You had a fling a long time ago and they pop back up...what do you do?

I think you misunderstand the meaning of flings. I thought these were people you're not really contacting for other things and just 'flinging', so why do you feel something for the person? Why would you be mad at that person for not keeping in touch? Seems to me there was a lot more going on than fling. Anyhow, a few months ago, a fling returned and said hello. I actually made the person feel that I no longer remembered him. I am not interested to have flings anymore, I am in a good relationship and I will not mess it up with playing with fire once again. Though, I'm relatively safe because my partner knows all about my flings but still, I don't think I'd be happy if he were to talk to one of his flings again. As for telling the person if I'm in a relationship. I usually just tell them outright that I'm married and no longer remember them. They usually just leave and no longer bother contacting me again if I say it that way. All the less fuss in life, the better. Have a great MyLot experience!

JJohnson79, I doubt there would be any issue if it is just merely catching up after all the both of you are casual friends to begin with. So, I would hear the other party out and not jump into any conclusion. As for what happens from then onwards will depend on the other party and for us to react accordingly then.

well, it was just a fling. maybe i would 1.) ignore the person as if he is not present in the place both of us are in at the moment. 2) if he recognizes me and greets me first, i would merely say "hello stranger". then after a while, "goodbye, stranger" 3) if he is persistent in establishing more than friendly connection with me, i would tell him point blank to back off, i am in a committed and happy relationship and this relationship is for keeps. 4) if he is persistent in establishing merely friendship and/or business relations, i would think twice and ask myself if reconnecting with him would be a wise decision. would it be indeed? now, i am in a quandary. hahaha :D

The right choice for me is obviously tell that I'm in a relationship and ask how she's doing anyway. I mean, this actually happened to me and this is actually what I did. Although I have a tendency to think irrationally when it comes to these, especially when I'm drunk so I'll never know if it happens again.

Just be friends with them. However, if they have intentions of having a serious relationship. Just declined politely.

I would give him a warm hi and tell him that I am currently happily committed. There is no point bringing up past hurt brought about by the "non-closure". It will only upset things. I think that being in a relationship is reason enough to do away with past issues. There is one good thing to his resurfacing though- you may finally put a closure to what happened at the past. Happy mylotting!

I would avoid him, definitely will. Fling or not, those feeling were from long time ago. Besides as you said, I were in a happy committed relationship. I found my guy, there's no way I would leave him just like that, even if the other still have feeling for me. I think I would still be friend with him, but I'll keep my distance.

I would tell them I'm in a relationship, and possibly be a snob about it. I don't have to be nice if I don't want to be. Of course, it depends on my feelings, I might just ignore them if they're not even worth that.