Quit slamming the door

Well, it just so happens that my front door is a bit heavy and when I walk in or out I have to hold the door so it can close gently. I did not realize it at first and would let it sort of slam when I entered or closed until one day the door slammed and knocked down my next door neighbor's picture frame. He approached me politely and asked me if I could be more careful and told me what happened with his picture. I solemnly apologized and now when i enter or exit my apartment I am aware and have not let the door slam again. Sometimes we need to let the neighbor know in a reasonably neighborly way. It helps. Of course there are always those neighbors that are simply unreasonable so perhaps you can make the complaint in that case.

Slammed doors is something that really irritates me as well. My dad has doors that slam shut and my sister and bro-in-law constantly let them slam shut. When we are staying at dad's (he's 98) they come and go in the early morning with no consideration for anyone else ...esp dad who doesn't wake till about 8:30... I'm a volunteer driver and I use my car and clients often slam the doors which is totally unnecessary and not good for the car. It doesn't matter how much I remind them , it's "oh sorry, I forgot". Report them and say that the excessive noise is disturbing your peace and quiet. You are entitled to quiet enjoyment of life. Good luck.

Yes, some people don't really care about the feeling's of others.They do what they please even though they know they are causing disturbance or annoys others through their actions.Slamming doors in and out is really irritating especially when you are doing something that needs silence or when you are sleeping. Maybe the best way is to talk to the concerned person in a mild manner, that slamming doors is not a good manner.

I don't like the sound of "slamming doors" neither, even though it's usually me who slams them ...but most of the time, it's the wind... That damn wind... What to do about it? NOT open both my windows AND my door...

I know exactly what you mean, I also find that so annoying when people slam doors for no apparent reason. I know it must scare the crap out of you because it scares me as well and I hate it. My son does it once in a while and he is only 5 so I know he doesn't know better, but I get so aggitated when he does it, lately I have been trying to teach him not to do that, but I still need a bit more work. If you live in a complex building (rental) or condominium I would approache them first in a nice way, especially if you don't know them personally, if that doesn't work then I would definitely put in the complaint to the building manager or owner. Because I am pretty sure that this is probably bothering other tenants as well.

hi missybear I would go there and tell them very politely that I would be happy if they stopped slamming the doors so much and that my lovely pictures and glassware are in danger of either falling down or getting shattered.

You are right. It is very rude to slam the door. I don't understand why people shall do so. I can understand that sometimes you will be very angry, but it doesn't mean that you should slam the door. It really bothers others. I wonder whether these people just want to get attention from others so that they will slam the door. I love China

I'd probably start by leaving a note on the door...

OMG! I am so with you on this one missy! I have two neighbors that constantly slam the door and my pictures shake too! I don't know how many times I asked these guys to stop slamming the door nicely and then started to just scream! And we have this "beotch ho" next door who slams the door when she comes home at 3:00AM! The office/management here doesn't care what goes on as long as "said tenant pays the rent"! This "ho beotch" has been a problem with banging, throwing furniture, playing piano all hours and we both are here 30 phucking years and every tenant below her has moved out because of her. She is diagonal to me and I can still hear everything she does and more!

You know slamming the door really is never something that bothers me but I can see why people can be bothered by it. Boy I can see why people are bothered by it. However, I tend to have other things to get irritated about around the neighborhood and around my home, when I say that trust me, but that's another issue entirely. I don't think I normally slam the door. Unless I get really, really, really angry. Beyond what is normal anger. Which thankfully does not happen all that often for me. Which is a good thing for people as when I really blow my top, I really do blow my top. With that aside, I really have no advice what to do. If that bothers you, report them. If you think it would do any good that is. However often times, people are going to be angry and that is going to lead to another set of problems. Well actually it may lead to another set of problems, providing whether or not they figure out who reported them. However, I can really see why people would be really bothered by people slamming doors. It can come across as quite annoying and really there are times where people might do it in anger, but they can't be angry that often. If so then we have an entirely different problem.

When in an office, we see to it that we don't slam the door whenever we pass through it. Nor do we vent out our anger at an office mate with slamming the door. We tend to slam the door when we are angry with someone. We don't want to be violent, yet we express our anger by doing it. But we can only do this when we are in our own houses, but never in the office, lest you will get a memorandum for doing it.

hi, actually i also hate and get mad easily to my neighbor or who ever it is when they slam the door so heavy,its really annoying especially when you are asleep,because you will shock due to the impact of the door.but because i dont like trouble,i will just ignore them even i feel annoy for that.

Hopefully you get it figured out. I don't like that either.My family, my mom and step-dad all live in the same house and my step-dad has that habit and it drives me crazy. What is bad is when you own your own house so you have to replace the doors yourself.Not much longer after we all moved into this house that we live at we had to replace the door from him slamming it. We've told him nicely that he doesn't need to slam it . It is rough on the door and messes it up. He is careless and the knobs even mess up. The door closes real easy.It's just when he closes it he doesn't close it properly he lets go of it to close it. It slams so hard sometimes that it doesn't even close. We will find it open. We've had to replace the outside door lots of times and not even a month goes by and the door is messed up from him slamming it.After the third door messing up my husband and I stopped replacing the doors because we can't afford it. He denies that he even slams the doors.As, he won't come clean to anything.The bad door is still there. It leaks but it isn't off its hinges yet. It leaked before the month was up like the other doors. It is maddening!

Hi Missybear, If it is that bothersome to you, I would complain also. Yes, grownups should have the courtesy to not slam doors.. you can kind of overlook kids for doing it, but adults should know better. If slamming doors is threatening to knock your pictures off the wall, then I would definitely make a written complaint to the office.

Sometimes people don't relize that they are slamming doors. Some just close doors without thinking, or maybe their door is hard to close, particuarly in certain types of weather. I do agree it can be annoying at times.

Hello!Encounter this kind of situation really worry about.Some people are so quality.They open the door or close the door never think about other people's feelings. I is such processing go directly to the parties said,don't do this.Let the person later attention!

Here, the habit is to have locks and door fittings that don't have a rotating handle on the outside. So, unless you use a key, you have to slam the door to make it close - rather like a car door. Yes, it's very annoying.

I would tell the office. You shouldn't have to listen to that at your complex. People should have respect for others who are living there. I'm sure there must be some ordinancy that they should be paying attention to. Funny story for you. When I was a kid, I got into an argument with my mother. I didn't feel like listening to her nag at me so I went in my room and slammed the door behind. Just to let her know I was mad. She proceeds to come into my room, scream at me some more and when she left she told if you are going to slam a door I needed to slam it right. For effect, she showed me how it should be done. She slammed the door and part of the hinge flew off. It bounced off my mirror and broke the window. All I could do was laugh. That really ticked her off. She got to buy me a new mirror and window. She was not happy. Best Wishes!

Wow! I'm sorry to know that you've been encountering such a situation. Well, It's normal for people to get mad wants to do something to release their frustration but if it (slamming doors) happens habitually then of course it's annoying specially when you're sleeping and you were waken up by the sound of a slammed door even worse when you hear them shouting and fighting near your place. Well, I think how you should deal with it will depend on how you know them (those people who slam their doors). Maybe you can tell them how it bothers you when they slam their doors and if they could at least control it. Make them know you exist and they got neighbors to respect. They may not be aware that they are disturbing someone. ;)