Holding a grudge

i don't like holding grudges. Life is too short to be holding grudges forever. I have an ex-friend that is still mad at me when we were roommates. She expected me to pay 200 a month which was no big deal but the utilities were in my name and she expected me to pay them too. She put my stuff out on the lawn because I refused to pay her 200+all utilities so she holds a grudge towards me still to this day she won't talk to me. It's sad since we were friends since we were 9 yrs old.

It's strange but when I was living with my ex and we disagreed in an unfriendly way, it was usually at night. I would be fine next day but after work, I would be waiting for him to come home and getting anxious that he would still be angry with me. The thing is, he never, ever was. Yet, I would still have that anxiety whenever we had a spat.

Hi missybear, I don't hold a grudge for the very reason that you give, 'why hold a grudge and be mad when you can make up and be happy'?. It makes no sense at all yet some people fail to understand this, maybe they just enjoy being miserable, or it's what they grew up experiencing and it's the only way they know. Blessings.

Heyya missybear! Your discussion reminds me of something my grandfather told me a long time ago. He said that one of the keys to a healthy marriage was never go to bed mad at each other. He said that fights will happen but to never sleep on the issues. I don't hold a grudge..I actually want to forget the bad things and move on. It has to be something very very hurtful for me not to be able to do that.

Well, if will be back in some other things if I am angry. I don't want to hurt someone that why need things to do to ease my grudge...

No i don't. I'm the kind of person that gets mad pretty quick but I forgive people just as quick too. I just forget I was mad with someone and move on with my life. I don't like the idea of holding a grudge against someone. I feel that's like a burden.

It is our human nature to get hurt that is the tendency why we hold grudge when things will not be patched up immediately. It is also a struggle to overcome the feeling of being hurt. Once you overcome that feeling and you will humble yourself, you would be able to forgive and things will be fine with you and the other person.

As a human being, we always learn to forgive, and not to hold our grudge too long against others. I would like to think about our happy time, and hope to give him/her a second chance even though he/she made a mistakes. We all made mistakes, and we just hope that we can do better in next time, and not to commit the same mistake all over again. That is our life.

I definitely have to agree, I try to avoid grudges and staying angry. Every couple fights, its part of human nature. That's what makes a relationship interesting. My hubby and I disagree and at times argue, even though we don't argue often, we tend to have our disagreements once in a while, but after being upset for an hour we always make up. Most importantly we never go to sleep angry and not talking to each other, I personally think that is the worst thing you could do. The fun part is making up, so at times we look forward to the arguements. LOL!!!

Absolutely not.I think that holding a grudge makes you a loser because it gives a burden in your heart and mind.You can't do things with the right intention and can't truly be happy with the heaviness in your heart.Some people think that they could be happy if they can harm the people they hated but it's far from reality.It's still good to forgive someone and live a peaceful life.

It is normal to hold some grudges over people, things, events. It is advisable to keep away from people when this monster visits you. Prayer, and the creed of compassion and forgiveness could melt its power. It is unwise to hold a grudge for long..very unwise, and it's not good for one's health, too.

I have tried to hold grudges with someone but it didn't really helped. I was not living in peace because everytime I see that person my day is really ruined. And I can't even concentrate. Worst is when she started to live at our house because she's the fiance of my brother. I couldn't do anything but just to ignore her until my brother confronted me on the way I treat her gf. Mind you, the girl really is mean. But one day, I got tired of hating her, I got tired of thinking what she would think about me. And I just gave up my hates on her. I started not to focus on her anymore and focus on other things. Sooner or later, maybe we can be real friends hehe..

I am certainly one to hold a grudge. It may not be healthy, or it may not be the best way to deal with things, but that is just the way that I am. When someone does something that I feel is wrong, I will sulk about it. Perhaps I should think about changing my ways, but I doubt that I really will.

i am the kind of person who says what she wants to say but eventually gives up at hating the person. i forgive easily and i forget. people see this as a weakness but if my attitude would be like some that holds grudjes, maybe not that long.

No....I like to get past it. I have once in a great while held a grudge for a very long time...but that was because it was more then just an argument. But for the most part life is too short to be caught up in something like that eating away at you!

I don't hold a grudge at all unless it's a behavior that repeats. Sorry doesn't mean much if the person keeps doing the same thing over and over again.

I don't like to be one to hold a grudge. I don't like the kind of person that ends up making me to be. i like to overcome the obstacles and move on in a positive way. it is just better for everyone when that can happen.

Life is something that is fragile and fickle at very best. There are just a lot of points in life where whether we get angry with friends, family, or loved ones, where there is some huge blow up a lot of the time. There tends to be a rather harsh situation when something like this happens. No doubt we are going to be mad for a few days. However, we really should not let something like that stick with us for too much, no matter what the relationship is, no matter what the reasoning is. Yet, there are many people who have let their petty tantrums ruin something that might be salvaged. Sadly, that just does happen, neither person is willing to help mend the waters a lot of the time. Thus the anger really tends to bubble to the surface. Then the anger turns right into a full blown grudge, and we get quite angry to say the very least. In the end, it is really not worth having a grudge a lot of the time. It just tends to consume our lives past the point where it just ruins our point to move on or get over what happened. Life might be short or perhaps longer, but any time we have in this world is precious and can snap in an instant.

Holding grudges is not wise.I try my best to makeup after a misundertanding especially with my fiance though sometimes i tend not to forget the incident even after we have made up but i try my best not to bring it up again.

I don't hold a grudge at all... I rarely even get mad.. if I should get upset, I am over it in about 10 minutes.. I just don't let things bother me. I guess if someone stole from me or whatever, I might hold a grudge for a little bit.. or maybe just to never trust that person again.