A Liar Maid!

Did you ask her why she lied in the first place? Perhaps she just wanted to impress you. Sadly, she didn't think of the complications it might arrive because it was your cousin who recommended her. Further, I think it's a good move that you don't tolerate liars in your home because once a liar that might lead to more lying and even stealing in the end. However, her going home would have been more justified if you stressed in the first place (the first time you talked) that you didn't like liars and don't tolerate them - perhaps that was a warning for her before she opened her mouth. Anyhow, what's done is done and perhaps next time you can give the ground rules first so as to justify further actions next time.

Maybe she just want to win your trust thus she invented stories. Nowadays, its really hard to trust people coz usually people whom your really trust will just fail you when things become worst. Better have a background check first before you hire another made so you will feel secure and protect your family from people with evil motives for your family. Good luck.

If she lied from the start,there is always a possibility that she can lie again and make stories. It's hard to trust someone esp with someone who don't know much. I might do the same thing if it happens to me,and good thing you were able to know her that early. happy weekend ahead

She could make a good script writer don't you think? Kidding aside, well yeah, it's true that it's hard to trust someone whom you've discovered to be a liar and a good hypocrite, inventor of stories. It's good though that you figured it out early on, and sent her home. I hope you'd find an honest one soon. Though it's also very challenging nowadays to find someone whom you can really trust and rely on as a companion and helper in your household. Make a good choice next time. I'm sure though your cousin would help you find another one soon. God bless. chuyins

hello dorisday, Yes now a days it's not easy to trust someone even your relative knows them Some maid lied because they want to gain their boss sympathy It's scary now a days as I heard about the maid used by a syndicate to poison the whole family and after that they are going to rob the house happy mylotting

... I have same experience too! Usually maids do that to impress you and to tell you that they are something. I don't know why but I think, maybe, it is their way of getting your trust... So, all of you out there, you need to be careful when you want to hire someone to be your maid.

Hi dorisday1971, it's really hard to get a good maid to help us doing housework. Therefore my husband doesn't agree to get one since years ago. There are some cases happened here doing awful things that really dreadful, like abused toddler or elderly, ran away with valuable jewelry, commit adultery with the host, etc You are wise to send the maid that is a awful liar home immediately before any undesirable incident happens. Hopefully you will get another trusted maid very soon. Happy posting

i think you made the right decision to fire your maid right away. trust is very important and so hard to earn that simply telling lies straight to you like that is inexcusable. this will certainly pose problems to you in the future if you had not fired your maid right away. hopefully, she learns her lesson but i doubt if that will be the case. anyway, good help is hard to find these days. hope you get a replacement soon, someone that you can actually trust and won't lie to you. cheers!!!

Hi Dorisday, I've too many of this kind of maid in fact I lost count. Like you, I don't tolerate such behavior and once I discover they are liars, I immediately replace them. True, househelps are hard to come by these days, I mean the ones you can really trust, but how can you trust a liar in the first place? I personally think you did the right thing in sending her home.

It's hard to find good help these days, and when a household maid lies to you you'd naturally think that she's not trustworthy at all. Why would a person lie to you in the first place? Whatever the reason, she did lie and it's hard to tell whatever she may be coming up next to manipulate you. I would never put the safety of my family and my home in the hands of a liar like her so it's only right that you sent her home immediately.

Hi! I think you did a right things to send off the new maid. If someone is dishonest, and she need to work in your house, there she will be bringing a lot of trouble later on. I have heard many cases where they have such a dishonest maid where they ran away with their belonging like money and jewelry when the owner went to work. When ever we choose a maid, we should really be careful and try to talk to her as much as possible to test her if she is a honest person, or else, you are better to change it to someone else that make you feel better. At least you should check the background of her before bring her home.

In my opinion, you could have told the maid yourself about you discovering that what she told you, were lies. That way, she will realize that you don't like a liar. Yes, it's just right that you let her go. With her lies, she could also create lies that could hide her misdoing at the house in the future.

Hi there! Oh, no. That's awful! You really can't trust people these days. I know of some people who were scammed by their helpers. They were instantly reeled in by their sob stories, so they were scammed easily. I suggest that before hiring someone else, hire from referrals from people you trust, or do background checks on them. It's better to be safe than sorry.

It's good that you made her leave even before she ruined your life. Trust, honesty and integrity today are a scarce commodity. You should look at this as a lesson in your life in case you'll be needing the service again of another maid. Before choosing a maid, make sure that you've set rigid and detailed rules that you and your maid must follow. One of this is avoiding chit chat while at work and becoming too familiarized with one another. It's better also that make rules that no talks, specially personal ones, if not asked. Choose household maids who can present basic requirements such as clearances/certificates that will ascertain a person's true identity, real address, and previous jobs. Although friends would recommend, do not decide on mere recommendations. Setup a personal interview and don't forget to ask the following: * Are you honest and trustworthy? Do you know the differences between the two? * If I caught you being dishonest and untrustworthy, that would be a ground for firing you, is that OK with you? * What are the things or situations that would motivate you? * Are there things that I need to know immediately that is related to your work before I will hire you? What are those? * I tend to be irritable on reasons such as "I thought...", "I don't know, that's why...", and other shallow and baseless alibis, are you OK with that? It is OK also to test first the maid for few days in order for you to know her real capacity and the quality of work she can perform before hiring her permanently. During this time, test her honesty and trustworthiness. There are simple and tricky activities that could test your maid's honesty. A good example is to ask her to shop for some item, give her money that is inside an envelope, tell her an amount that is not equal in what's inside the envelope. I hope you find a gist of help/tip on what I've shared.

You are right you cannot trust someone who lies. But you must be strong and make sure she knows the reason she was let go so that she doesn't ruin her future by doing this with her next employeer.

Reading your post made me miss our last house-help who stayed with us for 8 months. She was no liar like the one you had. I guess you made the right move to send her home right away. She could have invented more stories and things could become complicated. It's really hard to get someone to work as a household help these days. You cannot just trust your lives to a stranger. The past 4 helpers I had were all recommended by my mom and I trusted her instincts when it comes to hiring house-helps. Too bad they were all too young and had to follow their other dreams. This time I don't feel like getting another house-help anymore. My son is already 18-months old and I have figured how we can keep things going inside the house without anyone assisting us. But I know in a few months I would need to find a new one so I can get myself a job again.

As of to say, anyone who lies to us,we cant digest first, and second we cant trust them anymore , third we ignores them and third we just neglect them.

Well that is sad to hear, and thankfully you found out only five days later. Last thing you needed was to bond and care for her several months down the road to then find out even more malicious behavior and or conduct. Hope you can find a trustworthy one soon.

You have done the right thing. I would have done same like you firing her from job. Its really tough to trust someone who lie once. In this case its a maid who lie. Its very risky to keep such person as a home maid.

i think she just want your attention. Perhaps she want you to treat her nicely.