honesty is the best policy

I'm sorry you have this pain. It's really a tough challenge. I guess you need to decide is the relationship worth working to keep. In my opinion once children are involved one has to do everything possible to stay together. I don't know your circumstances but I feel for you. Betrayal is never easy to accept but for your own sake you will have to find a way to deal with it and get past it. When I have been disappointed in others I always remind myself I am not perfect and the best for me would be to forgive.

Just take one day at a time. Im sure he has lost almost all of your trust and you're so disgusted with him you don't know how to respond or even look at him. As far as him lying for so long, it could've been outta fear. Fear from him losing you because of what happened. Sometimes when a person fears the worse, they wont say anything about the situation so instead they feel its easier to hold on to that secret. Don't lose hope in him, if you guys are truly in love and he is what you want, don't let that tear you apart. Seek counseling if he doesn't want to talk to you about it. Don't give up on love if its true

You are a stronger woman than me--that kind of betrayal is something know I'd have a real hard time forgiving. How did you find out about this? Were the friends who benefitted from your loss involved?

I'm really sorry to hear about the problems that you've been having with your husband. It's really unfortunate that you find yourself in this situation. I do think that he should have been more honest and more opened with you. You should really sit down and talk to him. So that you can try and figure out what went wrong. If that doesn't work, then try and figure out a way that could help solve this problem.

I am really sorry to hear that, but people are so good hiding things from other people.Perhaps your husband did not want to worry you, or perhaps he was embarrassed about what had happened to all of the money that was both of yours.You never know things may get better, good luck for the future.

Hi nj - Marriage is the relation which more or less too much depends on the honesty & commitment towards the relation. People do fail in marriage because they loose faith of their partner most of the time when marriage gets fail. You need to sit together & discuss. You need to take on life again do promise with each others not for braking it. I know due to your past you may not be able to believe your hubby but need to give him one more chance because after all this is life.

Ahh.....not a very good thing to do especially as he is your husband....you should not hide anything once you have commited yourself to each other....may be there could be a reason why he did so....so you could find out from him and they the true story may come out.....but dont make a hasty decision and later cry over the same....take your time analyse everthing and then see what made him do so.....

its sad to hear that your husband cheated and lied you but its now a common thing don't you think so ,in today's world i think 99percent of the people lie but i am upset that your husband lied you and cheated you.

That is sad. But did you ask him why he do that? Is there any reason for all of that? There must be a better reason for all of this. Try to solve the problem. Good luck with that.

Im sad for what happened. I believe that is a part of a married life. You should have to be strong not only for you but for your kids as well.