how to know a true friend?
By pahak627
@pahak627 (4558)
Philippines
June 9, 2011 6:40pm CST
I have so many friends but I have no idea which of them valued my friendship. To be candid, I don't have a friend who can easily go to my house and visit me. I'm really a loner since my childhood until now that I have already grown up children. I have a friend whom I thought to be one of my best friends but I feel that she's not worth to be called a true friend to me. I used to go to her house once a week during weekends. We just talked. I helped her financially without waiting for any reward or payment. I let her use money in full and she paid thru installments only. That was going on for several years. Then time came that I had a family problem. I didn't like to go to work because of that, I sent messages to her to visit me cause I can't go out of my home due to that serious problem. At first she came to me. But that was only once or twice. Later, she didn't anymore come. That was the time that I really needed a friend to turn to and she was that friend. Do you think she is a true friend?
10 responses
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 11
I have a bunch of friends whom I thought at first are my true friends until when I met with an illness in 1997, they dumped me on the side. I took actions by calling them and visiting them but they stay away from me. To them I was abnormal.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
10 Jun 11
Friends dont say you come eat , i come eat.you spend for me i spend for you.
This is business not friendship.I also went through this situation.No one we can say trust worthy unless we get the hardest problems of life.When everything is well we do not know the actual color of the people or mentality when it comes then we can focus on things.
Selfishnes is not to be there in friendship.So true friend we get very scarce.Its tough.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jun 11
Hello pahak627
For me I consider a person to be my friend if she or he always be there for me in times I need him/her. I know we have alot of friends but only few we can consider as true friend. Friends are classified according to purpose. You can meet a friend just for fun, it means he/she become your friends during hang outs. Some friends also be with you when they need something - it means he/she personal motives. A true friend is like what you did, helping people without asking anything in returned and always be there for you whatever happens.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
yes i agree with you on that, there are friends only during hang outs. That's the most common among our friends. At our work, most are our friends because we are together for the whole 8 hours a day and 5 days a week. Our officemates are more like our family. We spend time with them more than our respective families. How do we consider them? more than friends already?
@daiweian06 (1405)
•
10 Jun 11
Having a true friend is a gift from God. Show them what is real you and they will love you for who you are. Still we have to put some effort for them but I think you made a crazy thing about helping on financial. There's a limitation on having a friend. Don't put all you effort just to win them. They must do the same to you and if not we will be disappointed.
Always give and never ask in return. But be careful on your steps and reaction on things. If you feel that they already taken you for granted so go to the next person. Having a real friend is picking the gold. Analyze yourself if who you feel lighter and happy to be with.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
I agree with you on that aspect. Yes, it's a gift from God. I haven't thought about that, I guess, I was making efforts to win my friends. From now on, I'll just let things come as it is. Anyway, friends come and go but true friends will remain with us as long as we live. Thanks for that inspiring response.
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Don't rush into things to happen because it can hurt you if you discovered that all your treasured friends are not true to you. Time will come in your life and you'll know who your best friends are. Friends will be there no matter what, they are with you through the ups and downs of life. They are hard to find really.
@denikurniadi (317)
• Indonesia
10 Jun 11
if your friend always beside you when you have a problem. and gìve you solution then help you. frankly they are true friends.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
Yes, I agree with you. I just wish that I still have true friends. With that experience I just realized that no one can surpass true friendship as we have in our family. Members of our family are our best and true friends. They are always there to help us. Aside from our family the best is HIM who is up there. We can find comfort just by talking to Him in silence.
@way2vision (613)
• Canada
10 Jun 11
True friends are not selfish to themselves, but recognize their surroundings when they are with others. True friends will always have your back no matter the situation. I believe you are a true friend to the people around you. You may not be an extrovert, but you are kind to others, therefore you show a trait that is best shown from a true friend.
When it comes to your friend's situation, as long as she doesn't disrespect or offend you, she may still be your friend. Depending on her current lifestyle, job, hobbies, etc. she may not be able to visit you constantly. Do you have a contact of hers? Try contacting her and see how she is doing. She may have wanted to visit you but she may personally feel have nothing to offer (in a general case). But i suggest to contact her and spring your friendship back into action.
@inamnilawar (44)
• India
10 Jun 11
i m expecting true friend like this when i go to a dinner or lunch i had a paid a bill and i m paying the more there are many friends when i m not having the income they didnt call me when that situation is happenning u can easily understand a true friend and now a days the friendship based on 70 percent on monetary basis i hope so
