How well do you get along with your siblings....?
By JJohnson79
@JJohnson79 (301)
United States
June 7, 2011 11:28pm CST
I am the only girl and the second to the oldest out of three of us. We are all six years apart and I believe now that we're older, we're closer than ever. Being the only girl, of course I was spoiled...I still am spoiled even at the age of 32. Not because of my mom but I try to spoil myself. I have always gotten my way as a child and I had to keep the tradition going...lol. How well do you and your siblings get along? Are you the youngest, middle or oldest? Are you the only boy or girl? Were you spoiled and how did it affect you as an adult?
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13 responses
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
8 Jun 11
Hi JJohnson, It is nice to know that you get along with your siblings. Being the only girl and being spoiled. Life is good isn't it. Well, my mother had 4 children, she passed at a young age, and her children were young in age when she passed. We were separted and we are not that close, we grew up in a terrible enviornment, without much love. What love we have we had to learn it from observing other family lives. As of today we are still not that close. Out of the 4 children, my sister who is younger than I am, we are somewhat close. We drift apart at times and them drift back together again. Life is good, life is lonely, and life is a struggle. But I have faith and trust in God and things are looking better.
Be blessed and continue to have a good life.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. That's gotta be hard, I can't imagine going thru that. My mom and I were distant for a few years but I was of age and knew how to survive and make decisions on my own. Today, my mom and I are closer than ever. But this isn't about me...I really don't like to hear about family being apart in any kind of way. Please try to connect with the others and put whatever differences you may have aside. Family is all we have in the end when all else fails. I too have faith in God that things are gonna get better. He does everything for a reason and sometimes we may never know the reason. I still think you should try to connect with them. It may be some things that need to be cleared up
@mindym (978)
• United States
8 Jun 11
I am also the only girl and am the middle child, so I have an older brother and a younger brother. My brothers and I get along great, and are closer now than we were as kids. We were, and still are, spoiled with love. We also receive and received many nice things, and I can't say we were spoiled, but we were taught responsibility at a young age. Never did I think that life was going to be given to me on a silver platter. I think learning responsibility taught me to not expect things, but to appreciate the things that I have or to take the initiative to buy what I wanted.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
That's a beautiful thing...so we're both a middle child with both a younger and a older brother. As far as me being spoiled, it was not only by my mom but by everyone around us. I can't remember if my brothers got the same treatment. I only remember what my mom has told me. My brother has told me stories to but I can't recall any of that happening. But that doesn't matter now, what matters is that our bond today is strong and unbreakable. I can say that my older brother and I picked up the responsibility a bit faster than my little brother. Hes getting the hang of things and is doing good
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
We are only two siblings, and sadly, I do not get along with my sister. I'm not really sure why... maybe I've forgotten how it started. But bottomline I guess is that my sister and I think differently... This may sound bad but I was actually quite glad when she moved out of the house. Things became more peaceful then...
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Its not good to be distant from her regardless if you have different views and opinions on things. Try sitting down with her and asking why is it that you two are distant. I don't know how old you guys are, but maybe when you get older you will grow closer. Sometimes it just happens automatically and sometimes you have to sit down to find out whats happening to keep you distant. In my case, it just happened automatically as we got older, we grew closer
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
8 Jun 11
i don't have siblings , i am the only boy. but i never felled that i am spoiled staying alone, but it i feel sometime so lonely that no one is here to give company, yes usually a great pressure of family comes, but i am habitual to handle all the situation .
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
I can't imagine being the only child...although I have siblings I at times feel alone because I keep alot inside and to myself. I don't cry about my issues to my brothers all the time. And because I block people out of my life for different reasons and different times, I get that lonely feeling but that's by choice. I only do that when I have alot going on with myself and I feel I need time to myself to get myself together
@anonymous815 (47)
• United States
8 Jun 11
I have one sister and we are one year apart and I think we get along rather well. In the past we would argue almost every single day, but now we always smile when we see each other. I am in college now and she is just entering. I think we matured in that we wouldn't fight over the simplest things like who gets to choose what to watch on t.v. I think our relationship is rather strong now which is really great.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
It usually gets like that....when the siblings get older, they tend to grow closer and not apart. That's a good thing, I know it is for me. Alot that I know is from my older brother. Like I know alot about cars, how to change the oil, replace the altenator and keeping up the regular maintenance. I don't know many women that can do that.
@Danielle1988 (23)
• United States
8 Jun 11
I am the middle child..lol, My sister is 5 years older than me and my brother is 5 years younger than me.My brother got most of the attention cause he was the first boy born since my father and that was on both sides of my family. He got all the attention from everyone and still does he is 18 and does not have a care in the world and could get away with everything. We are all close but me and my sister are closer than me and my brother I still think we somewhat still are jealous of him.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Im a middle sibling also but im the only girl. Maybe that's why I was spoiled. I can never imagine being jealous of my younger brother. We all are about 5 years aprt also...its 27, 32 and 39. Ok maybe that's a little bit over 5 years. But I noticed my little is kinda in his own world like nobody can tell him anything and he gets a bit mouthy. Like he don't know when to shut up lol. Even I know when to shut up(at times)especially when it comes to respecting my moms house
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
8 Jun 12
I only have one sibling (a sister) and we don't get along at all (this is my sister's choice, not mine). I wouldn't consider myself spoiled. My parents did make sure I had the things I needed and even wanted at times when I was little, but they did the same with my sister as well. So there was no need for any jealousy there. As far as it affecting me? I never really thought of it before so I can't say. LOL
Happy mylotting!
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
9 Jun 11
I am the youngest of 6 children and yes, I was and still am spoiled. But I'm more of an appreciative spoiled as I really appreciate everything my parents have done for me. I know my siblings are a little jealous at times because honestly, my parents do more for me than they do for them, but despite that, I am actually really close to most of my siblings.
@manubla (472)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Hi JJohnson,
Wow, it must have been an awesome feeling when you always got your way when you were a child.
There are 6 of us, 3 boys and 3 girls and I'm the 4th. We had our shares of quarrels when we were kids but it lessened as we grew older. Our parents treated us equally so no one was really spoiled. Now, we do get along well. Lesser arguments, more mature way of looking at things, calm when discussing issues.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
I am the eldest of 5 siblings , all girls.
When we were younger, we would quarrel with one another over petty things, but in the end would still play and laugh with one another.
I noticed too , that now that we are all married and with our own family, we are much closer, specially when it comes to concerns about our parents who are now in their 70's. Lately, we contributed and gave our parents a joint birthday celebration and they were so happy.
I guess, we love each and everyone in the family.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Wow!...all girls. That's cool and its great that you all are married with families and everyone is happy. That right there is a beautiful family and im happy for you guys. I know you guys still may go thru your things but at the end of the day, you are back together as one. That's great and I honor the strong bond you guys have. I sometimes wish I had a sister(well I do on my dad side but don't know them)to grow up with but it all worked out, I love my brothers dearly.
@naija4real (1291)
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8 Jun 11
I am the most oldest boy ( now I am a man ) in a family of 8 children. We are 6 boys and 2 girls. My role as a senior child as been quite challenging and my younger brothers and sisters look for leadership which I try to give to them in the way I conduct myself. However, it has been quite challenging for me discharging my role as a senior child because I still want to live a normal lives. I do not want people to see me as a role model. I still want to do some secret things or what you could bad things such as smoking and dating women. But my role as a senior is pushing me to the tight corner. So I alway try to be a good boy.
Now that I am a grown up man. My brothers and sisters still consult me for direction whenever there is a serious family matter to be resolved.
I would say that I have a nice and friendly relationship with members of my family including my brothers and sisters including my dad and mom.
I was never spoiled during my childhood. I had parents who were strict and they taught me good christian morals.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
A big family...that's great! Lots of love to give and lots of love to go around. Eventhough I wasn't the oldest, my little brother looked up to me and till this day still ask me for advice. I didn't feel like I had to do things secretly because in order for your siblings to experience life, they need to know how things go in 'real' life. The heartbreakes, the ups and downs with relationships, the dating scene, the partying etc. You shouldn't have to feel like you have to do things in secrecy because I never hid anything from my little brother. He lived with me for years so I showed him alot about life, relationships and other things in general. None of it were ever bad because of how I live my life. Im a private person so I never had people in and out of my life or my house. We are all doing good in life and still turn to eachother for comfort and advice but still live our lives according to the path God has chosen for us.
@xyzm12 (26)
• United States
8 Jun 11
I am a boy and the oldest. No, most times we don't get along at all. We constantly make fun of eachother and fight whenever we see eachother. Still we have some things in common and so we are able to talk like regular people once in a while in between arguments. It has changed a little from when we were younger. I wonder what we will be like around eachother 10, 20 years from now. To be honest I never vision my brother in my future plans. I think that tells the story.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
9 Jun 11
I personally think that its normal to not get along all the time. You guys are not gonna always see eye to eye on alot of things. Some things your other sibling will approve of and you're gonna think it makes no sense or a waste of time. I think in 10 to 20 years from now you all would of course be more mature and by that time work thru whatever issues you may have had in the past. I know I became closer to my brothers when I got older and when they got older. Time is of the essence and will change things for the better. My oldest still say some things as if im still 17 but he quickly realizes im grown. Im still baby sister but old enough to handle my own.