Hubby always says, ‘Forgive and Forget’

dear maa, I've been to forgiving and giving chance to someone who did commit sin and cheated me for many years. And yes,forgiving and forgetting is much better than keeping hatred in our hearts. It's not easy to forgive someone who gave us pain,insults or done us wrong without us harming them- by forgiving them,who knows they will realized their mistakes. If forgiving them won't make any difference and still they keep doing bad things or keep committing same mistakes to us or to other people-then,it's not our fault anymore. I don't keep hatred in my heart,but it's hard to trust someone who gave us so much pain -i can forgive and forget,but not to fully trust again that person-(not unless he/she has proven his/her sincerity) My mentor taught me that- If i want GOD to forgive me- i should/must forgive those who offended/sinned and asks forgiveness-that way,i will also be forgiven when i asks GOD to forgive me (fair enough) How could we asks forgiveness to our Lord-when we don't know to forgive others. Have a great day always maa and hugs to you,dada and shubee

hello madam kalyani, Your hubby is right but sometimes forgiving someone over and over again is not good it comes to the point that they can be abuser. Forgetting what happened in the past makes our life better Everything that is too much is not good. happy mylotting

I do differ with professor on this. It is not always right. People get habituated to doing wrong and are surprised when there is opposition to it. Anything that hurts must be indicated. Those telly serial type of women are rubbish according to me. In fact, when we allow a person to get away with their wrong, we are in fact becoming responsible for some pain that another person suffers. So voicing the fact that it is hurting or it has hurt is the right way. Quite often people do not realize they are hurting. Once they realize, forgive and forget is the best policy. But if they continue being mean after that, then giving a lesson or two is not such a bad idea.

it's a very good thing to forgive and forget but do you think it is so easy to forget. when somebody harms you how can you forget. I agree that it is easy for small small things but if somebody really hurts you, someone hurts your dignity, disgrace you or any other type of bad thing then how can you forget it. If someone do this i think he is really great.

hi, i will agree,forgive and forget,is the most important thing for a human to move on and get over,so once we forgive that person we also automatically forget him/her gradually.

I agree with that.I live by that too. I have this saying that I tell myself when I start letting something bother. Me being upset does it change what I'm upset about. If it doesn't why bother myself with it all it does is cause me to get sick. Being sad isn't good for your health or being mad at someone.If someone does something bad to me I don't stay mad at them but try to not let them hurt me again.I try to learn from my mistakes of trusting people and letting them hurt me. If they hurt me before I try my best to not let it happen again.

It is a good idea to turn loose of bad feelings. They do only hurt the person who harbors them. It may be hard to do it, but it is healthier for us to forgive and forget. By carrying a grudge we give the other person power over us.

Hi kalyaniji, Personally I feel that how much we can forget depends on how much an incident has hurt us or left a negative impact. There are certain incidents in my life which still make me feel very angry and I don't think that I would ever forget it. What exactly does forgive mean? Does it mean that inspite of not being able to forget you overlook all that he/she has done to you and put up a cheerful front for the person and talk to him/her as if nothing happened? If that is so, I can never do it...But,time has a way of lessening the impact and we do come to terms with our own bitter feelings and move on...

For me good for you Jehovah God know it all after all what you are now the feelings keep up the good work.

It is ok to forgive but to forget is hard especially it deal with human being, if your are scale by hot water, your can forgive the kettle, but for sure your cannot forget the experience, worst with human, especially if that human still appears and function around your and by common sense if possible your will avoid that human and not want to receive second dose of hurt.BEtter to remember who hurt your without ill fate but with caution.

I totally agree with you too Kalyni. Sometimes people do things that is gross to us. We do not forgive. Thus, everyday of our life we are bothered by what was done to us. the anger keeps on getting bigger also. But once we forgive, that burden suddenly goes away. It's as if a big block was lifted from us. Though, forgetting is not that easy. The tendency is for it to keep coming back and the pain is once again opened. What we should do, is to totally avoid the things that reminds us of the wrong and for the person to truly show that he/she is sorry. Only then, can we forgive and forget.

Yes, that would be the best way to live a very peaceful life. BUT, unfortunately for me, I have hardships on forgiving people who really hurt me too many times, I become too cautious and would never again give back the same trust to the same person once it is broken, and I seldom forget even when I've already forgiven the actions, though some incidents I recall with no ill feelings but some would still hurt me...

It is true forgive and forget is a very good policy. In practice however we do not forget easily. When the comments are from our close ones we take a lot of time to forget. If we forgive we will have a lot of friends. But even in forums like this sometime some of us like some people and not everybody. It is quite natural. But awareness that we should forgive and forget is a noble one. have a good day.

I use to hold grudges against those that angered me because I thought it would hurt them by me not speaking to them but really, im the only one who was hurt by holding on to something that made no sense. All it does is create stress on the brain and on the body. However, I have grown up and I look at things differently. I deal with situations in an adult manner. I do what's easier and healthier for me...I let go and let God. I give it to him and let him deal with it, so YES I forgive and forget. There's no real reason to hold on to it. It took me years to understand and realize that and since I have, I have no weight on my heart for anything. I definitely agree to forgive, forget and march, march, march on

yes mam u are speaking true...ife is very short and just waste our most of our precious tym in showing anger towards other .which in leaves impact on whole of our lyf....but u r saying very true...so i wish i will develop these to qualities in maself very soon