Irritated why bf/gf calls too many times a day

I understand what you mean, I hate it when my boyfriend is constantly calling me too many times a day. It makes me want to throw my cellphone against the wall because maybe then I wouldn't have to hear that stupid ring tone all day. I just want to tell him that I need some space, stop calling me all day.

dream--ozn did it not occur to you that with all these frequent calls from him he is starting to be a controller. I disagree with the others that its just that he loves you so as if he does then why cannot he trust you will be just as true to him as he is to you . I would work out some schedule and cut down on the calls, and too take it from me' if his boss thinks you are calling too much to talk to the b,f. your bf might just lose his job too. I am amazed that young people now a days do so many things at work that have nothing to do with what they are hired for, where I worked you were not allowed to have a lot of personal'calls as they felt you were hired to do a job not talk to the girl friend or boy friend. I never called my husband at work as they did not like for him to take frequent calls.We had time for each other when he got home from work. Personally I would ask him if he is checking up on you with all those frequent calls as if he is you do have a bigger problem than just irritation.without trust your relationship will crumble.

I have never been in this type of situstion, but habitds, once established, are hard to break. Perhaps you guys have to come up with a new routine that is good for you both. trust me, the alternative, when there is no attention is paid at all is far tougher than what you are going through right now

Hi. dream_ozn. I think that your boyfriend really wants to be around you. Maybe you should kindly let him know when it is okay to call you and when it is not okay. He may just miss you and you should tell him that you can't always talk too long when he calls you. I really think that he misses you so much too.

I think that after you have been with someone for so long the phone calls kind of get boring. Me and my boyfriend used to talk a lot on the phone when we first got together. And now since we have been living together its different. I dont have to talk to him all day. Even when he goes to work he will call me on his break and I dont want to talk, he gets kind of mad because he really wants to talk but im like the same thing you can talk to me about over the phone you can tell me when you get home. I feel like we talk so much to each other at the house that there nothing to say over the phone. I mean except for calling to say hey babe I made it to work, or Hey do you want something from the mcdonalds drive thru?

It's quite normal at the start of a relationship, as you want to be with that person 24/7. 5 years is a long time and it shows he still feels as strongly about you as he did at the beginning. It's when he stops calling or you can't get in touch with him you should start worrying. However, I think I would get sick of someone constantly calling me with nothing to say, so tell him to call just once or twice a day and make it more meaningful. Saying "I love you" a hundred times a day loses its appeal after a while.

Some people believe that checking in that often during the day is a control issue and is abusive behavior, not affection. I tend to agree.

You must be lucky having a guy like that. See the effort of calling you lots of times just to know how you do, or where you are. It's like he just can't stop thinking about you. :) I wished all the guys were like yours :(

Personally I do not like when someone calls me that much in a day. I feel like I am being checked up on. I also do not call someone that much in a day because I feel like I am checking up on that person. I think the less often we talk throughout the day, the more we will have to talk about and the more excited I will be to talk to that person when we do talk.

Hello dream_ozn, Maybe it's best not to talked when there's nothing to tell lately but the conversation should be cherished. I think you both should compromise your time and tell which can be considered cherishable thoughts. remember to avoid showing negative words and hate simply because you have become irritating. Love him the way you wanted to, but don't show honesty that can make him feel bad and sad. have a nice day

Well, maybe he missed you so much, and he wants to hear your voice so badly. Let him satisfied, he probably love you that much. Well, if at work, tell him your regular schedule, and let him know that it is not appropriate to call so frequent at work. He can call during your break time to bother you, but not too long though. Hope your guys understand each other.

Long time ago, I too had a bf who calls on me every minute he got the chance. I got irritated and asked him not to do it too often. We talked and we agreed that we will call only during and after office hours. We are not together anymore. But I still remember those times. I reminisce and told myself that i should have valued those times when he called or sent me SMS. Because it proves that he does care for me and misses me. I suggest that when you feel irritated, just think positively. Maybe he misses you so much.

Hi dream_ozn..as a matter of fact we all land up in situations like this..We want to be with the person we like so much but due to problems in life and obsticles we are restricted and become uphappy..it also leads to us having shorter conversations and unpleasent ones as well..but at the end of all this we must realise that the other person has removed soem precious time for us even though at our end it may not be the right time...appreciation is very important..never let go of things that are precious to us cause when we lose them, we then realise their value..good luck in life and always think POSITIVE.....keep smiling...

Yes i am also in this situation when i was in relationship with my boyfriend, he is now my husband. Yes it is sometimes irritating when we are busy and someone call upon us regularly. Buy i have a solution for that which i applied when i was in relationship, we decided to make only 3 calls a day. And the thinks which we not able to tell because or work, are told at night. We also fix the time of talk in night also. This schedule irritate no one.

It means your bf really loves you even knowing your parents against in your relationship he wants to prove you he still there with you and he wont changed with you.... my bf always calling at me in the morning before he going to work and at night before he going to sleep but when i was busy i was texting him to let him know when i'm free... i would advice you when your busy just text your bf when you are free to talk with him... :)