would you let go of someone that you really love?^^

Perfect words for a lost lover... if the person in question is here in mylot.. He will definitely run into your arms.

waflay, he is not. Maybe the universe will see fit for us to be one day, but for now I now it is not so. I would be with him, but there are things that would have to be dealt with.

@writergirl, i so admire what you said... i can feel the sincerity to the very core of my bones. i would be saying the exact same thing because i know how it feels. you have a heart that genuinely loves.

yes i think that if you love this person you can just keep fighting. even if things are not so easy. anyway i just wish that this guy i like thought like you. actually he is a filipino like you^^ anyway i will just wait and see what happens. i just wanted that he could just say something.. i dont know how he is doing since some days already. its just so hard for me to get his attitude you know.. anyway i wish that he is fine and that he can be the same sweet guy again.

yes right now im thinking that maybe it really wont go anywhere.. its like he gave up on me. we dont talk since some days already and im a bit worried. i also dont see his sister online and i know that sometimes some disasters happen in pinas.. im a bit worried.. anyway i will just wait that him or his sister say something to me. i wish that he is fine. i miss him so so much. i wish that he could be the same super sweet guy again^^ i wish you knew him so maybe you could help me^^

sweet I understand your feelings too bad not all Filipinos are the same On my opinion if you think the relationship is going nowhere better let him go save something for yourself someone is out there who deserves you, someone who is better than him. If you think you put so much effort and nothing happened or any single has not change I think it's time for you to let go and move on, It will not be easy but we must love ourselves first before we can love others. Hope you will find your true happiness

Yes, I foolishly fell in love with a player but when we were alone, he made me feel like I was the only one. But I needed someone that needed me as much as I needed him. By walking away from an unfulfillin relationship, I was able to get into a MUCH better relationship. I learned what I really DID want and need by being in that doomed relationship, and it made me a much better woman. It is his loss and his loss alone.

you loved him so much but he didnt love you back? thats so sad im sorry that he didnt love you as much as you loved him.. i wish that soon you find the right guy. about this one, at least you did what you could for him. so at least you dont regret. you know, if we let go of someone we love later on we can regret. but you did all you could to make things be happy together. sorry that things didnt work out well for you

I'm just glad I can respond. Looking it back , I believe what I thought was love was just desire. And yes , if I hadn't had my heart broken , I wouldn't be happy now. I just hope your guy isn't like my ex. I want you to be happy. I'm keeping the faith.

im sorry that your ex said he loves you and then he just left you.. thats super sad and very bad really. at least he could had been honest with you im happy that you found a good guy that really loves you now. maybe that guy was stupid so your destiny would change and you would meet this one. that for sure is so much better than the other one^^ i wish you happiness always^^ thanks sarah for always reply to my discussions^^ i really appreciate that you share with me personal things^^ im happy we are friends^^

When i was talking about feelings, I was refering to stress, sadness, and all the pressure the peron is going through... I know alot of people who were deeply in love and they though that love was all that truly matters. I know a couple where the girl is chinese and the boy is jew. They really loved each other but the parents from both sides rejected each other. She did all she could to get along but still no success. In this situation 'fighting' only means cutting all ties with your family members to be with each other in this situation. This kind of happiness will not last for too long. How about a couple where each has different belief or religion? an atheist who's going to marry a girl who's muslim for example. That person can sacrifice himself to please the girl but it could be uneasy for him to do this for the rest of his life. Or it could be the engine of the guy not good enough for the girl. Ahem...it does sound ridiculous but 1/3 couples i know break up because of that. Why can't that person move on and find someone else who can accept and love him for the way he is? Anyway, this is just my opinion. When i marry with my boyfriend later on, I want to be happy and not think about problms before going to sleep and thinking again when waking up. I'll end up depressed and I can't see myself happy if i have to endure that for the next 50 years. Well goodluck for you and happy mylotting

i understand what you mean^^ there are always obstacles in a relationship. im sorry that things didnt end well to that chinese girl. its sad if we cant be with the one we love. but i see that you mean that sometimes people have to do big big sacrifices. like stop talking with your family just to be with the one you love. sure there will always be sadness bcs of it but if you let go of the one you love bcs of your family you might regret it later. and if your family really loved you they would accept the one you love just to dont lose you^^ happy mylotting for you too^^

i agree that we have to see the other person feelings also. and not just ours. i just dont understand why if you love someone why some people just let the person go? i want always to fight for a guy when i love him.. i think its a nonsense to just let go of someone that really loves you and that you love too. thats why i asked here if you would let go of someone you love just bcs you are tired of fighting. if you really love you wont get tired.

i can say that im really in love with who he is. who he used to be actually. bcs right now he is acting the complete opposite.. thats why is being hard for me to accept that maybe he doesnt love me anymore. i just want to talk with him and make things clear. or he loves me or not. and if he doesnt i will forget, even if is hard. if he loves me i will fight to be with him, if he doesnt then i let him go. what is making me really really upset is the uncertainity. i dont know if he loves me or not.

I hear you! It's hard to see a person you love change so fast and not be able to do anything about it. Been there and understand it. One time my former said sorry too often and I let him know that wasn't enough anymore. Why? He was open-minded before but as he lost control over his health, he tried to dominate me. I tried to help in whatever way I could and I did speak up. He would apologize but soon afterwards, it be the same thing. Eventually I just left. He claimed to love me but wanted to dominate and that isn't love. Understandably, more than I could take. So as painful as it is, you may have to do some hard thinking. If needs be, write down the positives and negatives on a sheet of paper. Tell him what is bothering you but don't attack him. If he's not sensitive to your needs, you may have to start thinking beyond him. If he is taking you seriously, give him time to adapt and check in every so often. I'm not trying to give you false hope but you need to do something. Good luck!

Yes i do not let go of someone i love as long as i know he loves me too..But if i know that he does not and he loves someone else then i would give his freedom. There is no point in keeping him when his heart is already with someone else.

thats great jazel^^ that just shows that when you love someone you really love him. i really wish that you find a good guy and that he doesnt give up on you also. you deserve to be always happy.. i think that if you let go of someone you love, it means you dont love this person deeply. bcs when we do, its impossible to give up. thanks so much for your sweet answer and i wish that too too soon you find your prince charming^^ and that he values you so much^^

hi j how are you?^^ i understand what you mean^^ we should only fight for people that are worth of it. someone that loves us truly and doesnt hurt us all the time right? im almost giving up.. i will just wait awhile longer to see what he says to me. i dont want to regret later. and sure we shouldnt be never with someone that cant loves us or respect us. we deserve to be happy and if are with someone like that its impossible. have a good day always too^^

thats great that you wouldnt give up on him^^ if the person loves us back we shouldnt let it go. doesnt matter how hard it is for you to be together. its like people say: if we want something, we must fight for it. i will fight to be with him. thats for sure. but i cant fight if he doesnt love me anymore. right now, i think he doesnt love me any longer. but i dont understand him :( bcs i would do all to be near him :( why love is never easy?

i work a lot so my mind is usually busy with work but i need love also in my life. everyday i just wish that i get much money to just go and see him. you know, each day that pass i feel that im losing him more and more. he isnt talking with me like before. i just feel like a stupid bcs i trusted him so so much and i love him. i just dont get his attitude. he isnt a mean guy so i dont get the point of this. maybe he just wants to forget me forever..

im happy that you are with someone that really loves you^^ im sorry that your ex just hurt you so much. but dont even think about sad things anymore. what matters is that you found someone that value you so much. in the end, thats what is important. i wish that you can be happy with this girl forever. i remember that you told me that you loved this girl since so long ago so i think what happened with you and your ex was just to join you with a better girl^^ the one of your dreams. like people say: everything happens for a reason^^

i understand your point^^ but for me i dont think that the best for the person you love and that loves you, is to be apart from each other. if you really love someone you cant stand to be away from him. i say this bcs all these days, i been checking to talk with the guy i like even he was the one that hurt me so much. still i care so much and show him my feelings. even if i shouldnt after he hurts me. i will just wait to see if he says something^^

thanks clare for understanding me^^ im happy that you took some of your time to answer my discussion. i think you are right in not letting go so easily. life isnt easy and its not everyday that we have the chance to meet the guy of our dreams. you know i just wish that he sees how much i love him. and that he can be the same wonderful guy with me again. thats all im wishing in this life. that he cares for me again so so much^^

You're welcome..I wish you all the happiness in life.

my situation is like you say. i thought that me and him would be forever. you know, i always saw him as my prince. i dont think i can love a guy like i love him. from now on i cant trust a guy anymore. i thought that me and him would last. bcs i saw he was honest and really loved me. but we are so far so maybe he just wants to give up on me. i just wish that he was the same guy again. that he could love me again like before. but maybe that wont happen anymore..

i think you are right. if you really love someone so so much you cant let him go. i say this bcs this guy. so many signs for me to let him go.. and still everyday im checking if he says something to me. its just too hard for me to accept that he changed so much. i know that he loved me and is hard for me to think that he forgot all he promised me. thats why im still waiting to see if he be the same guy again. he was so wonderful..

im sorry for your friend toni i think that the right thing to do would be that she was honest with her hubby and tell him that she loves other guy. and that guy should tell his wife that he loves your friend. its sad that your friend will hurt her husband but will be much worse if she stays with a guy that cant make her happy. that way your friend and her hubby wont be happy bcs there isnt a true love in their marriage. honesty is the best thing in her case^^

yes sis im very stubborn bcs i dont get his attitude you know? he loved me so so much why now he is acting this way? if he loved me so so much how could he just not even ask how i am feeling these days? i knew he was sick and i just asked so many times how he is. he doesnt come online at awhile i dont know if he is still sick or if he is better. also his sister i didnt receive an answer from her so i dont even know if he is ok or not.. im just too tired of this situation sissy.. i will just wait a few more days to see if he says something..

i totally agree when you say that if we want to be happy we cant just let the other person we say we love unhappy. thats not love but very selfish. i agree with that bcs im feeling that right now. if someone loves you how can you just stop caring? love can disappear ok but how can you just ignore someone that loves you so much? thats too stupid and a nonsense. if you really love someone you cant stand to see this person crying or broken.