How would you feel if someone that you knew, refused to speak to you?
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
June 6, 2011 8:27am CST
I am sure that we all have been in a situation as this before. I have not been spoken to many times, so it does not really phase me. But, this time it did. When my cousin passed away in January of this year, most of the family and friends was at my aunt's house. Well, we all was gathered there. Many people were coming in and out during this time too. As I was sitting down talking to my relatives, my son said that he saw a woman that we knew. At first I thought that he was referring to my aunt, that is my father's sister. But he wasn't. It was the older woman that overspent, $19.19 out of some money that I gave to her. Well, she went in the dining room with my aunt along with many other people, so I did not want to go in there out of respect for my aunt. I then got busy talking with my other relatives while I was in the living room, and I just forgot that she was still here. So, somehow she managed to leave without me realizing it. At first I did not know who she was, because I did not see her face, but my son did. I told him from the start, that if this is B****, then she will probably come and speak to us, if she recognized you. She may not have seen me, but my son did. Then a few weeks later, this woman mentioned to my husband that she was at my aunt's house. I then told my husband, Oh, so that was B**** that was at my aunt's house and that our son did really know who he was really seeing. I then said, Well if that was B****, then why did she not come and speak to us then.
My son recognized her, but I didn't see her. When he saw her, he yelled out, Mommy, that's B****.
I know why she did not want to speak to me or to my son, because she was ashamed that, she mistreated me in December when my husband was in extreme pain that involved his gum hurting. She brought back my husband's medicine and when she gave it to me, she had a very stink attitude, like she did not want to even do this favor for us. I told her thank you and that I really appreciated her bringing some medical aid that would help to relieve his pain, but she was not even moved by my kindness. I took the bag from her and she drove off in her car, having a funny attitude. I felt so bad after that. How can she mistreat me, when I have been nothing but kind to her?
My son recognized her, but I didn't see her. When he saw her, he yelled out, Mommy, that's B****.
I know why she did not want to speak to me or to my son, because she was ashamed that, she mistreated me in December when my husband was in extreme pain that involved his gum hurting. She brought back my husband's medicine and when she gave it to me, she had a very stink attitude, like she did not want to even do this favor for us. I told her thank you and that I really appreciated her bringing some medical aid that would help to relieve his pain, but she was not even moved by my kindness. I took the bag from her and she drove off in her car, having a funny attitude. I felt so bad after that. How can she mistreat me, when I have been nothing but kind to her?9 responses
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Sometimes people can just be this way and other times they feel that you have done something that has offended them. Maybe you have and just do not know it. Or maybe someone has told her something and she thinks you did or said it and she is upset. At any rate the only way to find out what is going on with her and why she is treating you the way she is is to talk to her.
Ask her why? Ask her is there anything that she feels you have done or said that has upset her in any way? You might be surprised by what she says.
Communication is the key to any and all relationships, friendships or any type of relationship between one person and another.
If you do not keep the doors of communication open then you have problems.
Talk to her.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
8 Jun 11
She may never do this, but you can be the bigger person and let it go. She does give you money and help you. She may be a jerk about things but she helps you.
If that $20 means so much then just count it against the money she gives you next time or one of the times she has given you money in the past. You can not hold a grudge forever. Or shouldn't it will eat you up inside and cause you to be a bitter person.
The woman has come to your door and you refused to answer it. Now who is being the one that doesn't want to speak? Let things go cream...or talk to the woman and get the feelings out in the open. Then let it drop. You just can not keep going on like this. I'm saying this as a friend.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
9 Jun 11
I do agree that you should just not do anything for this woman again. Just being cordial with her is the best way. Talk with her only if it's needed. Getting help and helping another for the help you need would be a better thing than dealing with this woman.
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
6 Jun 11
That's not something I would like to remember for long enough. Occasionally, it just happens due to our absent mindedness. But if it is intentional, then it must be very shocking. In your case, particularly, what I get from the last few lines, is indeed a shameful act. How can she become so rude? I don't know. Is it just her natural habit? Does she interact with other folks in this way? If that be the case, she must get medical attention as not that all the people are as good as you to maintain your decency even under such circumstances. Strange things happen in this world. Really!
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@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
7 Jun 11
Thanks a lot for reading and responding to my reply. As always, I'm glad to know that it helped you.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Hi. nilzerous1. Hi, How are you doing!
According to my hubbie, she carries an attitude like that with other people too. She is known to get smart with others too. I don't really believe that, because whenever my husband ask her to do a favor for him, she never seems frustrated or upset at all. But when I asked her for this very one favor, her entire demeanor changed because of me. I don't get it, but what I do get, is that this woman has some strange issues and I am not going to let her just drag me around like I am a piece of trash. It is good to hear from you and see you nilzerous1, Thank You so much from your response. I don't think that I have never thanked you enough for helping and assisting me into setting up my blog step by step. Thank You so much for your help, my friend!
According to my hubbie, she carries an attitude like that with other people too. She is known to get smart with others too. I don't really believe that, because whenever my husband ask her to do a favor for him, she never seems frustrated or upset at all. But when I asked her for this very one favor, her entire demeanor changed because of me. I don't get it, but what I do get, is that this woman has some strange issues and I am not going to let her just drag me around like I am a piece of trash. It is good to hear from you and see you nilzerous1, Thank You so much from your response. I don't think that I have never thanked you enough for helping and assisting me into setting up my blog step by step. Thank You so much for your help, my friend!
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 11
It is quite common to see some people easily got hurt in the feeling. I ever came across a few times in my life with this kind of people. If you two ever meet again, just ignored her first to see her reaction. If she suddenly called you the next trip she meet you, then it means that you two are means to have friendship together. If she just ignored you, then have no hard feeling about it. After all, no one is born perfect.....
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I can understand your anger for that woman. She intentionally didn't come to your because she knows that she have offended you or mistreated you for no reason at all. She's guilty, that's why.
I too and my officemate, just this morning had a harsh treatment from a medtech who took our Complete Blood Count for our office's annual physical examination. She was outrightly rude and arrogant. She was unsmiling since we went inside the room.
My office mate and i were just mum about it, because she might wreck the result of our CBC. 
Just she wait, after we have finished with the result of our Physical exam. 
We shall file a complaint at the management of the hospital.
Just she wait, after we have finished with the result of our Physical exam.
We shall file a complaint at the management of the hospital.
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@lila0812 (54)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 11
In my opinion, people sometimes get misunderstanding about little things. When the misunderstanding situation come and we do not realize it asap, then you will get bad situation like you. I hope both of you can communicate your problem soon, so everything hopefully will be fine. (from: lila0812, mylot)
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@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jun 11
She sounds like sort of a wacko anyway. I would think that she wanted to deal with your husband and not you. She is mad and acting like a twit. Women are weird anyway. SOme anyway. Do you really think she is ashamed? I doubt it. She is mad cause she got found out and now she has lost face.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
6 Jun 11
That is really a harsh story. Sadly something that does in fact happen all that often. There are people who tend to get a bit cross with you for whatever reason or for no really good reason. It does really seem like we think we know these people, until at least until we get into such a situation. Then it is something that we do not want to see. Or rather something that we quite frankly have never seen, because we did not want to see it. It is rather sad when something like this happens to say the very least.
It does rip a person apart, but there comes a time where I realize that its their problem if they want to act this way. That does not make it any less wrong, as I wonder what I might have done to lead to this. Perhaps there is something going on in their lives that we are not seeing. Who really knows. However, it just leads to a very bad situation and it is hard when bad feelings like this occurs. When someone you know stops speaking to you, you just try and rack you brain, trying to piece together what might of lead to this. Or at least I do.
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@Amberstormraven (15)
• South Africa
6 Jun 11
It happens all around. My brother has not said a word to me in 3 years. I got divorced and moved back to my mother for 3 months before getting my own place, I met someone new and we started a relationship. My brother did not like my new bf and ended up getting him dismissed from his job. Somehow it turned about that it was all my fault for bringing in someone new that he did not approve of. So for the last 3 years me and the bf has not been deemed family and only recently we were let back in to the family. Needless to say, what goes around comes around and he's picking the fruits of what he did to us, and although I feel he deserves it I still feel sorry for him.
