could you forgive if your lover cheated on you?

Yes, I may do that but we go on separate ways.I have to move on with my life without him/her.Forgetting what she/he had done I guess is very hard to do.Anyway we can still find someone who is more deserving than he/her.

Forgiving is one of the greatest gift one has got from god usually its very hard to forgive and very easy to say that forgive that person. so probably asking to frogive without any explanation is not worth I will give you an example of my own life with my girlfriend she talks freindly with everyone the thing is that her freinds are behind her for love and this is tourcering me a lot. I mean she is commited to me and doesnt ignore tge persons but talks to them inspite of everything I fear that I may lose my girlfriend but I have made my mind I will just forgive her on this issue if she really loves me she will be back to me. So concluding I guess just try and forgive your partner god knows u could be tested so make maximum good deeds of your life and give more importance to god.

if i really love the guy, it would hurt bad. it would take me a while to forgive but i guess i'd have a hard time forgetting. so it's best that we don't get back together. as much as i love a person, cheating is a no-no. aside from broken trust, i feel that the act itself is thoughtless, cruel and shows no respect to the partner and the relationship. i don't deserve any of that. i believe that if a relationship is in need of spicing up a bit, to keep the fire burning, the two parties can make it work if they try hard enough (talk about it and be open to each other and communicate). but if ever one party resorted to cheating... then he/she should look for love elsewhere too. because no relationship can exist happily while enveloped in a lie, tied by a broken trust and crumbling respect. have a great mylotting day!

It 's happened and I did forgive and stay with the guy but ya know...it's never the same. The trust is broken and you can never go back to that amazing feeling that you had before all that tainted your relationship. In the end you just destroy it anyway so I would just leave any man that cheated on me on the spot...done and over. I'm sure I could forgive but I would never be with him again

Hello sweetie, In my scenario, i don't think i can forgive the woman so easily. i don't know, some how i have learned to realize that i have become too much narrow minded.besides, am not much of a christian anymore, it's hard to give trust to some one and then betrays you later on. now, i don't mind if people are selfish or scared simply because there are a lot of opportunist or criminals out there. becareful sweetie

I would absolutely not forgive or forget. I think for me that cheating is one thing that is just a big no-no. I cannot stand the idea of bringing someone back in my life who clearly did not want me. Even when people say that "it was just a one time mistake", I just cannot forgive this kind of thing.

I think that it would depend on the circumstances if he promised he wasn't going to do it again and never did do it again I think if my love for him was that strong I would take him back but he would be on a short leash for along while,at least until the trust was back in place.I hope this helps you and have a great day.

I will forgive her if she shows signs of remorse and also accept the facts that she has hurt me. I think the entire world we are living is built on love and forgiveness. Jesus christ thought in the holy bible to forgive one another. There is one popular part of our lords prayer that says "forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who tresspass against us" So one must learn to give one another this is because it is one of the basic tenets of live. Don't you think you could hurt your lover someday without you planning for it and it will now be his turn to pay you back in your own coins if you fail to forgive him.

cheat? is n ot in my dictionary, and every girl who would like to cheat on me..... they are not here with me any more, i dont like liars, and i sated since the very first time i meet any girl, i think every chater most not be trust again, nobody deserves a second chance, according to me be a loyal person is the most important thing for me, and never take them back in your life again, who is doing the first time cheat, will have the second time cheatting on you.

If you really love him, why not? If he really loves you, then better.I've seen a lot of this kind of relationship still work out in the end. We are only people meant to do wrong sometimes. It's hard to forgive and forget , it will be a long process but if both of you will do the same effort, the pain will definitely heal in time.

I do not know if I would forgive infidelity. I thought that if once again forgive infidelity can be repeated.But sometimes love can be so much greater that you may forgive.Many became confused.Have a nice day!

I dont think so I would be able to forgive the person who has cheated on me. After putting all that trust and love for that one person and one day you realise that he/she has let you down it destroys you and accepting that person back is an absolute NO NO. How can you spend time again with that person who has cheated on you even though he/she says that they have changed. Its hard to believe and accept them back again. In my case I would never let them back and just move on in life..

I wouldn't be able to forget about it, which would cause a lot of animosity. If you "love" someone, you shouldn't have to go out and sleep with other people. I think I would just have to try my best to move on and away from that person.

Oh,thanks for posting a creepy discussion! In my case i will forgive the person because were humans and not perfect. For as long as he will do his best to please me and try to correct what he did. And i have an experience on this and the person gave me second chance and it's all worth it because I'm a better person now! I know where to stand and to give myself a break. Girl, just take it easy! And make the person suffer first! Don't talk to him for a couple of weeks and see what he's trying to imply. Is he making things for you to patch up or making things worst! Try to communicate to GOD, ask for his guidance. For sure everything will went well.. :)

Hi sweet love forever: I think it's har because all of the emotional charges but for my own sake I think I won't do it. If she is really sorry maybe we can become friends but she has to give me a time for me and also for her to be sure about her feelings and what I represent to her. I couldn't act like if nothing has happened. Our relationship would be broken because there wouldn't be any trust on each other and that's really sorry. If there's a chance to re build a relationship like this, it will take time. ALVARO

If ever my lover would cheat on me, I forgive him. If God can forgive us from all our sins, I believe so can us. I may be able to forgive him but I can never forget the pain he has caused me. And for that, it will always be hard to bring back the relationship we have had. Better move on that stick to someone you know who is capable of hurting you so bad. **Sorry for the late response. Was not so active these past few months. Hope your doing good with the job hunting. :)

Never its over :) She betrayed my trust and thats it :P I will never give her reason to do so and i will never forgive her if i even have given her reason and she goes and does it :)

I used to think that I'd be able to dump a guy if he ever cheated on me. But the love I have for my boyfriend is so incredibly strong that I don't think I could ever break up with him. Even though I'd be hurt, it would be nowhere near as painful as letting him go. It might be a little different though if he cheated on me with someone he had feelings for. It would take a while for me to trust him again.

We've talked about this all of the time, because we're very open and honest with each other. We can make jokes about these kinds of things. We have considered the fact that sometimes, people might be missing something in their relationship and need to find it elsewhere. I think it would be better to be in an open relationship and to be honest about it, rather than sneak around. But it's just so unnecessary. I think, if two people are just not right for each other, and they have kids, they should do everything they could to keep the relationship together and everyone as happy as possible, even if it means some kind of a crazy arrangement. But if I were just being deceived, no, no, no, I would not accept that. I have too much dignity. Sometimes love isn't enough, and that kind of a thing is just not okay for a relationship.

it depends on the situation it just maybe a trials that makes our relationship to be stronger :) well its really hard to accept/forget, if i really love him i know they are many way to solve such problem . if he love me so much i know he wont do it again if he think it makes me hurt. :]