Should you stay in a marriage for the kids?

No i do not believe you should stay together because of your kids. My opinion, the couple fights more, and the kids pick up on that. As the kids get older they begin to pick up on it. The parents are not happy, the kids will not be happy. The kids will be very hard to handle in the teen years blaming you for everything.. so no i do not think the parents should stay together just for that kids if they are not happy.

I don't think that you should stay together simply because you have a child. Assuming you are both decent human beings (which you must be if you're considering staying together) you would be able to work out a fair schedule for childcare which would mean that your child would be able to see both of its parents without being too upset about not seeing one of you. You would both be happier, and this would show in your child because children pick up on the mood of their parents very easily. Sometimes the kindest option can backfire and actually become the cruellest.

This is hard for me to relate, I never wanted kids but here I go. If I tried counseling and we still are fighting , I would leave. I would make sure he could see his child but I wouldn't stay. A baby needs to see his parents happy together or apart. Staying just because A child needs a father doesn't work if the father and mother are fighting all the time. Kids can sense things and they blame themselves if things go wrong. Meaning they may blame themselves for all the fighting. I heard an famous actor who Knew his parents stayed because of him and should have seen the hurt on his face. I also heard of kids being relieved their parents are getting divorced.But many parents just stay together for the kids.

i know someone in this situation who's staying in the marriage for the kids,but i honestly think shes making the wrong decision. she and her kids are better off without the loser i'm referring to.

I do not think that parents should stay together for the sake of their children if they cannot work out their differences. Even if they think they are keeping their fighting away from the children, the children can sense that there is tension. Divorce is not so easy either, but I think in the long run, it's a better option. I went through this when I was in junior high/high school. My parents tried to keep us out of their differences, but we knew something was going on. It was devastating at the time, but now I am glad that it turned out the way it did. My parents get along great now, they just could not be married. As stated before, I don't think staying together in this situation is necessarily in the child's best interest, but if divorce is the final decision, the parents should try to be as civil as possible for the children's sake.

For me, I would leave. I will never stay in marriage just for the sake of the kids. Because I believe that if I continue to stay and nothing will change or improve in our relationship, things will just worsen. I will never wait for the time that we no longer have respect for each other, hurting each other physically, cursing each other, etc. But that's if we have exhausted so much of our efforts asking for help, trying to work the marriage out. It will also double the effect to the child, it will be better if he sees his parents separated and civil while living together and fighting most of the time. That is my opinion.

As much as divorce is difficult for the couple and the child, I don't think that it's ever a really good idea to stay together you're fighting a lot. It certainly can't be good for the child to see his parents constantly arguing. You do have to think what is best for the child and what is best for everyone, even if the best thing is divorce.

Hi Getting married never makes things better If there are existing problems they only get worse as times goes on marriage doesn't automatically makes things better - but I suppose that is of no help now. I am a child of divorce, and it was the best thing my mum ever did. She became a changed woman, a stronger force to raise me to be the independent woman I am today. Having said that though getting divorced is a big step and you want to make sure all avenues have been exhausted. If she truly thinks she would be better off and be happier without him then its something she should consider. But raising kids alone is hard work and can be a financial burden I remeber we were always poor and my dad always had money. Perhaps making a list of the pros and cons might help.

This is kind of a tough situation, but then again you always want to make the right decision for yourself but for your child. It seems real clear that she is not happy with her marriage, and there is constant fighting. If it was me I would try to find some way to work things out for the sake of your kids. But if you must separate then always make sure that the kids get chance to spend time with the other parent whenever possible. You always want to make sure that your kids get quality time with their parents.