get ridding of friends

hello capt, That's one way of knowing who are real friends. Just because you achieve more they get rid of you..fine. Anyway,i feel that ,working in that field,we rarely find true one. I've been there and I can feel it...each just using each...for what? Stabbing their backs ... Thu there are few,maybe during training sessions...but once they are on the floor,most of them were influenced with bad habits and attitudes soon as they're regularized.

"they were still friendly with my girlfriend though and she still hangs up with them." lingering in ur mind. Promotion will distance people. Status/wealth will distance people automatically. Do not regret for it. U will get new friends. However u try to convince u like their friendship they will hesitate to come near you. That is life. do your job well and get further promotions. blessings.

Hello Albert, You have to understand them.. probably stop and also distance yourself with them, maybe that would be the best choice for now. I think a gap is forming and then the feeling won't go away they feel threatened knowing one of them got fired and they blame you for it. they're afraid to make friends with you now because you are doing you're job. you have to understand, maybe they're not the best. they're afraid of you,t hat's how they show it. .. six years of friendship? they come and go..

It is clear that your office mates envy you because you were promoted and of course since your job is to report to higher management who do not do their job well. I guess, you have to make them realize that in order that they would not be affected by your job, they should do their part well.

Friends, like, people come and go. It's a fact of life. Sometimes, there are persons who really stick with you all the way through and some people who will leave you for a variety of reasons - even the most trivial ones. I guess you and your firends have lost interest in each other over the years and over some occasions. It's what I'd like to call, "life got in the way.' Anyway, it's good to see that you have formed new bonds with some new faces and new blood. At least, you found some people that will enhance your life in a different way. I don't think that letting go of friends is an act of betrayal per se but only a phase in the friendship when the relationship doesn't work anymore. At least, it's not a romantic relationship when things can really get dirty and sour.

they are just mad! those are the types that you call haters. Just do your job and dont let them get to you.

in one of the companies i have worked in before, i worked myself from a junior position to a senior management level. about 9 promotions in 3 years. almost like being promoted every 4 months. and each time, more financial benefits and added perks were given. i found that i accumulated more friends over the years. but i did sense that there's a few who were not as happy with every promotion i got. perhaps because they felt the gap with the areas of responsibility and more tangible benefits were given to those who got promoted. i felt that some of my former bosses were threatened when my position and salary became at par with them. i actually surpassed some of them. but i did not change in the treatment of the staff in my department. i am a management person while at work, but still a friend beyond working hours. sometimes, people react differently to the successes of their friends. while others are happy with your progress, it's quite normal for others to feel a bit jealous and envious at times. distancing oneself to superiors are often a usual barricade set up to keep a professional front at work. if you are happier now with new colleagues... then so be it.

It is a whole different type of relationship when your co-workers become those that you must supervise. I know. The relationship then becomes professional. Most companies have a policy of non-fraternization between supervisors and employees. I tried to strike a balance but had to walk a fine line to prevent feelings of favoritism.