Which comes first TRUST or LOVE?

Hi nevasima. We agree on this. For me, trust comes first and then love. It is hard to love without trust. In fact, it is easier to keep a relationship with much trust and less love rather than a relationship with much love but less trust.

Hi cream97! You have a point. It is easy to trust someone when we love him or her.

Hi roopjyoti! Most relationship starts in attraction. It's hard to love someone you are not attracted to in the first place. I agree with you, some pretend to be they are not to make themselves more attractive. Thus,we should be more prudent with this kind of people.

Thank you for your response BannedHelsing! I pretty much respect your opinion on this matter. We have different views though. I do notice that some relationship start with love without trust to one another. I observed that this kind of relationship usually fails. The reason is simple. Extreme jealousy is never fun. Possessiveness is distracting for a relationship to grow.

You have a good point. Sometimes it is easier to nurture trust if you are attracted to the person. Sometimes too we let love flow, and let time and experience test the trust. My friend once told me that if you like or love the person you tend to be tolerant to his or her flaws, this includes trusting him or her, but if it is the other way around, that is, you don't like him or her, you become inconsiderate to his or her imperfections. Thus, for some love comes first and then trust will follow through passage of time. But, I think this kind of relationship is volatile. When a relationship is not founded with trust, most likely, it is characterized by excessive jealousy and possessiveness.

Hi dxn001!I agree with you. Trust is the very foundation of every relationship. Ideally,every relationship should start by nurturing trust to each other, and then love will naturally follow. However, most often, this is not what is happening to many couples nowadays. Many jumped into relationship but they don't trust their partners. Some of them resort in "testing" the loyalty of their partner by creating silly scenarios. For example, making a big issue on flimsy thing so as to "measure" the degree of love that his or her partner has. I read one discussion here in mylot that a girl deliberately used another cellular number and used it to text her boyfriend pretending that she is another girl who wants to be his textmate. When her boyfriend declined the offer, she was happy and concluded that she can trust her boyfriend. Do we have to resort to this things, before we can trust a person?