How can i escape from the jealousness?

I am also a jealous girl, way back when my husband and i were just boyfriend and girlfriend. He too was also a jealous guy. We would always quarrel and it's not a good feeling. Until now i would still be jealous, but in a mild manner. My husband has made me secure by being loving & trusting and so i am with him. Try to trust your boyfriend. Don't get jealous over trivial things which has no basis. Your boyfriend might get suffocated and fed up with your jealousy, he might one day leave you. Pray that you can overcome your jealousy.

Think about what's the source of your jealousness. Is it distrust in your fiance, is it distrust in you, or is it distrust in other persons? It's demonstrated that jealousness derives from distrust. After you find out who is the one you don't trust, you have to do some "research" and find out why you don't trust that person, even if that persons is your fiance or you(or that girl who called his nickname). After you'll answer these questions, your jealousness should disappear or at least should get a more "rational" form and you'll know what to do and you won't be anymore in situations like this.

hello, I also used to got jealous to my boyfriend specially if he talk to his girl friends. Well, I think it is natural because as I can see he really understands me and besides he is contented to me, at my side. So, he keeps telling me that It is alright if he dont have girl friends at all as long as I am with him. In your case you are really having a heartache which is really difficult to manage. Try to understand yourself first before you explain to him your side, I know he will understands you. Jealousy is not easy because it can break a relationship. right? but I as a person like you must give him a little bit space and give him a time to think if he will come back to you. Don't beg for him let him realize what he does. alright? good luck

You're too much.I had a girlfriend like you.I loved her a lot but we would always get into arguments and it used to make me so angry she did never understand that and in the end the relationship was over. I think you should examine yourself and ask yourself why do you feel this way? Discuss it with your boyfriend and never fight because that just pushes someone further away and they will never listen.Try to get in touch with your feelings first before you try and settle this down because it would probably really help.Love makes the world go 'round...not fighting!!! Good luck!

Don't worry girl, you're not alone with how you feel. I'm also a jealous type of girl. Even someone says a hi online it gets on my nerves and i hate it. I usually get jealous and my boyfriend just laugh at it. And I tried to forget those jealousness and trying to control it because sometimes it doesn't help us. It almost ruined us! Just try to slow down and understand him, guys are sometimes like that making flirts. All you have to do is to trust b*tches or maybe you can make friends with. I f your closer to the enemies it's really better. you can spy on them or maybe you could be friends and will not steal your guy. :)

It's just normal for you to have a reaction like that. If the same thing happens to me, I will also confront my fiance even if it was just an online flirting. Any forms of flirting can hurt its partner. It's a good thing that you have brought that issue to him but be sure that you will talk about it without quarrelling. Set him your expectations since you two will soon get married. Congratulations to both of you!

all i can say that jealous got to do with over posessiveness and anyhing that is overly done will have an adverse effect... so i can only suggest you to let go a bit because your fiance might get tired after sometimes with your over posessiveness... i do understand that you love him... but still you have to give him some space for his own... as long as he is not betraying you, you have to control your jealousy and over posessiveness... take care and have a nice day...

meyi any great relationship or marriage has to have love, respect and trust. I would say that boyfriend might want to tone down that flirting business as I know in your shoes I wo uld have been jealous too. but has he ever done anything really wrong like go out with another girl behing your back? if he does not do those kinds of things ande only flirts on line I think you need to rev up your trust in him. you both need to respect each other and he needs to learn not to trigger your jealousy too.,and do not flip out as that causes him to flip out. set him down and have a loving but honest talk with him. tellhim cooly and calmly that his flirting makes you feel like you are second best.YOu must trust him and make sure you are trust worthy too. Jealous does come with deep love bu t it has to be tamed.

In order to escape from jealousy, you have to learn to love yourself. If you were totally secure with yourself, you would not have these types of thoughts. As you said, you are aware that you can't keep doing this type of thing and that is a very important first step. Now that you are aware of this behavior and mindset, you have the power to change it. Whenever you catch yourself starting to do this, just stop. Don't continue it in fear that you might have to apologize or something. Love is freedom. It is not captivity. Make sure that your love doesn't cause anyone to feel like they have to worry about their behavior because you know you wouldn't want to feel that way. Easier said than done, I know, but it's just a conscious decision that you need to make or the pattern will continue. Namaste.

Well first you are expecting him to act like he is married, when he isn't. Sorry, you are either married, or you are not. Maybe 'he should' or whatever, but the fact is, he is not your husband, and if he wants to talk to other girls he can. And no, it doesn't matter that you are planning to get married. He is NOT married right NOW. Now, why do I bring this up? Well... What is jealousy? If you really think about it, jealousy is wanting something that isn't rightfully yours. "I want him to only talk to me." He's not yours hon. You don't own him. He is not your property. He can talk to absolutely anyone he wants, and you don't have a say in the matter. When you grasp this, you'll get a handle on your jealousy.

Hi Meyi, First I would appreciate your jealousness reflects your true love for him and the deep love you have. Next as you say you would kill him if it is a gal, there you love changes its dimension of extreme possessiveness, which were you have to work on. Trust is the weapon for you to get rid of extreme end anger on your love. If you find problem talk to him and develop trust, when you trust and show your generous love, he will regret for hurting you at any point of matter.

I'm afraid you're too much sensitive. Your fiance flirted with a girl does not mean he does not love you,actually most of the man are like this,especially Chinese men.In fact they are not flirting like you said,they are just a bit of familiar.Am i right? So maybe in your mind you confined that he was yours,from head to toe,and you could not accept the relationships between him and any girl.You're too much care about him. And meanwhile,your fiance should tolerate you and understand you.Hope you two could find a way to solve the misunderstanding.Talk to him and find out!Good luck.

I used to be a very jealous person when it came to my husband when i was married. There were these 2 girls that would flirt with him and give him hugs and I would get so mad and would always lead to a fight. Now I'm older and wiser and don't get so jealous anymore but then again I'm no longer married. I was really young when I got married at 18. Too much jealousy can ruin a relationship. I think I would get jealous too if I was in a relationship with someone and they were flirting with someone on-line. Trust is the key factor in any relationship.