna be the third gay guy I fell in love with. But after that, I might talk to him and ask him if he loves me. But most probably I would break up with him so that he'll find his happiness. I know his happiness is not with me if that's the case so I will just accept and let go. If the guy comes back and realizes that even if he's gay he still is in love with me, I'll take him back.

I was married for 10 years and then found out my husband was gay. I was very angry with him, not because he is gay, but because he wasted 10 years of my life. We did divorce, but he stayed in the house and rented a room for awhile. We mutally decided he would find somewhere else to live because it was uncomfortable when either of us wanted to go on a date. I still believe him to be a good person and wish him a happy life, but there is no way I would have continued to spend any more of my life in what amounts to an abnormal relationship. By remaining friends but getting divorced, we both were given the opportunity to pursue the type of life we wanted. Your friend will one day regret the decision to stay with this man. She will resent him for not giving a normal relationship at some point in time. Is she prepared to remain celibate for the rest of her life, to give up any hope of romantic love? I would urge her to consider this very carefully. She can continue to love him as a friend and still move on with her life.

He wouldn't be my boyfriend any more. Friend maybe, boyfriend no.

It is better rather than finding out i am cheated with some other woman. Really. I would break up but nicely. And try to move on. we both might end up going after the same guy

I will break up with him not because he's gay, but because he does not live me. He loves his bestfriend! I couldn't stand being someone who loves another person.

I think it is no future to love with a gay. As he really loves man. He has a relationship with you because of the society pressure. So he doesn't really love you. It is suffering to love a person who doesn't love you, especially he is a gay and there is no way to change this fact. I know it can be sad and painful. But it is better than your friend will feel regretful one day. I love China

Hi Chiwasaki, I actually have a friend who is gay that dated a girl all through highschool. He dated her as a cover up because he feared what the other kids would say. After highschool, he finally came clean with her. At first it was very painful for her but over time they were able to salvage their friendship. I think I would be the same way. It would be a shock and painful but I would break up with him for sure. I would not want to be anyone's cover up. Also, I would want him to be happy and he just couldn't be if he were gay and with me and hiding who he really is. I would encourage him to be honest with himself.

Hi. chiwasaki. I would be upset, and I will accept my boyfriend of him being gay. I just will not accept him into my love life though. We can't be together because I believe in heterosexual relationships, only.

It's a big no no for me, there are very rare cases that gays and girls have harmonious relationship together. There will always be fighting and arguments over the gay's lover and the girl.

thats a tough situation... love is a two way process if your friend , the girl, is willing to take the risk that go ahead an let her. but in the relationship she might find less love coming from the guy. One question though is , have they talked about it. Communication is the key ...just my two cents

Honestly, I really don't know. Same story follows. My husband's friend is married for more than two years. Same as your friend, she found out that her husband is a gay. She cried so much and did something stupid just to forget the man. However, since they are married it is really hard to break up specially in our country that doesn't have divorce.

It would hurt me especially if I actually had intense feelings for him, but then I wouldn't be mad anymore or hurt because he is who he is and there's nothing that I can do about it except be his friend and accept him the way he is.

Wow that's no fun...I think they both need to pursue what they really want and if possible just stay friends.

Whew! that was tough. I would talk to my boyfriend first and then ask him how, when and why it happened. Then I will also ask him of his plans. If it doesn't include me then I have to accept it. I will be hurt but life must go on.

I guess it will depends on both our feelings. If the feeling is still mutual, I will accept him as he is. But if he loves somebody else (whether it was due to his identity crisis, or he just doesn't love me), I just have to set him free. I don't think I will take his homosexuality against him. It will just be another love lost for me.

I think it is better for the lady to discuss with her gay boyfriend. Tell her how she feel and find out if he will be ready to quit that kind of lifestyle. If he promise to change the lady should give him some time and watch out for those habits. If he changes you can remain in the relationship but if he continue she should quit the relationship.