I didn't' call

I have to jump in here and I hope you don't think bad of me for saying this ok? Please work out whatever has happened between you and your dad. My dad and I had a very rocky relationship. We would go for years without speaking. His wife, my 2nd stepmother, had a kid that is younger than two out of my three kids. I was angry that he gave her kids more attention than he did me when I was their age. In 2004, he passed away after a painful bout with liver cancer. We had managed to repair our relationship, but it wasn't until after he got sick. When I think of the times we missed out because of STUPID stuff, I just want to cry. I would give ANYTHING to go back and fix it. But I can't. All I can donow is pass along advice to others to live every day and enjoy every minute that you have with those you love. Because in the end, all the money in the world or all the fights in the world or how many hugs one sister got more than I did...just won't matter. The empty place in your heart will be what matters the most.

It's sad SCG. I know that he might have done a few things that make him not deserve a phone call, but I'm just sad as a parent myself. I hope that I never do anything that would make my kids not call me. I would want them to make it on their own, but I would appreciate a call once in a while. Even if it is just to bug me. And even if I don't like it, or even if I yap and give them unsolicited advice when they ask for money, I would still give them some. I hope you work it out with your dad in the future.

yup I have a daughter that only calls when she wants money or a ride. parents are not personal ATM machines. the way I look at it is if you dont want anything to do with us any other time dont bother when you need something.

For me be patient and humble to said in your life to your parents remember if you love Jehovah God he is the one showed you love so be forgave.

Just to share, my father and I also do not get along well. We didn't get the chance to talk about the things that happened. So now, we do not communicate as often as we should. I've moved out from the house since I got married. And it was a not a good separation. But I never failed to greet him on special occasions. This is just a piece of advice, reach out to your father. even if you do not get along with each other but a simple greeting would make him happy. After all he is still your father. Without him , you wouldn't be here at all. Remember regrets are always in the end, try to patch things up with him.

If I were your father, I'd walk out on you the minute you started talking about money. My father is in prison, so I CAN'T call him on his birthday or on father's day, no matter how much I might want to. It really sickens me when people don't bother to even try to make a relationship with their family, because there are other people who would die for a family and probably won't ever get one. Be appreciative for what you have, and dear god, DON'T go begging for money after ignoring your father, that just screams "I'm going to use you for what I can get". You don't want to be seen that way.

Well my one son didnt call me for Moms day but I called him on Fathers day and he says hmmmmmm just another day!

I know how you feel. I have had to do this before also. The phone works both ways and if I am not speaking with someone throughout the years, why bother just on a holiday?

I have no contact with my father, and, frankly, that is the best thing. He has even faked heart issues to get me to go visit him. On each occasion he has used that to try persuading me to move back into his house- abandoning my own home, and work etc. Last time I intended to move home he invited himself over to 'offer help'. He would not talk in front of my partner,and, once she had left, criticised all my financial plans, and accused my partner of being a gold digger- I mean, at the time I was earning around £13,000 a year for a 60 hour week (if anything it was my employer who was screwing me financially). The help- 'move back to my house and turn it into a business'. I showed him the door, changed all our phone numbers and never passed on the new address. Last year I had a letter from my half sister telling me he had a stroke (she tracked me down through directory services in the UK- so I have now cancelled my land line too. I never replied. Why are some people so stupid?If I tell someone never to ring my phone again, and don't ever visit, that does not mean 'leave me alone until my mood improves'.

I have to think about my relationship with my sister. Some things from the past are hard to forget. I rarely see her and talk to her. When she has some special events, I do not call. Last time I sent her a greeting on a social network site as if nothing had happened, and that was all.

Well I didn'tcall my father for his birthday or father's day. That's becaue I didn't have a phone at the time. And you shouldn't have expected him to call you nor should he hae called you on those occasions. Those are the days you are suppose to call him. Would you call someone on your birthday so they can tell you happy birthday? I know I wouldn't. But yea I wouldn't ask my father for moey even though I am not working ( I am not working now too). I would try to figure out another way to make some money.

I understand how you feel. My father left when I was very little and sometimes is difficult for me to relate to him. Sometimes I get angry because I realize that his abscence has affected most of my adult relationships. But right now, I'm trying to talk to him even if it's only once a month. I can't really understand why he dissapeared when he did, specially for so long, but holding a grudge will only hurt me, so I'm trying to talk to him and show him love. Try to answer yourself why is it that you can't seem to want to call him and make peace with it, it'll make you feel better. Good luck!