Ready to fall in love again

Hello dears, With the first time that he cheated, he actually admitted and apologized. So, I told him to fix the mess and he actually did. I forgave him and gave him another chance. However, when I learned that there is this second cheating and he kept denying it and telling me that it was nothing, that made me decide not to do something. I could no longer tolerate that because I believe it won't matter anymore. I believe that once he cheats twice already, he can do it again for the third time and it would become a series. More so, I also know that such a behavior when you tolerate it, the cheater would think that anyway I will forgive him so he continues the same. I would not want to be imprisoned to that kind of relationship. I knew some friends because of their love would tolerate their bf to cheat and accept them. However, I am not like them. Love is not the issue rather it is about respect.

I don't understand these girls that take back the cheaters. Ok, if the woman is married for a long time and have childrens, I can understand. But, if she is a young girl, I don't see the point. Of course, that the possibility of he cheats again is pretty high.

That is the sad thing because after 6 months, he asked me how I am without even saying sorry for what happened. It was as if nothing happened. Anyway, I did not expect him to say that, it only shows that he is still immature. I don't want to close my door for anything that God planned for me. I know He had a better one for me. By the way, the dog was my friend's, which I took a shot. Her name is Kitchie.

Absolutely, yes, am not rushing. I am enjoying my present status now. And, I did not regret anything. Thanks my friend!

Hello my dear, I think, I am just being me. I am the type of person who really go through the process of heart break, mourn, wallow, letting go, acceptance then moving on. I don't want to escape and avoid the reality and expecting or hoping for getting back together. I may have loved him still 2 or 3 months after the break up and that is a fact since you cannot erase a love instantly. But, things are different now. I have done everything and gave him many chances, but I cannot tolerate any cheating and pain that he will do to me in the future. He has not seen my worth, so it is already useless staying in that relationship. Right now, I am fine, very much fine. I had the chance to talk with the guy and don't feel any thrill anymore though I don't hate him. I guess, I was forgiving that made me step forward and forget the past.

Hi Toni, You are absolutely right my friend. An ex is part of the past. Once it off, it should be off. When it is part of the past, there should be no turning back and moving backward. Open another chapter, instead of continuing something when there is a missing page. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Yeah, that's the only thing that I am holding on, my worth. In a relationship that has full of lies and cheating, I don't deserve that. I deserve more and be respected. I will not bow down just because of love without respect.

Thanks for wishing me luck, Steph. I certainly appreciate that. Moving on is really a difficult thing to do and it cannot be rushed. But, I believe it would be easy when you really recognize the situation without any expectations. Moving on is mainly stepping forward and not looking back. I don't regret that I decided to respond to my ex-bf's messages because if I ignored, the feelings perhaps would be different.

I agree with you and certainly there have been many windows that opened for me. Although, I had to let my heart be healed before grabbing it. It is a lesson learned and my chapter for that guy had ended. I need someone who can respect me not only love me. Besides, it has to be someone who sees my worth.

I agree with you my dear, and thanks. Although, I don't want to generalize men that whenever they cheat there's no chance that they will not change. But, in my case, it is no longer worthy because twice cheating cannot be tolerated. Period!