flirted with some one else infront of your partner
By aweins
@aweins (4199)
India
June 29, 2011 10:59am CST
do you like to flirt ? i enjoy it and i had many friends in my life. i shared each and every thing with my hubby before marriage. i made him meet also and he share a good friendship with some of them, lol. now i am a total loner all aloof in my life. now i have just my baby in my life, no one else. but i think now the situation in life is different, therefore i am like this. otherwise if i would have that life all free , no liabilities, no responsibilities, on issue, i think i would have been the same person as i was before. i was romantic but today me and my hubby do not have the time to talk also. i really miss those days. sometimes i wish if i can go back and live some more there , of course with my hubby, because he is such a darling and we are totally transparent with each other, so i want to enjoy that time with him again.
do you like to flirt or if given a chance will you flirt with someone in front of your partner ? well, my answer is yes.
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18 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
How do you define flirt? is it involving with lust and to do sin even if you are now married? The reasons why we get married is to be with our partners and be faithful with them through the rest of our lives. If you are just talking about past bf or gf to make your spouse jealous a bit, well I guess it has to draw a line somewhere were the relationship is not going to be affected by doubts and jealousy.
But when you ask if a married person would go on and flirt even in front of his/her spouse, well that is not the right thing to do because you will be hurting your better half, think also of how he will treat you if he do the same.
Just be careful of wishing to go back into your old self where you mingle with other males because that is not appropriate now that you are a married person. What you should be doing more is to develop your communication to your spouse and treat him well and be sweet and thoughtful to him so that the relationship would grow, not to go back and mingle other people because this will be a trap to sin that will eventually hurt you and your spouse.
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@aweins (4199)
• India
4 Jul 11
ohgosh!, i think you have either nt read what i have written or i am unable to make it clear to you what i want to say or convey. i am a married female and we have a kid , three year old. it have an excellent relationship,"Touchwood", and we dont need any effort to open up ourselves infront of each other. because there is not anything that we are hiding. we know about each other, there present , there past and we are together. i live the life in this manner and we love and enjoy flirting out when we are out for lunch or dinner. it is never like we are doing something, (either of us)which is not known by the other one. my better half knows me very well and his better half(that is me)knows about him and his friends and his nature very well. life is to live, have fun, enjoy . if i am praised by any other males, except him, he is not jealous and if he is praised by anyone, it hardly matters to me. in the same way if i get friendly with someone, he don't feel insecure and its vice-versa. so , my dear, i think you have just answered the discussion. you have not read it properly.
here, in our relationship, nobody is hurting anyone. and there is no sin man, comeone. where is the sin and where has it come from. if some one is praising someone or is praised where is the role of sin dear, where is sin? its life. if we will not allow space and freedom in a relationship it will not smell good. it will start stinking because of many reasons.
we believe in live and let other's live.
happy flirting.
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I don't actually participate in flirting much but I do think it's kinda neat when something happens where maybe I get a smile or a compliment or something from someone. My husband will tease about it saying that guy better watch out. We all know its in good fun and its nice for him to see that someone else might still be interested in me!
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
29 Jun 11
I dont dare to flirt in the presence of my wife, just because she dont want me to flirt even in her dream. but I might flirt with any willing females in front of her husband without my wifes knowledge.I want to ask you "why you want to flirt in front of your transparent darling?". I love to flirt with females in front of their husbands. Can you fulfill my desire?????Come on....
@aweins (4199)
• India
4 Jul 11
hi dear , i am a female and if you want to flirt infront of mt hubby you are most welcome. he lacks the skill of flirting and i am the opposite. i love it. i love flirting, but it should not be like complimenting in a commenting manner. praising in a way as if you a passing bad remarks. it should be funny and in a real praising manner. one should feel that if you are praising someone, you really mean it. you are in awe of her that moment. so, my dear darling, if you want to fulfill your desire you are most welcome .
happy flirting :-)
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
22 Jul 11
Hi aweins, Its nice to hear your hubby is so broadminded and you had shared everything with him. Most of the couples are possessive to each other, they cannot like flirting in front of partner. I would say no, even i dont do it or my hubby. Rather we flirt towards each other. LOL. Cheers!!
@GemmaR (8517)
•
30 Jun 11
I would never flirt with anybody else in front of my partner. If you feel the need to do that, then I don't think that you can really have an awful lot of respect for your partner at all. When I am in a relationship, I think that you should both be committed to each other, and this does mean that you shouldn't be flirting with other people whether your partner is around at the time or not. If my boyfriend acted like that in front of other girls, unless there was a very good reason for him doing so, but I guess everyone's different.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
My answer is yes too if only a friendly and innocent flirting. Flirting is not bad as long as it is handled with caution and care.My husband knows that i am a happy person and he trusts me so much that seeing me flirting with somebody is not a real issues with him.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Jun 11
I do flirt online but never offline and I don't want to flirt in front of my husband. I don't initiate the flirting though. I just respond to one because I'd like to give those people their own dose of medicine! I was never a flirt when I was single, in fact I was very conservative. Now that I'm married I developed this courage because I see nothing wrong in flirting now and then as long as you know your limitations and not serious flirting.
My father was such a flirt and he did it all the time in front of my mom. But he didn't see it as flirting but my father was just so charming with his great sense of humor. So I guess my sense of humor in chatting with this men are my way of flirting as well, that's why I said never in a serious manner and i always tell them I'm not available. S they just laugh, have fun and enjoy talking to me, but that's that.
@babybea (82)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
before i got my serious relationship with my boyfriend i love flirting with guys coz it's easy to flirt with them and i like to get their attention, i remember my friends always call me in the middle of the night to party and when we're in the dance floor we get wild and sometimes do a dirty dancing.. i also have fun with it especially when i'm with a date and flirted another guys but now i don't do it infront of my boyfriend coz i respect him and he respect me..
when i read this and told my boyfriend he answered me yes he will flirt but not in another girl instead he will flirt infront on me and asked him with who he replied "with you" (lol)
but i guess the moment you flirt with others infront or behind your hubby/girlfriend/boyfriend is the moment you don't respect yourself and your hubby
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
I AM NOT A FLIRT AND I WILL NEVER FLIRT IN FRONT OF MY BOYFRIEND. I am not stupid to hurt his feelings. I don't want revenge! What if I'll be flirting and he'll do the same way,I will not be happy then. So, why should i flirt?There is no reason for me to do such stupid act. I love him and i respect him, just the way he does to me :)
@meyi_2011 (51)
• China
1 Jul 11
wow, i'll never do this, cause i'm so jealous that my fiance cant speak to any other girls, i have to make model of him, right? hehehe....
I have many male friends,of course i like flirt with them. But from two years ago i rarely contact with them cause i think i have to totally belong to my fiance and dont do anything make him unhappy.
@angie20 (191)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I think it depends on the situation, if you're having a serious relationship with someone, flirting is a big no no. When you really love someone you don't have to find some happiness from other people. After all, you should have not committed into a serious relationship if you're not still ready to tame your flirting skills. Doing flirting in front of your beloved will not only destroys your reputation and credibility and not only hurt your partner's felling but it will also destroys your chance to earn respect from the male species. Truly by doing that, you're just making your self so cheap.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
29 Jun 11
Oh no, I won't dare to do that if I am committed to someone already. I can't betray her in front of another girl, that is not cool though. I have to respect my partner, and I would expect her to do the same for me. Although there is some good looking girls out there might be better than my partner, I still have to be loyal to her. That is what a relationship for.
@hdc4free (260)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I love to flirt, and I can't help myself! Yes I will do it in front of my partner, in fact I am MORE likely to do it with my husband there because he brings out my outgoing side. He doesn't mind usually as long as everything is good between us, it reminds him how attractive he finds me, it is a little exciting and fun. Not for everybody/every relationship but it works for us.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I like to flirt but only if I know the other person knows that I'm not being serious that I'm just having fun because I don't like to lead anyone on. If I have a partner who I know loves to flirt with other girls then I get back at him by flirting with other guys in front of him just to let him know that he can be replaced.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
29 Jun 11
I definitely don't flirt with other guys and especially not in front of my boyfriend. Flirting is cheating's ugly cousin and I have no desire to mess up the wonderful relationship I have with my boyfriend by flirting with someone else. I know that I wouldn't want him flirting with other girls so I treat my boyfriend the way I want to be treated. I don't flirt with other guys and he doesn't flirt with any girls.
If you're single then go ahead and flirt away, it's not a problem. But since I have a loving boyfriend I'm not going to hurt him by flirting with other guys.
