When do you say it is over?

It is simple but hard to do. When you say goodbye , you have to mean it! I wonder why he ran so hot at first?My guess? He loves the chase, but once he knows you or any woman loves him he is bored. If he isn't treating you right , then let him go. And don't let him come back. There is a guy out there who will take his time. He will get to know you And then fall for you. Just leave this jerk, mend your heart And keep it open. Then when you are ready , try again.

Well, a player can't do anything if you refuse to be played. I know that it can be hard to follow what the mind says especially when it's about love. But, there is someone better for you. If you don't let yourself out from this guy's clutches, you'll be in for one very miserable relationship. Help yourself, honey, you don't deserve him. :(

yes that does sound like he's playing you, like many have said it here you'll be fine, take it easy just remind yourself every day how much he hurts you in time you'll get over him and probably the whole 'love' thing it helps if you get busy. maybe go back to school, get a new hobby, or get a part time job on top of your current source of income that way you are on the move constantly and also keep meeting new people you never know, one of them may be the one

sunnystarfish, I believe a relationship, is liken to taking a bus journey together where sometimes people just do not have the same destination as you. I can understand the feelings that you have inevitably developed for this person but if the both of you could not reach a mutual understanding, then it would be better off letting him go. There's no point leeching onto him with your personal narcissistic belief that there will be any likelihood for the both of you to get back together here. I say, let the relationship and him go, for there will be always another person that will come along. You just do not need to be restricted to such an insecure person that like a chaff will be carried away when there's a strong testing wind that sweeps by ever so often with time. Remember the tale of the 3 little pigs, I believe you will need to be like the one who will be willing to build the house with solid bricks together. Nothing is lost if you were to look at this breakup from above and let me just add here that if you want to seek new islands, you got to first lose sight of the current shore. Take care and have a nice day.

The simple answer is that if you do not feel as though things are working, and you are not happy with this guy, then you need to tell him that your relationship is over and that nothing that he can say or do is going to change your mind about that. Relationships are important in our lives, and spending too much time with the wrong person is bad for us and also means that we are wasting time which we could actually be using to look for the partner who we will spend the rest of our lives with. You have to protect yourself, as you are the most important person in your own life.

You can talk things out. It wouldn't make a lesser you if you'd tell him you are already so into him. And ask him out what's bothering him why you can't be in to something you wanted to be. I mean, if he's still going out with you every now and then there's also something in him, unless he's really that a player. Communication is a tool. And it can help you solve it, either you could go to the next level, or you can properly close it with a GRACEFUL exit. Not ending up hurting each other. Getting it over doesn't always need to be painful. If you could still save the friendship, then go save it, by drawing clear lines. And give yourself a break. See ya. Bless you. chuyins

You'll be in what they call "friends with benefits" kind of relationship. Until you give more value to yourself that guy would be reaping the benefits while you on the other hand will be slowly losing your self esteem. Love yourself first more than you'll love others for only for doing do that that you would truly love others. I'm not sure if I'm making sense but I pretty confident you know what I mean.

Both of you can talk things over. Find out what you like and what you do not like and let both of you know what you really want from the relationship. I believe there should openess in the affairs and it should not be blind. If you love him and you want him then go for it. But if you do not want him then tell him straight and he goes.

My sister went through a similar situation with a guy that she fell head over heels for. He used and abused her all the time. If he needed a ride somewhere he would come around to see her again. If he needed anything he knew she would do it because she was so in love with him. Don't let him do that to you, your better than that and you can do better than him. =) Hope this helps!

What I would do is either tell him this is going to go somewhere or kick him completely. At first he was the one dying to be something more, but now that you've established with yourself that you want that too, he backs off? That's not fair to you because you wanted it to go slower at first so that it WOULD work. YOu need to tell him that now that you've taken the time to go slowly, he needs to be willingly to move beyond going slow, otherwise there will be nothing left with what you have.

The two of you need to sit down and talk about what you truly want from each other. Half of the time, us men are afraid of telling what's really on our minds, but if you can fish it out of him, maybe this whole thing will make sense to you

Just do a clean cut break up and never contact him again. Move on with life. Even if he comes back to you just ignore him as though he as a invisible man. He probably just likes flirting. Like a rubrics cube. Once he solve it, his bored.

I think if he don't want to fight for you and make your relationship status "official" hes a jerk. You deserve someone worth of your time and your love. Don't settle for someone you don't deserve. It's just difficult in the start because it's hard to adjust from the routine in your life involving him.

sometimes you may have to press alittle. talk with him and convince him there was something there but there isnt anymore. if he is so concerned and cares for you he should understand ull be friends and thts it. if he dont get tht then put your foot down and tell him how it is. if he cares he will cooperate

you cant force him to love you just because you love him. and if you think he has plans of playing around with you, then you have 2 choices.... to play his game, or to be wiser. if you're not as evil as me, then you just have to be wiser that he's not making a fool out of you. :)