We've been talking marriage but...
By JJohnson79
@JJohnson79 (301)
United States
June 14, 2011 8:16pm CST
My man and I have been talking about the future like having more kids and marriage and running a successful business. But is it really a good time two people should get married? Like I've heard of people getting married just months after being with one another, so is it a specified time two adults should wait before they jump the broom? How soon is too soon? I don't think my man and I will hitch that fast but im just wondering if some of you put time limits on when it should happen?
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9 responses
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
16 Jun 11
Hi.. how long have you been together with your boyfriend? I Have been with mine for 5 years now and we have been talking about marriage too. I'm not saying that getting married depends on the time couples are together. But, far from it rather.
I think it's all about feeling. I don't think there should be any limits to be put on the time frame. Some people get married within 1 month, but there are other who don't get married even after being together for 10 years.
I guess it really depends on the view of both parties and whether both of you are committed when and ready when the time comes. I believe it would be a natural process.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
We haven't been together very long and it shocked me when he brought the marriage thing up. I knew he was serious when he kept taking about it. I know only time will tell and when that time comes, its gonna be the happiest day of our life. Right now we're just enjoying eachother and being in love. But I can't help but to think about it. It puts a smile on my face every time
@frankiej (5)
• United States
15 Jun 11
Yep, definatly depends on the people and the situation! I dated my husband for one year before we got married. I was only 17, but have been married for 5 happy years so far. I know now i was too young, but, like I said I am happy and would not change it for the world.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
That's good girl and who cares about the age, you knew what you wanted and you're happy. And happiness is all that matters. Now days its hard to even be in a relationship for more than a year and to be married for five years is a good thing. Im happy for you guys. I hope that when that time comes for me and my baby to say I DO that it will last for years and years and years. I wanna grow old with my baby
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
15 Jun 11
I think it depends on so many different things that only you will know when the right time is. I think it's important to really know the person first, obviously, and to have discussed priorities such as children and religion, but I don't think anyone can set an amount of time that it should take for two people to determine they are ready for this step.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
We are still in the learning stage and you can never really know a person completely but we are trying to cover all bases. We talk alot about priorities and our kids and having more kids. So far we agree on alot of things and have the same views on alot.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Well, that depends on both of you. If you both think that you are financially stable already as well as you feel that you can't last a day without you seeing each other then, you are ready for marriage.
My husband and i felt that way too when we were just sweethearts, so we decided to get married. We didn't regret it.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Oh my goodness we can't go a few hours without talking to eachother. Obviously he doesn't live with me and if he did....Oooooh it'll be something else. We text like crazy or on the phone talking till one of us falls asleep. Time will tell and I think God will let us know when the time is right.
@EndlessNameless (48)
• United States
15 Jun 11
I was engaged five months after I put my husband. We were married within the year. I don't believe that any time is too soon and nothing should stand in the way of what you want. if you want to get married, get married! In the end it's only about you two.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
Well I think it says alot for him to even bring up marriage more than one time. Usually guys don't initiate conversations like that but my baby didn't hesitate to bring it up. It says alot about his character and I really love that about him. Like he even said I love you first, now that really shocked me. Im crying now just flashing back to that moment...lol but we will get married when we feel its right. This is something I want with him, he's the only man I want and love
@nachimuthu (1)
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15 Jun 11
you may think that you and your fiance have talked about everything., but have you discussed the issues that will make your marriage work?
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
We are still going thru our likes/dislikes about eachother and in life. Right now we're trying to learn all there is to know about eachother and we're spending time just enjoying eachother. We know that we love eachother very much and that we're going to be together till the end so its really no rush and I don't find anything wrong with talking about it and the future. Its good to have a plan and that's what we are establishing
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
I love it when we talk about it. But he's always the one to bring it up. I agree and don't think its a time frame on it, im ready whenever he is. But its like everyday he falls more and more for me. We're like two kids going thru puppy love and I love the feeling he gives me inside. Like my heart gets all warm inside when I hear his voice or look at him...awwww I love my baby
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
You and him can only tell. How you see marriage life depends on how you work for it. You have to consider many things before you say "I do". Don't be deceive with the enchanted feeling of getting married. Lastly, love seals it all no matter what are the existing insufficiency between you.
@youaremylush (479)
• United States
15 Jun 11
I would say that it depends on the couple. I had a few classes with a girl who had only dated her husband for a few months before they got married and they've been married for five years now. I personally wouldn't do it. I would want to date someone for awhile and know for sure. I'm only getting married once and I'm not going to waste it on someone who I'm going to end up divorcing in a few months or years.
@JJohnson79 (301)
• United States
16 Jun 11
He actually brought it up to me and its something I've been wanting but in the past didn't find the guys I was with to be worth it. So it began to be out of sight out of mind. Then my man came along...I didn't think he was serious when he first brought it up but then he kept asking how I felt about it and that he wants me to be his wife. When he writes my name on something, he puts his last name and tells everyone im his wifey. He leaves me notes and signs 'your hubby'. I think its cute and im ready for it. Im not getting any younger and I love him very much. But still only time will tell
