no tv at home
By irislee_24
@irislee_24 (102)
Philippines
June 12, 2011 7:15pm CST
Hi! My second post for the day and it's only 7AM.
I've been married almost five years and my husband and I got our own place for three years and most of our visitors wonder why we don't have a TV at home. They ask if we do not get bored. Well, for many times I've been tempted to think of buying one but I remember my vow of not putting a TV in my house. No offense to TV watchers but I'm a TV addict way back when I still stayed in my parents house. I promised myself when I get to have my own family, I don't want a TV at home. Yep, I must admit a TV keeps you updated with the news and what's the latest in the world but it also exposes all the crimes and negativity men are able to imagine. I have a toddler now and I think it's been a good decision not to have a TV at home. What do you think?
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23 responses
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Well, I respect your decision. But for me, the important thing is guidance. Bad things are out there, like it or not. Hiding them from the children won't make them non-existent. I think it's better to watch the children as they are exposed to things, then teach them, guide them, and make them understand what is right and wrong.
As for the tv programs themselves, surely there are shows that are kid-friendly and even educational. Again, guidance comes in here. Being the adult, you are the one in control of what the children watch. A tv in the house does not automatically mean they can watch it any time and all the time. You can make schedules for watching tv.
Have a nice day! =)
@irislee_24 (102)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Your opinion is well-thought of. I agree that guidance is the key. I weighed the pros and cons of having a TV at home and personally I find it more advantageous if I do not start having one at all. It's good that you are able to make schedules and you are selective of the shows you allow your children to watch. In my case, not having TV at home I guess is more of a discipline I am giving myself. If I'd have a TV in my own home, I don't think I'd be able to turn it off when my favorite local and international *stars* are being featured or doing some shows, and not to mention the soap operas that literally glue Filipino viewers on their seats.
@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
19 Jun 11
I have a tv but I dont have cable, I use it only for movies on occasion but somtimes I do watch the shows I like on the computer.
I think that you are right and people should respect that and your reasons also.
@irislee_24 (102)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
Thank you ladybug for responding... and you are right, people have different opinions, mine is understandably out of concern for my growing kiddo. For manoj thanks for responding too... your government is cool about providing free tv. I wish my government could do that too, perhaps I'll reconsider receiving one for free if they will shoulder the cable plus electricity, LOL. Just kidding, still I wouldn't change about Not having the tube at home.
@manoj27391 (9)
• India
20 Jun 11
heyy comeone... you are missing 10 % of your life...... it is not that TV is very essential.... but its the best company when your alone at home...... you know in our country , the government itself provides free TV....... what you say for this ??
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
That is also a good idea and I truly respect your decision. If you and your husband have a mutual understanding in this regard, then I think it would not be an issue.
Somehow, we cannot deny the fact that children will be bored. I think that watching TV can be very helpful in many ways just as long as it is under parental guidance. Like for example, those educational programs. That would be very helpful in your children's mental development.
Sometimes, TV really helped me a lot especially in my career. I am involved in medical field, so watching TV programs which correlates in my career is an advantage.
However, TV can be substituted with a radio for news and others.
It is really up to you if you consider TV as not an important appliances for your family but having TV at home can reduce and relieve stress and depression based on medical research.
Happy mylotting!
@irislee_24 (102)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Hi! Thank you for the response. My husband and I talked about it and I'm glad he supports my idea. He is away most of the time because he works as a seaman. He's home now for a vacation and he appreciates the fact that our toddler has already learned a lot of things that I bet my boy will not be interested in if we did have a TV to entertain him at home. With the internet, I get to choose educational videos for his age on youtube and at his age of 18 months, he can already identify the alphabet with it's capital and small letters, colors, shapes, numbers 1-20. I don't think he'll be able to learn them fast if we had a TV. I would probably be tempted to turn it on more often than spending time with my son watching more educational stuff on the net.
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
13 Jun 11
We don't have a TV at home either and even though my husband wants one badly (we have always had TV until that last year), I personally do not want one. My daughter and husband constantly fight over what to watch and he's not very prudent in his choice of programming when she's around. It is so stressful. Not only that, there was a time when he was not living with us and I decided to completely turn off TV in honor of her school's request that we as parents limit media for the children. At first I had no clue what to do, then together we started finding things that we actually enjoyed....making new recipes, crafts, gardening, reading, making up games and spending a lot more time outdoors in nature. We did not miss TV at all and I enjoy the quiet in my home. I know what it is like to be a TV addict, have been one for years but I feel life is better when you turn off the tube.
@irislee_24 (102)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
I'm glad to know you've been spending more time with your daughter doing more interesting stuff than watching TV. I'm sure she will value those times you have spent together.
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
20 Jun 11
Right now I don't feel TV as necessary as before, since I have my own computer and internet I can spare my time with it instead of on TV. Also, considering the quality of current TV shows, it's much better to live off without one. I also don't see that many movies to make it worth. As I'm living with my parents, I have the one of my house, but if I plan latter to go to my own house, I don't think I would be buying a TV in some time. The only thing I will really miss are the weekends football matches, and those from the world cup maybe.
@irislee_24 (102)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
Watching sports is a good reason for having a TV at home but yeah you are right, the other stuff on TV is a pure waste of time. This fast paced life would make us feel guilty being glued on TV when there are plenty other things you can spend your time with.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Not having a television in your own home is fine since it;s your personal choice. That way also, you can help conserve energy and it's a great help with the bills.
If I don't have a tv in our house - there's always my personal computer for alternative when it comes being updated with the news.
@ramp123 (191)
• India
16 Jun 11
Its a point of view. For myself, I don't watch tv regularly as a habit, but others in my family are addicts, especially to soaps. I do enjoy watching occasionally, especially sports. For example, when Wimbledon comes around, I enjoy the tennis. I think, as far as children and TV are concerned, discipline is the key thing. You can fix times for TV watching, just like times for studying, and also regulate the channels that kids can watch. You will have to discipline the adults as well, so that they watch TV around these times, and let the kids have their TV time.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
All this have it's own advantages and disadvantages and most people agree with this. If you have a TV, of course it can give you fun and enjoyment for the mean time, it will give you recent updates on what is happening around and what will happen for the coming days, it will make you feel not to be bored, it gives you knowledge about different things and it can entertain you well until you became addicted to it. let's go now, to its disadvantage, firstly, of course it consume electricity and cost you to spend money, not good for the eyes, and another basic effect but these are not the culprit of what I'm talking about. Well, entertainment media like TV has its great impact to different viewer. Because of these entertainments, this will give idea to people to do what it viewed, it affects the mind of a person who watch specially children.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
13 Jun 11
If that's what you and your husband decided,to live without a TV,it means you took the right decision;I must admit I couldn't live without a TV,even when I write on the Internet I have my TV open,even if I don't watch it carefully.Anyway,the most important reason for which I couldn't live without a TV is represented by sports broadcasts and especially soccer matches.If I had better alternative to watch them,I could probably live without a TV as well.
@rgreentea (96)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Your decision of not having a TV in your house is cool! This is the first time that I heard of it. I have a tv in my house, but we regulate the viewing time, especially during school days. No tv viewing is allowed from Sunday afternoon till Friday evening so that children can concentrate on their studies. We also monitor what programs they watch. But sometimes, in school, they discuss events and issues which are readily viewed on tv.
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
13 Jun 11
I am wondering that how can you live without a television when you were a television addict and for me personally i cannot live without a television and yes television is very helpful in keeping us updated on all the things that is happening around in the world.
@miadsoriano (884)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Wow, I admire your resolve! I'm not a TV addict myself but I still prefer having a TV for such instances as national emergencies and announcements, and yes, the news. But you have your reasons and I respect that.
@AgentGulaman (3546)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Currently, I am living on an apartment also with no television. Well, I can live with it so living without television is possible. The only disadvantage is that I can't relate to certain conversations about the most recent buzz in the television. That limits your interaction capability with others. However, there are many advantages of not having a television set at home. You are right with the reduced exposure to everyday negativity both on local and foreign news. Also, this will prevent being a "teleholic". I've read some articles in Readers Digest regarding teleholics and those were alarming. It is a good decision you made for your toddler since there will be no way for him to become a teleholic.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Back when our house just got burnt, it was more than a year later until we had another TV set. It did not bother us at all. At first it was hard but then having no TV later on proved to be a good choice. No disruptions in work and other activities, conserve electricity and more. Although there were down sides, I still think until now that the positive effects weigh more. After reading this post I feel like doing the same or making the same vow.
@yoyo1198 (3641)
• United States
13 Jun 11
Good for you. So many parents use the tv as a babysitter and children are learning all of the wrong things from it. I've seen so many young mothers just plop the kids down in front of the tv so they can tend to their own interests instead of interacting with the children.
You can get news updates regularly via the internet. I do that frequently. I can go for days with the tv off. I once did it for over six months.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
13 Jun 11
I admire you for sticking to your decision not to have a television in your home. I do have just one, as oppose to one in every room. I think one television is enough to have; I just think for me it is important to keep up with the current events in the world as well as the neighborhood. I have always seen myself as an ostrich with my head buried in a hold if I didn't know or want to know what is going on.
There are pros and cons about not having a television; there are really some very educational channels for adults and children as well. I personally don't watch any channels that have commercials, because I dislike them with a passion. I also, have to have the sound of the television, lowest volume, during the night.
You, probably have a better quality of life because you don't have a television, so on that front I envy you.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Hi Iris!
I think it is a great decision specially now that you have a toddler.
It means you can have more time to use for more fruitful activities.
Sometimes, a lot of people tend to use the TV as a baby sitter for there kids.
Which when over exposed to TV, can't be healthy for a kid.
The first 2 years of life are considered a critical time for brain development. TV and other electronic media can get in the way of exploring, playing, and interacting with parents and others, which encourages learning and healthy physical and social development. Most of children's free time, especially during the early formative years, should be spent in activities such as playing, reading, exploring nature, learning about music or participating in sports.
Without the distraction of TV, you can have a good bonding time with your family. Just be creative, it won't be boring I assure you.
@tink91879 (742)
• United States
13 Jun 11
I think your decesion to not have a tv is awesome. I feel we rely to much on our tv and other electronic devices for entertainment. My kids love tv and its battle to get them to do something other than watch tv or play a game. Im thinking of getting rid of cable and only using our Netflix. I have a cpl shows I really enjoy, but I can actually watch some episode online for free. There is always hulu as well which I think is cheaper than cable. The internet is also a great source for the news and entertainment. Sometimes we seems we go from one box to the next. How much easier it would be to eliminate one box. I give you kudo points for keeping to your word and not having your child become an addict. She can watch any of her little shows online and since you have to get to them on the comp its harder for her to learn to just flip a switch. You have made an awesome decesion and Im so for it. My husband wont give up his tvs and with the game systems it would cause a problem, but I have control of turning it off and on so my kids may watch more than they should from time to time, but I also tell them to go play or read ALOT!