My 3 1/2 year old is being bullied by her classmates! What do I do?

Hi Vijay its very sad to hear that 3 1/2 year child can be bullied. I must say you should say you should do something you complain this to the school authorities because once this thing continues your daughter will be target by every one in the class.Secondly make your daughter more clever or more stronger tell her to complain to the class teacher whenever someone do mischief with her also develop some capabilities in her to fight back with those children. Tell your daughter to always tell you something bad happens with her or make a habit to ask her about daily experiences. Also i would suggest you to meet class teacher of your child & take address of these children & talk to their parents regarding this. Mine children are 3 years old & they are about to go to school hope same thing wont happen to me because i have twin children to take care of each other thanks to GOD.

This is awful. You must approach the school and inform them about it and ask them to try and solve the problem. Bullying is often what causes kids to lose self esteem in the future. Ask the school for help and nip it in the bud.

Thats terrible, if you allow this she will be bullied all through her life, do go and speak to her teachers, and if they do not co-operate change schools. You can sit in the school too, In India we do to check on our kids so that they are not bullied or cry too much in the initial years. Do intervene as soon as possible and as effectively as possible.

Hi Devijay, That is pretty young for kids to be bullying and singling out one kid to pick on. At that age, the teacher should be present at all times. I have to wonder how the kids are getting away with all this and why the teacher is not stepping in to do something about it and stop it. Your poor little girl is going to hate school before she is in first grade if this keeps up. If these kids are already bullying now at this young age, can you even imagine how bad it will be in another few years? I'd be talking to the teacher right away and possibly even the principle. Someone should be teaching these kids about how to treat others.

Oh how sad devijay Why would 3 year olds behave this way. Wow this has to be very difficult for your daughter to deal with as she is at such an impressionable age and if it continues it will affect later with other children. Please speak to the teachers and if they do not put an end to it, then you will have to speak to the principal as well and hold a conference, anything to try and stop it now at such a young age as it will not get any better as bullies are so terrible. Do assure your daughter you will take care of it and also she has not done anything wrong and explain that some children's behavior is bad and she has not done anything to deserve it. I hope it stops soon as she is such a sweet child as all of them are and should not have to endure this type of behavior.

I've always told my kids to tell me ANYTHING that goes on that they're not comfortable with. Maybe your baby girl didn't say anything because she didn't want to feel she was disappointing you. I know it sounds weird but kids think differently. I would first have her point the kids out and explain to her she doesn't have to be afraid because you're by her side. Then I would address the teacher about the issue and demand that the parents of those bullying kids are contacted for a group meeting. Usually when kids bully, its because that child intimidates them and are smarter than them. My daughter went thru the same thing when she was in fourth grade. She was being harrassed by a sixth grader because my daughter couldn't tutor her. I went up to the school and dealt with the little girl myself and never had problems since. I only approached the girl because she was old enough to speak for herself and give me a logical answer as to why she was messing with my baby. Of course she denied it but my baby never had any more problems.

Wow!! Personally sonething seems amiss here. Where are the teachers, and such of this that would permit something like this to happen and never try and do anything about this, and what about these kids parents? Come on allowing something like this to continue to happen at such a young age could lead to something more in the future. If it was me, I would be wanting to find out who these kids are, and if your child has to continue to be around them, make your thoughts known and see if their is something that can be done to change things.

You must report the incident. The 3.5 year old girl may have a wrong connotation about schooling that may affect her. She might think, "School is a place wherein there are someone who will bully you", so she would not want to go to school anymore.

Firstly it is the worst thing that you can do to your daughter (to send her earlier that when it should be - to school) About a solution: Speak to the concerned teacher/teachers about the issue If that doesn't work, inform this to the school management.. Besides this, you should try n talk to the culprits' parents... and, give your daughter confidence to respond... If nothing works, shift your daughter to some other institution, nothing is bigger than your daughters mindset and safety... Another thing you can do is to let her study with someone she already knows (neighbor, relative or family friend's child) having a friend @ school will help her combat any mental difficulties. I too was kind of a sensitive character at low grades, similar reasons forced my parents to talk with the institution managements and shift me to another institution....

Besides following what other mylotters advices, I think you should keep a close watch on the situation. If your daughter shows any signs of unhappiness because of school, you should act upon it as fast as possible. I think at home you have to be extra understanding to her and try to lift her confidence. In everything she does like if she draws pictures, compliment on them and spend more time with her. Telling her all her good qualities all the time. I saw a documentary on bullying and the bully picks out who he/she thinks that he/she can bully. By the way the person walks is how they pick out their 'prey'. Most people who do not show confidence are the ones who walks with a slight slump. When your daughter shows signs of confidence, teach her to stand up to her bullies. Never assume that your children do not understand or are too young to understand. We should always try to teach them life skills as soon as possible. Its just to prepare them because parents do not live forever.

Hello Devi. I know is late but I would like to know how is your daughter doing right now, she is so young and don't desire that. I hope the new teacher had solve the situation and those children with problem had being treated to stop the bullying. The best thing to do in those cases is talk with the teachers and the kids about what is the correct behavior. And always tell your daughter how important,smart,and special is her. And never allowed anybody to talk bad to her.