Is there someone out there for everyone?
@lilbabycatapillar (497)
United States
June 6, 2011 11:43pm CST
Like anyone else, I've noticed that life has really taken a toll on today's marriages, especially in the United States, with a 50% divorce rate.
There is a guy I love, who loves me very much. I think there was a line from Juno, that always stuck out in my mind,
"In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to find a person who loves you for exactly who you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what-have-you, the right person will still think the sun shines out your @ss. That's the kind of person worth sticking with. "
This guy, he's exactly like that, and while I'm 17, I plan to marry him someday. Simple. I know I'm young, and I'm supposed to be stupid or something, because young people ARE stupid, right? But why do I know? We just want to love each other.
I think part of the problem with other people's relationships is, if they are bored or unhappy, they expect a relationship to make it better. When they are not happy, they think it is because they are not with the right person, and they forget everything they ever fell in love for.
I love this guy, I'll say it again. He's not what I expected, and he earned my heart, and he's beautiful, and amazing. Just his joy of living life, just amazes me. I love doing things for him and making him happy, and he always does the same for me.
My other theory is, that not everyone is marriage material, and I can't find a kind way to say this. Some people have a natural tendency to be controlling, or unappreciative, or they just see flaws and negativity in every relationship they have. Some people just aren't cut out for marriage, for whatever reason. Maybe they're okay people on their own, but they just don't have it in them to love someone forever.
I don't think we have to be defined by who we are with, or whether or not we are single or alone.
You shouldn't say "I want to be in a relationship with someone forever."
There's just going to be this amazing person, and you're just not going to look back after that.
He's so beautiful to me, and I really want to keep him in my life, even when he's old and grey and his balls are saggy. Just because so many marriages and relationships are failing, doesn't mean it affects us at all.
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 11
I'm sure there is! The only problem is I haven't found anyone as yet but then again it's not as though I am looking! I think that it's becoming quite popular now to remain single as there is a lot of freedom in that although I accept that when you are married you have a companion for life and you can grow old together and support each other. I think I am quite content in my little niche so to speak! As sad as it may sound I can even picture myself come old age sitting in front of the television and watching the X Factor if that is still on many years from now!
The world has changed now in relation to marriage and relationships. I think that a lot of people choose to live together now as opposed to actually getting married. Well, each to their own I guess. Andrew
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
7 Jun 11
I think alot of the problem with failed marriages and relationships is that there is so much out there to choose from. I mean if you think back a couple hundred years ago, back then the towns were small, you only knew a handful of people and there really wasn't much to choose from dating wise. Now days, there are so many types of men and women to choose from. I find that I'm attracted to many different types of men and at any given time, I might be more attracted to one type more than another, it just varies.
"Some people have a natural tendency to be controlling, or unappreciative, or they just see flaws and negativity in every relationship they have." This you quoted in your post and it really stuck out with me because it reminded me of the last guy I dated. He was very unappreciative and he was constantly looking at my flaws and pointing them out to me. I know I have flaws, but so did he. I chose not to point his flaws out and I expect the same in the person I am with. If you can't accept me for who I am, whether you think I'm fat or you don't like my hair, then you don't need to be with me.
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@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
15 Jun 11
Hi,girl!I can see you have deeply understood marriages though you are so young.And I love the line from Juno,it really can describe most of the successful marriages according to what I have experienced.
I think if the guy is just like what the line describes,he's worth chasing and sticking with.But you had better get ready for any changes that'll happen later in your life becaust there's too much we cannot foresee.Good luck and take good care!!
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
7 Jun 11
You are 17...? Honey I must say that I think you are very wise. It is not true that young people are stupid, I don't find any truth in that. Everyone is different and can't judge every young person off what an ignorant young person has done. Anyway, sweetie if you love him them d*mn it love him with every breath in your body. I feel the same way about my man(of course im older than you) and he is the most wonderful man I've ever known and I mean that in every aspect of the word wonderful. He sees things in me I thought no one else could see. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and how he's gonna spend all his time proving it to me rather than just talking about it. Im sitting here getting emotional as I talk about him. That's how good he makes me feel inside. But anyway, enjoy your time with him and I hope you guys do grow old together...good luck lilcatapillar and may your relationship blossom into a beautiful butterfly
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@sunnystarfish (210)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
You really love this guy so much because you embraced every little thing about him. Be it good or bad. I guess thats the way it really should be, if you love someone, you love him/her without any doubts. You feel everything has fallen to place. Well I missed that feeling or thought what i had with the guy i recently dated was something special. Later did i know it was a one-way relationship. We have different point of views. Inspite of it all, i accepted him. His flaws, temper, attitude. But in the end we are not in it together. Maybe he is not the one for me. Then again, i still believe there is really someone for everyone out there. You just have to take the risk and give it a try cause you'll never really know. Or else you'll end up having what ifs going on inside your head. Enjoy your day my friends!
@itrytoplayguitar (13)
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8 Jun 11
People are more self centred. People forget that love is also about the other party, not just yourself. And love needs work to maintain, it can't be left on autopilot mode. It requires alot of work.
@GemmaR (8517)
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7 Jun 11
I do believe that there is somebody out there for everyone, but I also believe that not very many of us find that person. Far too many of us just settle for second best when we don't think that we deserve or can get any better for ourselves. This is why not many relationships last forever, we just get with somebody who we might not be 100% suited to, often because we're too scared to be single and remain on our own forever. With the amount of people in the world, it seems rather unlikely that we'd ever meet the person who it totally perfect for us, but I do believe that some people manage to do so.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
When I read you post, friend. I agree with the lines. That every husband and wife when they failed they blame each other incompatibility...They forget the time they voice out a words of "I love you" which this terms never change in whatever years or decade or forever...
Relationship failed because of greediness. People is not contented what they have in life. Those guys want to taste someone else. Or vice versa...women want it also. But those things is a kind of undisciplined...and not respect themselves and no fearing of God...
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I believe so everyone have their own destiny and even in love. but some do not believe in it. if you do not do any effort to meet someone or socialize no one would bother to court you in the case of a girl. in case of a boy they need to make the first move and never get shy to meet girls. go there to socialize and have a chat., try to date someone you like and bring good topics and be humorous. lastly be try to be honest and be yourself.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
7 Jun 11
Well yeah love can be nice, but it's not for everybody, it's not for me and I have learned that the hard way. Oh well I don't need a man to feel complete as long as I got myself that's all I need some people are actually much happier being single than with somebody else. That's just the person that I am, but yeah some people love to have that special someone close to them while others prefer the good single life of pampering oneself. It's what I do, but maybe one day I will grow tired of that, but for right now I love to go out and just have fun with my friend. I just don't want to worry about anybody else right now it really is tiresome and to overwhelming for me. Still I am glad that you have found that special someone. It is cute when people say they will grow old with their partners. Since right now a lot of people are getting divorces. Good luck hope everything goes according to your plans.
@JamieHenriques (200)
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7 Jun 11
There'a always someone out there for everybody you just have to look for that person or maybe that person has been there round the corner all your life. How we all wished life was simple and everything was simple its terrible to see families splitting up and kids being separated. When you find that someone you have to put in the effort to keep the relationship alive.
@leegumz (15)
• Kenya
7 Jun 11
love is overwhelming and beautiful especially when you experience it for the first time or with someone new.its so obvious you love this boy just by the way you describe him and I'm guessing he loves you back to with the same intensity since you have already thought of your future together.your discussion has given me hope and I'm going to stop being so uptight and cast away my cares with the wind.All i can tell you is that being young doesn't mean that you are stupid and never be defined by what the world thinks.there are marriages that have withstood the test of time but marriage and love is hard work.so i hope you are prepared to fight for your love and to stand by it.
All will be well lilbaby.have a good one.
