Tell me what you think, is my best friend jealous of me obtaining my education?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
June 4, 2011 2:54pm CST
Last year, I mentioned to my best friend that I planned to enroll in an online class. When I told her that I was planning to do this she started being so skeptical about my decision. She told me that I should be careful about enrolling in online classes. She asked me if it was an accredited college and I told her that it was. I told her that I did my homework on this online college that I was planning to take online classes. I respect her advice and I appreciate that she does not want me to fall into a trap of any kind. But, I am really wondering if I should take heed to her advice. I have discovered that she has attended Grand Canyon University and this college is located in Phoenix, Arizona. My best friend lives in the same town that I live in too. So, I know for a fact that she did not travel all of way to Phoenix, Arizona to attend this college/university. She more than likely took online classes at home since she has a computer anyway. So, when I told her about me studying online she had such doubt and skepticism about me taking online classes. But yet, she is now or has taken online classes when she acted like online classes was not such a good idea for me. So why does she think that it is for her? I really started to evaluate if she was really my best friend because I have always loved and cared for her like she was. She was the one that let me borrow her car to try for my road test at the DMV in 2009. She is my best friend since high school of 1997 and I really wonder if she is really my true friend. I mean she is a great person. She quotes many biblical scriptures and she quotes many inspirational sayings on Facebook. I just wonder if my friend is really my true friend that I find her to be. Because last time that I have checked, a true friend will not try to knock down something positive that I want to do with my life. She condoned in me taking online classes, but yet, she is now taking online classes herself. It makes me really wonder if she is really for me or not.
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8 responses
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
4 Jun 11
That sounds very similar to my so called best friend. Its like everytime I say im gonna do something positive, she always have a negative feedback as if she don't wanna see me happy or do better(than her). I can't tell you to distance her as a friend but just watch what you say to her. That's how I had to do my friend. Its no coincidence that everytime I have something good to say or a good idea, that she has something negative to say or respond nonchalantly. I keep all the good stuff to myself and leave her wondering about my next move. And when I finally do succeed at what im doing she's gonna be looking stupid like why didn't I tell her. Bottom line just be cautious and limit what you tell her
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
4 Jun 11
Hi. JJohnson. You know you are so right on your post. I am doing this to her now. I don't even talk to her like I used to. And if I do talk to her, she will ask me questions like as if I am still going through my problems that I used to go through too. But every time that I talk to her, I always have good things to say about me and my family. I guess after hearing about all of my problems before, she probably figured that I would still be in the same bind that I was in the past. Well, people change and situation changes, I thought that she was smart enough to realize this. I have limited how much I share with her. I plan to keep it that way too. If I ever leave her with anything, it would be her feeling clueless as to what positiveness that I will be achieving next. She won't know anything negative about what is going on in my life anymore.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
5 Jun 11
That is the best that you can do...leave her clueless. I go thru the same exact thing with a so called friend of mine. Like she ask how me and my man are doing, are we happy, how'd you meet him, where does he live, can I see a picture of him? And im like what the heck...? I answer her questions but I make sure to stress the fact that we are happy(which we really are) and leave it at that. I tell her little bits and pieces of stuff, not all of it is true, just to see how she'd respond to it. And as always its either a nonchalant answer or a simple "oh ok". Which means "oh dang" in negative terms. I don't confide in her like I use to when we first became friends. I've seen and learned alot about her over the years so I keep my good words to myself. She probably took the picture I showed her of my man and passed it around...lol it don't matter to me because his picture already been up on my facebook.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
4 Jun 11
Firstly congratulations on enrolling to college that is a big step towards gaining further education. Which will help you further and succeed with a future career.
Some people are simply like this that instead of encouraging and or applying constructive criticism prefer to be so negative. But you pay no mind and since you did the research carry on and show anyone who was negative otherwise.
As you can see perhaps it was jealousy and nothing you have done, some people are simply like that.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
4 Jun 11
Hi. hardworkinggurl. I don't want to take credit for taking online classes just yet. I have not enrolled in any online classes yet. But thanks anyway, for acknowledging this though. You are always a great friend, and I am happy to call you a true friend too.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
4 Jun 11
I am glad cream because you always seem so upfront and sincere. You are truly a great mother and it shows with all your discussions. Some people are truly so jealous and envious and dislike that someone so great as you progresses.
I am glad we are friends too. 
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@AmbiePam (92789)
• United States
11 Jun 11
This really doesn't sound like a big deal to me. I mean sure, it's odd, but it doesn't sound like something that would alter a friendship. Perhaps when you talked to her about it she thought it was a bad idea. Maybe over time she came around to thinking she was wrong, so she looked into it for herself.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jun 11
hi cream lost my response.She had probably had some problems with her own on line classes and is soured on on line classes. Since you checked this
colleg out and are satisfied I would depend on my own good sense
Cream. I think she is still your good friend but she is a bit jealous and wishes she had had a better experience. I would not throw a good friend away over some sour grapes which is all that sounds like it is.I think in her own way she thought she was trying to help.friends can disagree and still be best of friends you know.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Hi. Hatley. I don't want you to take this the wrong way of what I am about to say to you. I understand that she was trying to help but being so skeptical about an online class that she never has taken, made me wonder how can she give me advice when she has not went through an online class herself. I respect that she was trying to warn me. But she warned me and then she goes and enroll into an online class herself. If she wants me to be happy in life, she will tell me that she wishes me the best. She should have not been so judgmental to me when it comes to me getting my education. She has gotten hers and she knows that I have never fully gotten mines. It is sad that she makes me feel like she does not want me to succeed.
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
5 Jun 11
See probably when she tried to enroll online she got duped by some and hence she was just warning you to be careful. That's all I can see. She must have been cheated and was telling you to be careful. But yes she should have come clean with why she was telling you to avoid online classes.
Apart from that I think it's great that you are trying to get education cos it's worth the investment.
bourne
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Hi. bournecaindelta. Thank you for your response! I doubt that my best friend had an previous duped experience with an online college/university. If so, she would have mentioned it to me. When I told her that I was planning to enroll in a college online, she acted like she did not know too much about an online college. I know that she has been taking classes at the technical college and another college behind this college. She went two years at one college and two more years at another college too. She then went on to get her Master's degree afterwards. She went to college right in the same town that me and her both live in now.
I doubt that my best friend had an previous duped experience with an online college/university. If so, she would have mentioned it to me. When I told her that I was planning to enroll in a college online, she acted like she did not know too much about an online college. I know that she has been taking classes at the technical college and another college behind this college. She went two years at one college and two more years at another college too. She then went on to get her Master's degree afterwards. She went to college right in the same town that me and her both live in now.
@celticeagle (167019)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jun 11
She may have had something happen while taking the courses that make her alittle nervous about what your experience might be. It is things like this that show us the true face of our friends. Maybe she wants to do something alone and feels now like it isn't that big a deal becuase now you are doing it too.
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@bobmnu (8157)
• United States
4 Jun 11
With some people there is a fear of someone improving themselves and then moving on and leaving them behind. My suggestion would be to take the class and keep in contact with your friend. Talk to her about the class but don't flaunt it in her face. Encourage her to try one, but don't let anyone discourage you from learning more or improving yourself.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 11
Go on with your plan Cream. Take her advice and if you think that it is not so useful then search for other trusted source to get help or opinions~ Or perhaps you could ask her about her study using the online classes. My brother also plan to enrolled in online classes or part time class since it is easy and save time but it just a plan. Hope he will attend one in the future~ Good luck to you too~
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