I Love You Daddy....
@Masihi (4413)
Canada
June 19, 2011 5:02pm CST
...wherever you are.
Today's Father's day and my daddy has been missing since February 1985. I have nothing but fond memories of him. He tried to raise me as best as he could, working full time, getting me into daycare, and finally seeking Children's Aid for help. I was in touch with him up until 1985 and that's when he went missing. Nobody knows, and even the police don't have any idea. He didn't leave any trace, no clue, nothing.
I may be bitter towards my biological mother, who's still alive, but has disowned me because she never wanted anything to do with me in the first place even as a baby. But I know my Daddy loved me right until he died...well, we all assumed he passed away. I'm not bitter or hurt on Father's Day.
I know this may seem futile, but I have to let this out...just wanted to say I love you Daddy, wherever you are, you'll always be in my heart
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@bird123 (10643)
• United States
19 Jun 11
Hi, Masihi. Go to a mirror and look into it. One thing you must realize. You are half your dad so even though your dad is not around, he will never ever really be gone. Yes, my dad has also passed away. So many times I see him in my own actions. I bet you can do the same. As for dear ole mom who disowns you, perhaps it's time to start teaching your mother. Simply because she disowns you doesn't mean you have to disown her. Show her what a daughter is all about. Show up at her door with love, kindness, and gifts. Don't be someone she can get rid of so easily. Teach mom what it's all about. Sometimes people make bad choices and if nothing happens, they think nothing is wrong. Even if your interactions with her cause drama, keep it up until she discovers how priceless a good loving daughter like yourself really is. There might just be some love in your mom you don't know about. Her focus is not on the truly wonderful things in life. She needs a teacher to point the way. Who better than a loving daughter??
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
19 Jun 11
Well, I don't know where to start, I've only met her a few times, and every time I come in contact with her she'll hang up on me that sort of thing. She never reads any of my letters, nothing. She lives about 5 hours drive from where I live, anyway, and I'm just not going to put up with any more abuse. Some things are better left alone. There's nothing more that I can do. As I said, she never wanted me in the first place as a baby, she had to be talked into by my social worker to meet me when I was a teenager, and she refuses to have any more contact with me after I was out of care of Children's Aid.
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
19 Jun 11
I like what Bird reminded you about your dad being part of you. I realized some time ago that even though my dad and mom were not good as partners, their unique characteristics make me who I am.
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
20 Jun 11
Aww, what a beautiful statement, I'm so glad you have such a wonderful relationship with your father :-)
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
19 Jun 11
If he is alive, I imagine he knows you love him. It is good to know that he loved you as well. I feel sorry for your mom missing out on knowing all the great things about you. She has chosen this way but she is missing out. Your dad as a foundation has given you a lot of durability and it may be that the best thing he did for you was to get you some good care.
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@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
20 Jun 11
Well, that's what we all wish for...I really don't think he's alive because he did love his family, big time.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Jun 11
It is really sweet to read your discussion. I never met my father and do not know if he is alive or not. I am glad you have wonderful memories of you father and whether he is alive or not, he knows you love him dearly.
Continue keeping his wonderful memory alive in your heart.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
20 Jun 11
I'm so sorry you've never met your father, it must be hard after all these years and wondering, as a foster kid I can relate to that, big time. Yes, I'll always keep Daddy's memories close to my heart, and will tell my kids about him when they get older.
@zayasalyssa (28)
• United States
20 Jun 11
i hope the best for you. For me it was the opposite. My father left me as a child and my mother by herself raised me. I feel bad for parents who miss out on parenting. The don't know how much they have lost. Your father is watching over you, even when you don't realize it. It good that you knew he loved you. Some people live never t be loved. You one of the many lucky ones out there.
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