Getting Married?

Nowadays, it's not neccesary to marry a person, if you don't want to. I met my partner 11 years ago, we have two nice children and everything is going well. Wedding is only one day in your life where you spend plenty of money and at the end it's only for a paper saying that you are married with... I am sure that there are still many persons who give certain importance to the wedding day, but it's only an emotional point. I prefer to be practical. Many years ago, as women didn't work outside home to earn money, they needed to marry. It was like a life insurance. This point actually changed in many places. But, how many couples don't get divorced nowadays? I knew couples living together for years and everything was fine and going well. When they decided to get married, three month after they asked to get divorced again. So, is it really necessary to get married? In my opinion, there are many other ways to show someone that you really love him/her.

Well, in my opinion, you are not yet so in love with your boyfriend. Because if you are , then you will already be willing to marry him and have your family name be changed into his. It's strange that you don't want to be the center of attention. Weddings are for the bride and groom, so the attention will all be theirs. It's your day, so everybody's attention will really be on you.

For me you against the law of Jehovah God the maker of married because before you are together you must be married first yes many today that they are not married first they live in and no married but in the eyes of Jehovah God it is fornication it is not to inherit God's kingdom if you do that in your life.

I guess you are not yet ready to get married hence the hesitation. I guess if you are quite ready and have found the right person then you will not have any second thoughts. All I know is that you'd be ready to loose yourself when you find the right man at the right time.

Ok this is my opinion or my advice, I think that it is more to what you are making yourself believe I think that you feel that you would lose you idenity as a woman if you give up your lastname, just incase something happens you will still be who you are as your idenity. God intended for the woman to take on her husband lastname, to become as one, Do you feel that you would be givin ghim to much power if you did so. If this man loves you unconditionally and treat you like you want and need to be treated than why not go for it, Don't look at society and how they got married and who they got married to, just look at what you have and who you have. That is your woeld I mean granted you do want to becareful, especially if you have been married before, or have had bad relationships. but being that you have some demands out right than if you all talked about it, and he don't agree I would recommend that is something that you deal with before walking down the isle, and honey stop being so stubborn, and strong headed. getting married don't have nothing to do with being a mans world, God said that a man who finds a wife find agood thing, so as you walk to your husband, you are walking to the man who you are about to share a life with, you are a representation of new life, one day to bare his children if you didn't already. when walking down the isle to him you are becoming one with this man, and rightfully you are to take your husband lastname. that is how you become the MRS not the MS. I think that you might have some fears that are to hide and you don't want to share, I know how you feel, but to love someone and be with them for the rest of your life, you have to be willing to let go and let this man have you as his wife, so remember that certain rules where set in place for a reason, and the problem is everyone wants to add their own rules and change things up that is why people marriages don't work or they fail because everyone wants to change the rules that where alreay set in place, you can't be in control all the time honey LOL LOL. But if you are truly ready and he is ready I would say go for it, and create a foundation for people that are getting married after you.

Getting married is not just a playful act but is a spiritual pact for both people who agreed to be together at best and worst times. It's not actually how you will be seen by everyone on what gown you'd wear, or how your fiancee should propose to you. It's a life long commitment that needs two people to be devoted to to make it work. Evaluate your relationship first if marriage is worth entering and don't rush things. God bless on your relationship!

I agree with you. You shouldn't get married.

I think that if you're happy together, you should stay the way you are. But since you've been with your partner for a long time, ask him why he keeps asking you to marry him, and consider, rationally his response. If you do decide to ever get married, you guys can go to the courthouse with no one else but you two and the judge, and you should not have to use his last name if you marry him, he would be as much your husband as you would be his wife, and the name changing thing seems like he will buy you off a store, so if it doesn't make you comfortable, don't change it. It seems to me as if you have some preconceptions about marriage that may have been passed on to you as a child and that's why you feel that if you were married, there are some things you'd HAVE to do. Your marriage is yours, not anybody else's, you can make it what you want and not what everyone else thinks it should be. Good luck!

There is nothing wrong with that. you guys can always go to the court house and just have two people there. You can still have a dress or what ever you want to put on. Also you both dont have to change you names. My sister got married and she never changed her last name.

hi dear, getting married so not that bad, if you don't like to have dinner then you can go travel for wedding (honeymoon)than just have press release to let your friends and relatives know that you are married already, this is very comon now, so just go ahead. best wishes to you