Why in the world will make 10 years relationship but in the end will broke up?

Hi insulin, You will never know the real reason why a marriage of many years end in a divorce until you experience it yourself (which I hope you never will!). My marriage is going on 9 years now. At its 7th-8th year, it was on the rocks. He had an affair. In the initial stages, I was unwilling to let him go because we have a daughter. Thus it carried on for about a year and a half, when I can't take it anymore and I was ready to move out and bring our daughter away from him. Then he wanted to keep the marriage intact and look after our daughter together with me. I was willing to accept if he ended his relationship with the other woman. It's not "ending it for nothing", there will be issues the couple is facing. If it can't be resolved through negotiation and discussion, the relationship will end. But if things can be worked out, the couple should at least try. However, it takes the willingness of both parties to agree on a particular course of action. Sometimes, something has to give up. Your relationship with this man is complicated. A divorce proceedings may take many years causing distress to him. He may be doing many things for you, to take his mind off the matter. I don't know. Only you will be able to tell if he really loves you. If you are convinced that he does, then proceed. But you have to understand that he will have a lot of emotional baggage from his previous marriage.

Actually some people carries on the relationship just in fear of breaking others heart and feelings and in the meantime they try think that maybe after sometime they will adjust , they just keep on trying to adjust , keep going on first for sake of parents then kids this consumes the long years of their life when they finally realize that it working out by the time its quite late , the kids suffer then they also suffer as getting a divorce is not easy it takes time. I think people must think a lot before getting married. Nowadays i am very much confused on subject of love , i have seen a happily married guy with two kids , he loves his children dearly still has lots of girlfriend , doesn't sleeps for about 3 years and daily he goes home late night around 1 -2 am and still his wife waits for him and warms and serves food for him.People might point out that is because its an arranged marriage that's why which i understand to some extent. Then in another case when i was in retail i made a friends. Both had been together with their boyfriends for above 2 year and she used to always tell us how much she love him but also used lie to him , hangout late night with other guys and sleep with them too on the excuse that she had a fight with her boyfriend that's why she did it but then i noticed she always do that and fights on meaningless things like why didn't you tell me in morning when you went to gym? she was possessive about him and insecure that he might be cheating on her which in actual she was doing. And now in this new job i met a couple who had been together for 5 years and she came here from her hometown just for him , found work and they finally got married after 1 year so its been 4 year above since they got married ,she loves him lot but the way he keep flirting with gals and keeps on pointing here mistake , making her feel small i don't think there is any love left between them. so is this love phase is just for 5 year then people just try to get along with each other.

A lot of relationships end no matter how long a couple were together. There are couples who divorce after 20+ yrs or so. It really doesn't matter cause when a marriage die that's just it. The only problem is some marriages end with no RIP. Do not focus on how long the relationship was but how honest this man you think is to you. If you think he's been telling the truth about his feelings for you and you feel that you also love this guy and you're honest to yourself as well then go for it. I wouldn't however be in a full serious relationship with him unless he had finalized his divorce. You don't want to date a married man cause you can still be called "the other woman" by society unless you could care less about the society which is fine. Your insecurity is understandable but once he finalize his divorce his only concern should be the child. He should only treat the ex-wife as the mother of his child and nothing else. If you can keep this on your mind then you'll feel better. Take care.

For me yes if you don't have unity in you both the married life would be broke.

Hi insulin: I guess you love him. This is a very complicated situation because 10 years with a person is too much. You have to be sure if that was the end and if he is prepared to love someone else or if he is just feeling confused after ending this big chapter on his life. In my opinion, it's a big pity when a long relationship ends like this. I am sorry for him. ALVARO

I can only say that nothing lasts in this world, not even our feeling of love. So I would not be surprised if one day a couple of 10 years just broke up even without any prior problems between the two. Sometimes both of them woke up someday and realized that hey don't love each other anymore. Some couples would try to work it out for the shake of the children or the family, others would just leave and never come back.

10 years is the life span of any relationship... if someone or anyone who surpassed the 10year challenge can surely have a great relationship. Actually, this is my own opinion; 10years is long enough for any couple, for human cycles only last this long, meaning, when you're 1 year old - 10 year, you have your first cycle, 10year to 20 year is another cycle, and 20 year -30 year is another cycle; during this cycle we have diffirent wants and needs, 20-30year cycle, is the cycle on which most humans go into realationships (usually a start of somewhat a serious commitment), but the needs and wants of couples/individuals in this type of relationship is diffirent, than that of the 30-40 year cycle, it was in this cycle that most couples divorce; for the time they reach their 10 year cycle, each individuals has diffirent needs and wants, and people broke up cause each individual's wants and needs mostly did not coincide with that of their partner, so they part ways.

I have heard about this from a colleague in the office. She was dating a married, Catholic old man and he wasn't willing to go thru the divorce with his ex-wife. In the end, the colleague left this man not becoz he was a still married man, but because he was full with debts. You just stick with the idea of sharing life with a man you love and he is always making you happy. :) The rest will take it's course.

10 good years gone by? Its funny! In every relationship, i think, understand matters. Maybe the was nothing like love, maybe they wanted to see if in future, they might as well start loving or maybe they were just pretending because of their kid. But to tell you what! 10years isnt a joke. In this case, its hard to say a thing, cause, in a every relationship, the must be love, understand and trust from BOTH PARTNERS. If any of the three is missing then there's bound to be problem.

Some relationships end even if you've been together for 30 years. It's not really how long the lifespan of the relationship has been, if he feels there is nothing to save in his marriage, there's probably no turning back. Try to think about what you want. If you feel that you can't stay any longer with a man that's still married, leave the relationship, if you truly believe this man loves you and is actively doing something to get divorced, then take tthat into consideration. I hope everything goes well!