I hate the men in this city!!
By chrislotz
@chrislotz (8137)
Canada
July 3, 2011 12:35pm CST
I have come to think I will never meet a decent man in this city. I am a member of a dating site and I set up a meeting with a guy I have been talking to online for a couple weeks. We set up to meet at a dancing bar which was quite a ways from where I live but not a problem, it's one of the nicer bars in this city so I was okay with that and I love to dance so it was perfect.
So I drive their thinking I will only have my two drink limit so I can drive home. Once there he convinces me to have a couple more and he will drive me home and pick me up tomorrow to get my car. We share the expense of the drinks, my idea because I don't want to feel obliged to anyone. So now with the cover charge and the cost of the drinks I have spent $60, no problem.
After about 2 hours we are again on the dance floor and he slips his hand up the back of my blouse and unhooks my bra and slips his hand real fast to the front and cups me. I push him away and yell at him, natural instinct. I run to the bathroom and clasp my bra and get ahold of my emotions. I come out and go to the table to get my purse and he's gone. Thank goodness my purse is still there.
So now I have to cab it home because I can't drive. I live really far from home and it costs me $50. Then this morning I had to cab it back to get my car because the only person I know in my city is my daughter and she is gone camping. I am new here. So it cost me another $50 to get my car.
So the whole thing cost me $160 and a nightmare date. I don't know that I will ever go back on that dating site again. This isn't the first bad date I have had from this site.
So if you have any nightmare dates to share here please do, so I will feel a little better and not such a fool.
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11 responses
@littlemissy (200)
• Canada
1 Oct 11
I date on that same site you are talking about and I haven't had any good stories to tell either. All the guys I have met on that site are pretty creepy. It is a free site so you get all kinds of guys there.
I have also met a couple good guys there too but we end up only being friends. I haven't had any luck finding someone that I find attractive or my type. I've had a few bad experiences with it but nothing like you. It didn't cost me any money or any harm whatso ever just creepy. I met a few guys on that site that weren't even their picture on the site. What, did they think I wouldn't notice that it wasn't them, don't get it!!
happy mylotting my new friends,
littlemissy smiles!!
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
2 Oct 11
I just checked the site because I had a message but again it was from someone I wouldn't be interested in. He is about 15 years my senior. Too old for me.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
6 Jul 11
I am soo sorry to hear about your experience. You are not alone...there are a ton of terrible people out there. He was probably embarrassed when you reacted the way you did and that's good. Good that he was ashamed. I hope he is still ashamed. I think if I were you, I would report the way he acted to the dating site. That way he doesn't make anyone else feel like you did...there are probably other he did that way too. What an a$$.
Don't give up though..there are good people too...they are just a little harder to find. We could be here all day if I told you all the mishaps that I have experienced over time. I don't have the best track record where men are concerned.
We live and we learn though.
Take care
We live and we learn though.
Take care1 person likes this
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
7 Jul 11
I went into the site as soon as I got home so I could report him but his profile was gone. Once someone deletes their profile all messages and any trace of them is gone. I guess he beat me home and deleted everything.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
15 Aug 11
Next time don't go over your limit, no matter what. It's not your fault he sexually harassed you, but it's not his fault you were in no posission to drive. You chose to drink!
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
3 Jul 11
I'm really going to show my age now, but I don't know how women go on blind dates in this day and age. You never know what you might get. It is too easy to put on the "ideal face" when talking online and you really don't get to know someone when you don't hear their voice, watch their body language and hear the inflection in their speech. Too scary for me! I think you were lucky. He could have stolen your money out of your purse. Hope you have better luck next time.
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
3 Jul 11
I did talk to him on the phone a few times first. I only wanted to meet him at the corner pub but the dancing part intrigued me and since I haven't been out dancing for months because I had no one to go with I was excited about it. We did have a good time for about 2 hours, lots of dancing, and I did only have 5 drinks in those 2 hours but since I'm not a drinker, not much anyways, I could feel it pretty good.
I know I was lucky he didn't rape me somewhere if I had gone in his car, or that he didn't steal my money in my purse and I am grateful for that.
@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
4 Jul 11
Can't offer any of my own, but my daughter says the same thing.She has tried dating sites and all and meets them and they are jerks. She says they don't have any morals or sense of responsibility or goals. She can't find a man that is serious about a relationship, serious about how he spends his money, but that they are all just undepenable jerks. So, she has given up on trying to find a mate, but will just go out with them strickly for the fun of it. Not expecting anything more than a few hours with another person and light hearted fun. She nevers goes home with them or has them pick her up. Always meets them and no serious personal info given. Shame it has come to that these days. Hope you can find at least a good friend in all the mess!
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@marilyninocencio (116)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
It's too bad to hear a bad story like this. I didn't have a nightmare date to share with you. I just want to tell you to be very careful next time.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
4 Jul 11
Not one for dating, not even socializing
I love being alone and if I meet any man online that's usually chat friends or games
I never go on dating site, especially the ones that require payment because I live within budget
that said, I did hear many stories like yours and even worse if not mistaken she was almost raped
a few friends about your age once told me dating is scary, they only go with people they know or at least friends of friends
If you are new in town, maybe wait a while and make friends first?
Just a thought. I know I'm younger and not alone, so I may sound like I don't understand how you feel.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
3 Jul 11
Now, you can't assume that every guy is bad. Let's go back and look at a few things. First date??? Why drink at all?? A clear mind will allow you to see more about your date. Not drinking, then you can drive home. Next, I know it's nice to split expenses, however where I come from, the man invites the woman and pays. If the woman makes the invitation, that might be different. A woman is not obligated to anything because a guy pays. Tell the guy what you want and let the guy order. If there is a question later, you never ordered anything. Make the first date a very public place. Like you said,it takes time to know someone. Always be open for love. True love can show up from anywhere. It tends to show up when you least expect it. Remember, there are no laws or rules about dating. Take your time, be yourself, and don't do anything you don't really want to do. If it's really true love, He isn't going anywhere.
@spankiepunk (12)
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
i dated a guy once..he's the perfect guy..he will ask your parents to fetch u and watch movie and drive u around anywer u want the whole day..i really like him..until my mom noticed something.. she thinks he's gay:((
