Would you leave your mate if he/she...

I am stuck with my husband since there is no divorce in my country. I believe in my vow "For better or for worse". So it is not likely that I would get rid of him. Fortunately, I was able to marry a very responsible man who at an early age was trained by her mom to help in their household chores. He is more domesticated than me. In fact, he cooks better and irons better than me. So I wouldn't trade him for any other husband in the world.

leaving is not the answer you should work it out.try to tell to your partner what you dont like.telling your feelings about it will help your relationship.

I am a man, who want a spouse who could do the housework. I will help my spouse, if my spouse wants to learn to do household chores. If my partner has a desire to learn, I will maintain my relationship. But, if my spouse does not care, and do not want to learn, I'll leave my spouse.

Hi, i think there's a difference between refusing and don't know how to do. I think you should check with you mate whether he knows know to do it but just don't want to do it or he really don't know how to do it. If he really don't know, perhaps you can teach him the skills. Futhermore, there's not much skills to cleaning etc. I personally can't cook too, but my boyfriend is willing to cook for me at times. It gets tricky if he simply refuses to help you out. Perhaps then, you can try talking to him and tell him that you would appreciate his help very much. Nobody's perfect and I think when we love someone, we should accept them. The important thing is that you mate loves you and treats you well. However, it would definitley be a good plus if he/she is able to help you out. I think you should talk to him properly.

I wouldn't be in a relationship with a person if they couldn't do anything. I can't be expected to do everything (even though I'm totally willing to as long as I do no yard work or take out the trash). Why would someone be with a person like that? That's so stupid.

I would be out of there in a snap. I really wouldn't make my significant other do all of those things for me, but if they were unwilling to pitch in and help, then something is seriously wrong. I don't play around with this kind of thing. I would be gone so quickly.

Other girls would say that if your first preference when choosing for a mate is someone who knows domestic duties, then you are not looking for a wife or partner but a domestic aid or helper. What if she doesn't know anything about those household chores? Will you let her go even you love her so much? Anyway, those house chores can be learned in time, you just have to give her time. If you love her that much then you are willing to assist her until such time that she have learned her duties at home.

Well, some people are just a slot when it comes to house work, it already a blessing if the man can pick up his own rubbish and not made things a mess,that is alright already, if compare those pig man who like to make a mess and drop rubbish everywhere in the house and dirtup the inside the house and expect everything to be tidy the next round.

Well, if we are smart, we will insure our mates have those skills before getting serious. Sometimes though, those things don't seem so important at first because we are in the first flush of love and passion and cannot see very far into the future. I was raised by my mom alone and my mom stressed the need for me to know how to take care of myself both financially and domestically. As a result, I have found that I am a lot better at those domestic skills than many women i know. But if I had accepted the fact that my mate did not do those things initially, then it would not be fair for me to expect my mate to change and so I would not leave my mate. On the other hand, since those things are important to me, I simply would not move in with someone that does nothing in the home regardless of the money they contribute.

If in case my mate works while i don't, then i could very well accept the responsibility of doing the chores at home. It will be selfish of me to make him work at home, after he has worked the whole day. However, when both of us worked , then we should also share in the household chores. If he doesn't like , then maybe you can talk it over with him and give him the ultimatum.

well in a relationship there are things that a couple must understand, a partner should help each other what ever work they have. if your partner doesn't want to do things like helping her/his partner then there is something wrong, when a couple love each other they must be helping each other, they should change for better relationship. If my partner are like that i will talk to him/her in a nice way and tell her everything, your problem and other things. aside from that don't also forget that we must also appreciate the good things he/she do. Let us remember that in a relationship we have to learn to appreciate good things from our partner. Happy mylotting:)

You have a pretty big problem.I'd never been to such a person.Since there are no elemantarnoto education simply can not be with me.or her to take in hand or close to it.So by ene I hope I'm helpful. Have a nice day!

I could never be with a person so helpless to be honest with you. It's just not someone who would mesh well with my personality.

hi I knew my husband is disabled when we got married. He cant work any more and gets a disability check every month so obviously I would be the main bread winner. This didnt stop me from marrying him. I said okay so you do the housekeeping as you cant work and I keep my job I have held for over 10 years and commute a lot to work and back You never know what the future will bring. See I have back problems now for years so I could not wash the floors or if I try I will pay for it with terrible pain. So I suggested I do more of the ironing as thats not painful for me and he does the floors. You just have to find a good compromise sometimes. I married him for better for worse so if he cant do something I will have to and vice versa.

First of all, talk about it. As you said, these are skills, and skills can be learned. But first, he/she must realize that it is becoming a burden for you. Once that is clear, hopefully, he/she will try to meet you halfway - acquire the skills, do his/her part. Relationships are a give and take, a sharing. If he/she refuses, then that's another thing that should be addressed. But my point is that per se, lack of certain skills should not be reason right away to leave a partner. You should first try to work through it, just like everything else.

I wouldn't marry him in the first place if I noticed that he is too lazy to do some things on his own. I am not her maid. We should be helping each other not me serving her to please him.

Hi... See this is not ethics to leave your mate if he or she is not good at work... Whatever your expectations whatever you want to see in your mate.. you should make it clear previously...that what you want from your mate before getting indulge in relationship with him or her.. after making relationship to leave him or her is i think spoiling his or her life.. you should clear each and everything previously...

If my mate lacked in some skills then i would try to help him learn them and change but if he is not willing then i dont thnk i can bare the agony of doing everything on my own.Relationships are about helping each other hense both partes should participate.