Reading some discussions I really feel Helpless and Hopeless

Hi mtr Good to see you here on my discussion (these are become rare... lol) Yes, when I too dont see a friend being regular at mylot I start missing him/her. And the family seems incomplete. I did this on a few such occasions - I hopped on to the profile of this lotter, followed a couple of discussions where s/he participated and dropeed on to his/her box and sasid Hi - 5 occasions and finally s/he reverted back. I PMed informing that I was worried and that was all. Good for me that s/he did not report me as these responses to boxes were just only Hi! How are you doing! The wishes be it in form of prayers or just wishes, do get some good done if they are from the heart and not just for the sake of filling up the space. I have tested both ways (here and away) and found that the ones from the heart are far more effective.

Hi PQ! Can I just call you PQ for short,hehe! Yes,sometimes we are already used to seeing friends here especially when we posted our own discussion and a friend did not make a reply. 2 days a friend is not here could somehow make us wonder where can he/she be. Even though they are our virtual friends,they still complete our day here in mylot.

I sometimes worry about people too who have gone missing. I'm fairly new now, but still I know when a member hasn't been around for a while.

Religion is not the issue here. My positive outlook in life is not brought about by religion but rather by my personal relationship with Jesus. The Holy Word of God is my rule in life and though you may not believe it I do implement it in my life. His Word is the lamp unto my feet and the light unto my path. But this does not necessarily mean I am a religious person. No I am not. I do have a religion but I would prefer to be called godly rather than religious. In most cases, religious people tend to engage in rituals and activities which their religion dictates so but without personal relationship with Jesus any religion is useless. Yes indeed to worry is a natural tendency of man. But as a Christian God has given me the wisdom to know that to worry is not what God wants me to do in time of problems. Why because worrying will not solve the problem anyway. If I worry, will it accomplish anything? Secondly, worrying is not good for me. It could give me a mental burden that might even affect my heart and mind. Thirdly, worrying is the opposite of trusting. If I worry over problems of life it is just synonymous to lack of trust in God. My God is bigger than all the problems in this world for He is the Creator so instead of worrying I would rather just pray and ask God for help and comfort for me and for every one concerned. Yes I do care and I do have concern over problems of friends and even those people not related to me but to care and to be concerned is not equal to worrying. What I mean by care and concern is to do something that could lead to solution of the problem. Now with things happening around us where I have no direct hand to help find solution, I know I can still care and be concerned. I can always pray and ask God to comfort and help those people. Instead of worrying and being negatively affected, I would rather pray. I am a Christian and only a Christian can understand my points here. Sorry if I confused you dear but it would be really hard for you to really get my points because you are not in faith. Our difference lies on the fact that you are ruled by your heart while I am ruled by my God. So sorry dear if you can't really understand. But nevertheless, I still would like to share my mind and heart: While worrying could naturally come to anyone it is always better not to dwell in worry. The best is to tell God whatever those worries and concerns are. My principle is to bring every concerns and worries at the feet of Jesus and let Him guide me or the person concern in doing the solution or God Himself would do whatever would be best. I always do that because when I do, I am converting the useless worry into precious trust. Trusting God and His power to make all things work together for the good of those who love Him gives a Christian (like me) a peace that passes understanding. Yes, despite all the problems in life whether be it mine or others I am always at peace. Praying is what kept me from being worrisome. I know that in everything God is always in control and He has a reason for every thing that He allows to happen. So me... I never dwell in worry. I am always careful about the tendency to worry and instead I am always prompt in letting God know about my concerns by prayer and supplication.

Hi Salonga Interesting response here. I wonder what religion has to do with worrying about friends or family? I dont agree with the point here as I dont get it. It is human nature to get worried at least in such situations when you are uncertain about what happens to your friend or a family member. Yes, religion does propund a hell lot of things buit honestly how many do you reallly implement in your life as mentioned in the Holy texts? This depends entirely on the person and I am sure, you would get worried if any of your family member or a close friend fell ill and you could not reach him/her. Sorry again, but I differ. I am ruled by heart, have no religion and always believe that Religions teach us to be there around when someone needs us in bad times. Would be great if you could clarify my doubts and misunderstanding of your response.

Hi thesids I just wondering around when I see this response and your comment and I will say that you two have some misunderstanding but please don't get me wrong I'm not that interfering here... I just want you to see thesids about what you said in your comment to salonga, I read her response to your discussion and I think it's nice, but you misunderstood what she really want you to see... She know it and she mentioned it that worrying is natural to man, and of course she still worry in life but the point here is she know what to do in times of problem because God's word was in her heart that's why she said worrying is useless that it can't do a progress to solve a problem. And that's not about religion, it's about personal relationship and living with GOD... And please my friend... you said you ruled by your heart, please see these in your heart now, let us understand each other here in our heart... God bless you thesids and you too salonga!

Hi thesids,I am glad you found a couple of lotters and I to hope that the prayers continue to help those who are feeling bad.I wish you well my friend and have a great day.

Hi funnysis Well, I thought a few others (who are emotional like me) would feel the same and luckily I did find more than a couple of lotters I hope the prayers continue to work for all of us who are pained reading and living that pain.

Hello my friend. Sorry I didn't notice you were feeling alone and depressed recently. Anyway, I hope you're already doing fine now? I am just a text away. You know where to reach me. Aight? See ya.

Hi toni There are times when even those nearby cannot help and in times when completely unknown people can matter. I am happy that you could find someone who tried his/her best to help you out when it mattered. I must say a great friend Agreed we can help friends out here via our prayers or even giving them some words of comfort

Hi Sids, True enough, we can help out friends here through our words of solace and prayers. chuyins

Hi PointlessQuestions Supportive? As in responses to the discussions or anything beyond the Discussions? Sorry I have to ask as I am unclear about how the supportive can be implemented. For me, I do post my response and then if s/he is in my friends list, I PM or if I have the email or contact number, I try reaching out that way.

Hey that is wonderful. Leaving a comment - maybe on the discussion, or the PM or even the profile. Now I get to know the larger side of it

When I say I try to be supportive, I mean I am being supportive of their feelings. I try to Leave a comment that makes them feel better after 'talking' with me.

Hi near You are quite correect. I have experienced this "Powerful words" thing and have seen it work on the right way. But dont you think that for this to work, there should be a connection (maybe a better or stronger friendship) than a mere box of participation between the two?

If you're talking about words of prayers, it can happen at anywhere and it can be directed to anybody, even a stranger.

it should, but sometimes words of a stranger can go a long way to help a person out. but i see where you are coming from with this

Oh Bhai! That is so sweet. I love your two too. I know it is hard when friends just disappear.But all we can do is wish them well and hope they return.

My behen We are not away now. We are together in a family. Me, you and bahu. I feel it is like my behen is gone to work in a different place (like many in families do) and stay connected via emails, phone calls or other media. For the friends who are here and confined to MyLot only, I have a few whom I can contact via email or phone. For others, I think I can only participate via their discussions or even send them a PM to find out more. And a few will return to respond to the PMs.

Hi zandi These are great words from a great lotter and I learned something new - PMA. I would definitely try following up with this rule as I too agree with you that the expereience of being to be in service to others in need does really mean much to me.

Hi Saphrina You are one special person who like me always have stood by this - "We are all humans at the other end" and I love this approach. You can always give your advice to me as I look for it my dearest and yes, it will never backfire but will come across you at times when you need them. I will not believe if you said - You will not try to go beyond MyLot in case you knew some special friend(from MyLot) of yours was in need. (as I said - My personal thought and belief, no offence or any other intention)

Hi GF I remember and should say I know how you feel when it comes to sad discussions from friends. Writersedge! I remember you PMing me and bringing us together. I am so glad that the PM happened between us and we are now friends. I had later PMed her and came to know that she is doing better as her reports and doctors tell her that. This makes me feel happy. Unfortunately there seem to be less Lotters like you around and this discussion was just to find a few Lotters of our kind. Oh, I missed you a lot my dear.

I miss you also my dear friend and I remember you stated you were busy, but I do wonder from time to time if you are okay. I miss being called GF.

Hi inu The last few weeks I found many of my friends sharing such discussions and I felt this way as I could do nothing more than merely participate in their discussions and later write them a PM to find out if all was well at their end. It is sad that they had to go through (or are going through) such phases in life. I wanted to participate more and help them but as I mention, we are separated by miles - and even at times by thoughts and feelings.

Of course it is sad that they had to go through such phases in life. I wish nobody would go through such sad moments. But this is life. The distance can't help us be there for our on-line friends and the most we can do is to be there with a positive thought and with a prayer.

Hi Jlyn We may be very distant in this virtual world, but we are very close at heart. Read that twice and felt so happy. At least there are some people who think my way The small set of prayers that we do, I have seen them work for a few of my friends going by what they say and I love this when my prayers are heard specially for my friends

Aawww, thesids, I'm glad we have the same thoughts. It's true that I hold every friend very close at heart, regardless of whether they treat me the same way or not but I still hold them as very special to me. Some may have done something bad in their lives, but all they need is proper guidance to lead them to the path of righteousness. Some may be having financial problems, but if we can offer even a tiny bit of help, we may help save a life. Some may be having health problems, and like you said, a small set of prayers is all it takes. Let's just face it, we may not have much time left as many are saying that the end of the world is near. So, let's just enjoy each others' company and have fun while we are still able. Make peace, not war.

Hi macayadann Thanks for those kind words that give me enough boost to continue on. I am touched by your deed of PMing and trying to go beyond MyLot to stand by the mentioned friend. This is an act that normally I expect all should do but uunfortunately only a few mention this. I tried a discussion about a friend (who wasnt until then) and now we are friends and she is better in health and undergoing treatment. I think, we can all extend our friendship and make it last longer and enduring by small deeds that are done from the heart rather than merely to get some cents here at MyLot or other social sites. Have a great day and Happy MyLotting

Hi sjvg I am sorry to read what your friend and his father are going through. I wish his father a speedy recovery. I can understand the pain and the efforts they are puting in battling that horrible disease. I always believe in situations where we cannot be present, our thoughts and prayers work many a times. And GOD listens to these many a times too.

But the only thing on vitual word we can do is to pray GOD for the betterment of the friend. And i feel when many people together pray for one person GOD always listens it.

Hi manong Experiences like this one help us to grow as a person and be understanding I loved this part of your response as it reflects me Such experiences do teach us and strengthen our belief in Prayers as I feel this is the best we can do when we are miles apart and when the Prayers get us better results we start believeing in out Lord more than before

Hi eshaan didi I had been suffering from some kind of fever since last week. Now it seems to have gone. So I have logged in and find more than 2000 emails to handle. I will be offline for the rest of this month too as I have to read through these emails and start getting back to normal. Been a while that I have been normal. Weakness, hangovers of medicines - 18+hrs of sleep a day and what not. We will catch up on chat maybe on 1st.

Hi marguicha I am so happy to find you on my discussion. And you have arrived with a great news and I will wait for the results. I did see your discussion about the Buenos Aires and it is great that you are planning a trip to your friend. I am so happy that you are a caring friend and it makes me proud to have you as a friend here at mylot. As always, I wish you a speedy recovery Take care.

Hi mamu Wait. I am not acknowledging the same thing. your discussion was - Please dont post - I am saying please post as I feel these discussions bring people closer. I am only trying to find out what steps I or anyone can take beyond the normal Posting Messages on such discussions to build up better, healthy and stronger relationships. And you know me, I am not going to get angered for more than a minute or two For the email, yes, you will get it today. And also why it has been neglected and delayed.

Hi surekharathiji Sorry. I do not start any discussion with thoughts or expectations to get more responses. I start discussions only to gain some insight. Here on this one, I am in need of ideas that I can use to go beyond MyLot and build better healthy relationships with my friends here. I remember a friend of mine posted a discussion about ill health. I helped her with some links and then followed it up with a PM. She was happy and I am more happy that she is feeling better. If I can put up a discussion that can benefit people in strengthen their relationships, I feel blessed because my real life friends have forgotton me and no one cares. But the friends at MyLot do care and they did email/call/PM me when I was away.

Hi changjiangzhibin Yeah, my health hasnt been good ever since I returend from that ill fated trip to Hyderabad for medical checkups and here the doctors are not sure what is actually wrong. For me, still unclear how long I am going to take to get myself repaired but I plan to return back as it is. True that we have not seen each other face to face or are even bonded just here at MyLot, but still, there are some lotters who become special and close. Like you for me. I think I mentioned this earlier too - I do not remember a discussion of mine that you missed to respond ever since we became friends. And that makes me feel that we are someway close and more related than many others