I and my Father

I am not close to my father either. basically because I have 6 other siblings and because I am a girl. Girls most often are not close to their fathers but rather more closer to their mothers. I do love my father but I am just not close to him. We also rarely talk even if I am still living with him. I am not too expressive with my love to him but somehow I am trying to help him especially now that his illness is getting worst. I don't want to lose my father without him knowing how much I care and love him so it's not yet too late for you to show your love to your father as well.

your story is no difference with my story..=) though im not engaged yet.. hehehe my father is a man with a few words... he often misunderstood my and my decisions... hes the only person that could hurt me terribly not in physical way but verbally... he doesnt say much but when he say something its final.. i would provoke him but he will only stare at me an im like a child rushing to my room then just cry.. and i would think i hate him... i wouldnt like to talk to him.. but with just a tap on my shoulder i know im loved... i may provoke my father but it doesnt mean i love him less... happy fathers day to ur dad... =)

Even though you and your father had so many controversial issues, he is still your father. Without him, you will not be here on this earth. Despite of his imperfection, you still deeply love your father. If I were you, say that you really love him especially if you still have time to say that. We do not know when our parents will die, only GOD knows. So when we still have the opportunity, we should let them feel how important they are to us. Personally, I am not really close with my father. Sometimes, he gets angry from time to time even it is a small issue only. Despite of it, I really love my father and I cannot replace him for any thing on this earth. I am happy that you have already felt the feeling of love for your father. I hope everything would go well at your end. Try vising him frequently and let him feel how deeply you love him. Happy mylotting!

I was always closer to my father. My mother and I never got along too well, till lately. It may seem like he is judging you, but he is probably just trying to do things that he thinks are in your best interests. At least you realized how you felt about him before it is too late. Tell him how you feel while you still can!

Sometimes, we argue with our fathers or even with our mothers. That's because fathers like to make us feel that he is still the head of the family. It's up to us of whether to be persuaded with their suggestion or not. But that was when our fathers were younger. But didn't you notice that now that they became older, they mellowed. And so with our confrontational side towards them. We now, wished just as you wished, to be always with them as much as possible. We now fear losing them eventually, so we make up to them by being submissive now.

hello, You know you are really lucky to have a father because I never experience to have one. I dont even know how a father take his children but in your sound I feel really pity to your father because in my opinion you dont understand him maybe you will realize it soon if you already have childrens. Dont wait until its too late to say how important he was to you. Both of you are ashame of one another but I think you must be the first to say to him how you really care about him. And now it is too late to spend more time with him. good luck

tkonlinevn, I am glad that you've managed to come around especially at this time when your aged father is needing all the care and attention he can get. Many a times, I've seen aged parents being neglected and even worse abandoned by their children whom they had painstakingly brought them up. Call me old school, but that's not what filial piety is about. I hear some of the most ridiculous reasons of leaving their parents in the lurch - a simple generation gap or simply cannot get along. I don't know but I suppose (thinking) their parents certainly did not give up on them when they had to eat less a meal, forgo a favorite furniture or wear to bring them up. Yet, these grown critters have the nerve to leave their aged parents in the lurch is just absolutely disgusting. Anyway, I hope you need to realize that none of us have more time in a day and we will just have to make do with the 24 hours that we have in a day. So, make the time to spend it with your dad than to regret some time later.

I'm the opposite. I've always loved my father and I'm closer to him than to my mom. But, like you, I notice now that he's grown much older than the last time I've lived with them. I wish I could always stay with them but, I live in a different city now. It's good that you realize it before it's too late. At least, there is still time for you to visit him.

Please do as what you feel because remember, regret is always in the end and you don't want to regret not knowing him more and even spending time with him more before he passed away. We all grow older and whatever our differences with our family were in the past, those should be resolved before it's too late. The clock is ticking and we just don't know when our time would be up in this world.

hi friend, After I read your discustion, I think we have same problem. I don't like too with my father. because he is not responsible with his family. and he always make my mother to be sad. I seldom talk with him. because I hate her. till now, I am still angry and dissapointed for what he do to my mother.