Help Me Deal With This User

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I'll try to summarize this as short as possible. I'd like everyone's opinion regardless if you're a pushover or a rude person. Maybe you can help me find a middle ground. I have a neighbor (she lives in the same building as me, but not right next door), and I need advice. I first met her when she asked me stand outisde last winter and hold her dog's leash while she went inside the office and made a call. After that I saw her outside a couple of times and her dog and my dog played with each other. Then a couple of weeks ago when the bad tornado hit and I was going to find a safer place to wait out the warnings, she let me inside her apartment because it was on a lower level (I'm at the top). I stayed there about 30 minutes until we got the all clear. The next day I brought her a Diet Dr. Pepper as a thank you for that because I had heard her comment once that it was her favorite drink. Okay, then go back just a little while ago, a few days when the roof came off half of our apartment building. Although both her and my apartments were okay, all of our electricity was out. When I saw her outside I asked her if she needed a flashlight and she said yes, but she had no money. I said don't worry. So I went to my parent's house, and my dad gave me a flashlight and told me to give this lady a flashlight as well. He even put fresh batteries in it. I went back that night and gave it to her. The next night she knocks on my door with her dog, and I let her in, with the dog. She sits down and starts watching TV with me. I'm thinking, this is nice, I've met a nice friend for a neighbor (it's not relevant, but she's around 58, and in good health). I don't think anything of it at the time, but notice her eyes light up when she finds out I have a car. About an hour after coming in, she leaves. Thirty minutes later she knocks on my door again. I let her in. She asks if I have a washer and dryer. I told her no, I can't afford that (I do my laundry at my parent's home and do my parent's laundry as well). She said she is out of clean clothes, and it costs $1.50 to do a load of laundry, and then $1.50 to dry it (we have a laundry on the premises). She asks if I can give her the money. Well, this is when my heart sinks. I think oh great, a user. So I give her the money, and she leaves. I'm very disappointed because I know people like this, who like to take whatever they can get out of you. So the next day she knocks on my door. I'm not feeling well at all, and have a slight migraine. I don't get the door. She has her dog with her and I can hear her dog scractch at my front door. This agitates my dog and Annabelle starts going nuts which does nt help my migraine at all. She comes back to my house 4 times that day, ringing my doorbell and knocking on my door. I do not answer it. The next morning around 8am she comes back and knocks on my door and rings the doorbell. I don't answer it. I leave for the day and around 6pm when I'm home, she knocks on my door again. I answer it, and there she is. You might think, oh she wants to pay you back the three dollars? Nope! She wants me to drive her to the library! (that is why she pounded on my door the day before) The library on the other side of town.I told her I'm not going to do that because I am tired, and she moans that her books are due back tomorrow. I told her she could go get her books and bring them to me and I'd take them back for her. She comes back with her bag of books, and her dog. Her dog comes into my apartment and promptly pees on my carpet. She comes in with a book bag full of hardcover books. I can barely pick it up. With the 10 or so back surgeries and procedures I have no idea how I'm going to get it down the stairs the next morning (I end up getting it down the stairs, but have to take a pain pill that night for the first time in days). So, she and her dog stay and watch TV, and then leave an hour later. She shows up the next morning at 9am. She tells me the two books on the top of her bag need to be re-checked, she wasn't done with them. I told her I am not going into the library. I will drop them off so she won't get a fine, but I'm not going to go in. She looks upset when I tell her that, but then leaves. That afternoon I bring her her bag back. By this time I'm sick of this. She wants to watch my TV, get money, me to take her places... And let us note that she smokes. So if she really needed money she could just not smoke. They give away things to help stop smoking. So she could very easily use her cigarette money for something else - even bus fare to go to the library. And obviously she has another way to get there. I mean someone brought her to the library in the first place. And gas is expensive! I cannot drive her all over town. I even know how much money she gets per month (she told me). She gets more than I do! She is not nuts, she has a nice family... So yesterday night I put up a hand written sign that says DO NOT DISTURB. I left it up yesterday and today. I heard her and her dog come up to my apartment four times, and when they saw the sign they turned back around and left. But I can't keep that sign up forever! I don't want everyone to stay away, just her. And how do you politely tell someone to leave you alone? Especially when you live in the same place and don't want to make enemies? I'm not required to do anything else right? I mean it's like she sees me as her new way to get what she wants. And she totally expects me to take her to the library again next week. I'm not going to, under no circumstances.