do you really love your bf/gf?^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
Portugal
July 13, 2011 3:32pm CST
hi guys
i was just wondering.. do you really love your bf/gf? some people have a lover but are not in deep love so how is your situation?^^ i just wish that everyone could be in a relation with their true love. and not with someone that loves us but we cant love back. i think that kind of love is unfair.. but sure i wont judge your situations^^ im just curious to know how people feel^^
about me i wouldnt want to be with a guy that doesnt love me or that i dont love.. ^^ what about you guys? how is your story? please share
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 Jul 11
I am still amazed that my guy loves Just as much as I love him. It is mutual! Before I would be the one who loved more but that my guy loved me first, waited and once I fell for him , his love didn't fade but has increased is a miracle I can't stop thanking G-d for.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
15 Jul 11
I hope he comes online and talks to you . If his feelings have changed , he should be man enough to tell you. I'm hoping for the best.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Apr 12
he talked to me but then acted like ignore me again. im sick of that so i decided not to look for ways to talk to him anymore.he has a gf. he found one without even caring for the promise he made me. i ignored that bcs i loved him and didnt want to let him go. i fought a lot but its been almost a year now that im in this situation. so i just decided to stop finding ways to contact him. if he loved me he wouldnt find someone without tell me besides why will i keep telling him i love him and he says he loves me but came back to his gf again? doesnt make sense and hurt me again. so now i wont really contact him anymore.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im happy that he loves you so much^^ i was so happy too bcs this guy i love he also fell for me first and waited that i loved him for some time. so i thought his love for me wouldnt fade but it seems that maybe it is fading away i feel so so sad bcs i really love him now and i wouldnt want to let him go. but he isnt talking with me since some days already. so what should i do? anyway i will just wait to see if he comes online. if he does and doesnt talk with me is bcs he doesnt care anymore.. so im waiting to see what he does when he comes online.
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@kissmylense (152)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 11
of course i love my sweetheart. What do you mean by "some people have lover but not in deep love " ? In my opinion, people who have GF or BF of course want to be love and love their partner. It is correct ?
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
that isnt so easy as you say. many people have a bf or a gf not bcs they are in love but bcs of interest like if the guy or the girl are very rich or bcs that person is good to you. some people are in relations and the reason isnt love. thats why i asked here if you are with someone bcs you love him. sadly, many people have someone just to dont feel lonely or bcs of money or any other reason. i think that we should be with someone we love only but not everyone thinks this way^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Apr 12
first impression counts sure^^ if the person dont look nice sure you wont try to talk to him. i mean if the guy or the girl looks rude or bad ahah^^ but looks are not the only thing that matters. it is also important that that person makes you happy and helps you whenever you need. if he or she makes you laugh thats also important^^ dont you think? for me i dont think i could love a guy without sense of humour. that way for sure you and him wont be bored at all^^
@kissmylense (152)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 11
good looking GF or BF is the 1st impression people want to be love right ? From this 1st step, Love can be develop. So that the reason bf and gf together. right ?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I definitely know that I love my boyfriend and he loves me back. We've been through a lot of things in this life, though it's not a guarantee that we'll be together, I'm pretty sure that if there wasn't love between us, we wouldn't be together anymore.
It's nice to be in love and to know that the person you love also loves you back, doesn't it? I hope everyone gets to feel the same way and that I hope that love would stay in our hearts forever - same with the people we love.
Have a great MyLot experience today!
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
I'm sorry for the late reply, but I know this, if a man loves you, you don't need to worry about anything. He will go to you even if you don't want him anymore. He will look for you because he knows you're the only one he could love.
Sadly, I don't think that guy loves you at all. I think you're just a fling. I'm sorry.
But don't worry, people like that don't end up happy, but people like you do. Believe in it and I hope you find your real love someday.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Apr 12
yes laydee you are right^^ he didnt love me at all and its ok now. i decided to just forget what happened. i been almost a year crying and getting hurt cause of him. if i think about his actions i get hurt again. so i decided not to think about it. get busy with work and find things to do to distract myself. i wish he is happy but i wish that someday he can at least regret the way he act to me. i was so good to him. he could at least be a better guy to me. thanks for make me feel better^^ im sure you will be very very happy too^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
laydee i would have a wonderful mylot experience if the guy i love told me that he loves me and that he is sorry for his lately attitudes. im just afraid that he doesnt say that and that he keeps acting this way. you know, its so bad that i love him and now he just doesnt care so much anymore. i feel that im being a stupid for not letting him go. any girl would just forget him but i cant. even we are so far i feel that he really loved me and i dont want to just give up of loving him. we didnt even have the chance to meet near yet. i need to meet him near me..
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@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
14 Jul 11
Most of the relationships I have had have been one sided. Me doing more of the loving. I still await that one "true" love situation. I have been cleaning out my "closet" so I am sure that some real love is soon to follow. I just want it to be as you say, "a deep, true situation". I am tired of the bull crap and I just don't want it anymore. I do believe I may have encountered this person, but we have not had a chance to get together yet. I am working on it intently though. I think my hopes of true love are well on their way.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im sorry for your situation. me too is like everytime i like a guy is always me caring the most. it doesnt make sense that if you be with someone, one cares more than the other. thats a nonsense! im happy that you feel that you found the right guy now^^ i wish so^^ my situation is also bad bcs i dont want to give up on loving this guy but it seems that he gave up on me. i just dont know about him since some days already.. i just dont understand his attitude
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Apr 12
i tried to do what i could but he just found a gf and i just dont want to be used you know? he hurt me a lot of times so i decided to just let him go. its been a long time to forget him and it still hurts me what he did. but i dont want to be sad anymore cause of it. he could had fight for me but he chose to find someone else. that is nothing else i can do. im away from him and if he really loved me he would fight for me and not find someone else. so im moving on now. i wanted to fight but i was fighting and he wasnt caring for my feelings.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I do love my boyfriend so much just the way he loves me too. We're madly in love with each other. :) Ye right, it's unfair if the person only loves us but we don't love them back in return..I don't want to have that kind of relationship. I want love love love :)
Hey where did you get smileys? I want to put some smileys too.lol
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im happy that he loves you as much as you do love him^^ thats really special about the smileys you can have access to them when you reach 1000 comments^^ if you dont, then you cant use them. i also couldnt use it in the beginning but then when i reach 1000 comments i could^^ just keep commenting and
commenting and soon you can put them too. about love someone that dont love us the same yes is really sad and we should just forget this person. love happens and if it doesnt happen in awhile is bcs the person wont fall for you. so better let go than be hurt hoping for something that is not happening.. :)
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
Thanks for that information, I keep wondering why some people here in mylot got smileys. After I got smileys, where is the application then?It will just appear in front of my face? ahahaha
@llooll519 (108)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
Yes, I love my girlfriend! :D I could do everything for her :D
Our story is a little bit funny :P We met in the local swimming pool (when we went in school xD), when she was changing class from Class C to Competition/pre-competition, and I was in that day training, and I start saying funny things to her and she seems to like :) In the next day, she give me her number and we start to send messages to each other every second :) At the same time, I was hanging out with other girl, but I didn't feel the same love I feel know with her... So I broke up with her and I've started a new relationship... We came to know each other, and one week later, we gave our first kiss that I will never forget! :D
Since that time, we are very happy and there is a lot of love in our relationship! :D
There is nobody to replace her! :D Yes, I find my true love! :D
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
lol im so happy to read your answer^^ you really seem to love her a lot. its a cute story. you are a romantic and sweet guy^^ im happy that you left the other girl to be with this one. wouldnt make sense to be with someone you dont love. its cute that you never forgot your first kiss ahah so sweet^^ its really great to read an answer from a guy saying all these cute things. usually guys are not so showy about their loved ones as we girls are^^ thanks so much for your cute answer^^ it made me smile^^
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I am a person that always love who i am love and i hate to hide this feelings. Now to your question i answer is yes i love him and that is hundred percent. I am true to myself. Of I said i love you meaning i do and if i said i hate you the same with the feelings of love. I also don't like to be with the guy that i never love. What I can do if i am in this person? I think nothing and for sure we always on arguments. No days and night we fight! This is if happen to me the no love situation.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im happy that you are true with yourself and you dont be with a guy that you dont love. its great that you are 100 percent sure that you love your bf^^ im happy that he loves you also^^ i dont think is good to be with a guy if we dont love him. if we do that we will never be happy. life is too short to be spent with sadness. we all need to be happy and enjoy our life^^ its awesome that you dont fight much. arguements are normal in relations but is unhealthy if is something that happens all the time^^
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
he has the most annoying communicating habits i could ever think of not liking in a guy. he is the most insensitive and most stubborn of all the guys ive known. he's the ONLY guy who cared less than i do.he is the ONLY guy who's ever made me feel so miserable, sad, and hopeless. he's not all i ever want in a partner but it is only with him that i sacrificed this much, the fact that i havent imagined myself going this far just to save a relationship. ive always believed in my instinct that he is the man for me. i may be blinded but i would regret it more if i would not stand by this relationship now. he may be the most disappointing guy ive ever had as a boyfriend but it is with him that i learned a lot of things that can probably help me get through and understand men or marriage or life in a deeper level.
i love him yes, all of him. i know it's not all going to be bed of roses for me but something unexplainable is really pushing me to stick with him. if we dont end up happy, then il move on and just say i learned a great deal from all of it.
oh, and dont get me wrong, im not too blinded all along. at the end of the day, whenever i feel really bad and i want to break it off with him, its his turn to woe me back and he always has his way to make me get back with him. id be willing to go through this everyday until i get tired... maybe he will change, maybe he wont, but regardless i know i love him.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
thats so cute what you said^^ you are right bcs sometimes the guy we love isnt the one we wished to. we all have flaws and we love the person even his flaws too. i also didnt want to give up loving this guy bcs i felt that he was the one for me. i feel that way, bcs even when he was feeling so sick he kept talking with me^^ i appreciated that so so much. im so so sad that he changed you know? i never
expected this to happen to us. i love him and i just wanted to have enough money to travel to pinas so i could talk with him near me. thats why i wish you knew him^^ that way maybe you could tell him how much and how deeply i love him. and that im worth of his wait. im afraid that his friends said something to him.. bcs it is strange the way he is acting towards me i wish i could tell him how i love him..
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
14 Jul 11
I would have to say yes. I say yes because this is the woman I was supposed to be with all my life. We are like puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly. It is unfortunate that we were not together from years ago but life is not fair. But now I am with the love of my life.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im very happy that you love this girl so much^^ im also happy that she loves you. its wonderful that you say that is like pieces are together. its so cute that you and her feel complete with each other. i wish that the guy i love can feel the same way again about me. he is changing with me lately. i just dont know what he feels for me anymore. i guess that for him im nothing anymore.. i feel so so sad bcs i dont understand his attitude
@fitriadi21 (386)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 11
Well sweetloveforeve...love is beautiful. But in fact, sometimes not as beautiful as imagine. I allready have a spouse, but i feel not happy with her, so i often think that i became hers life partner, is just because an obligation in live, because the life is must go on.
Actually, my loved ones and might be make me happy, just going be away somewhere. And in deepest of my heart. i still love her. Strange indeed... it's true...just like that!
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
so you mean that you lost your true love? bcs you say that you dont love your wife. thats very sad you shouldnt be with a girl that you dont love. we should enjoy our life with someone that we love truly^^ if you dont feel happy you should talk with her and leave her. life is to be lived with happiness and not be with someone for obligation. just be happy and leave what brings you sadness. fight for your happiness^^
@gingerberrie (191)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
When my hubby and I were still boyfriends / girlfriends, we really enjoy every moment that we are together. He is very caring, loving, and responsible all the time till now. That’s the reason maybe I love him so much and decided to marry him. I believe that if you ask for God’s blessing for the right man to be your partner in life. He will grant it and gave it to you in the right time.
Sometimes it is also rocky but we were able to surpass it by having an open communication and of course by the guidance of our creator.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im very happy that you found a caring and sweet boyfriend^^ you deserve to be happy. its like you say, if we ask god for a good guy im sure he will do that for us. if we are good sure^^ like people say: after the storm always something good happens. so we must just try to cheer up when bad things happen bcs soon something good will happen too^^ i wish that my right guy just loves me for who i am and dont give up on loving me^^ true love is about keep the feelings and not about let go of it.
@an_kawai_614 (18)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
It's really unfair if the love feeling is unmutual.I experienced that before that my bf really loves me but it's hard to pretend to your emotions even to yourself.I felt guilty so I decided to end up the relationship than to continue cheating myself and him.It's better to love someone that you really like and not for some other reasons beyond.Sometimes before entering in relationship you must know your feelings first,it's okay to sacrifice and get hurt as long that you love the person because that's part of life..no pain, no gain!Such relationship is going to nowhere so it just waste of time..
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im happy that you did that. it was the best thing being honest with him. he loved you and if you didnt feel the same for him its right that you just tell him the truth. its unfair to be with someone that loves you and you cant love back. its a waste of time and also will make you feel sad and guilty bcs you will be pretending to feel something you dont. anyway you are a good person bcs you were honest^^ thanks for share with me^^
• United States
14 Jul 11
sweetloveforeve I have been in a relationship since my divorce for about a year now and me and my boyfriend are good friends. I think it helped that we got to get to know each other a little bit before actually dating. We make each other laugh and we do things for each other. Right now we don't live together. I am 37 and he is 45 but we have talked about that and both are not ready to live with anyone nor to get married again right now but like I said we enjoy each others time. I feel the love and caring from him. Yes we really do love each other.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im happy that you found a good guy to love you^^ im sorry that you got divorced. would be good if we found the right guy right away without bad things happening in our lives right?^^ its normal that you dont feel ready to live with someone. you had a bad experience and its needed time now to heal^^ enjoy each other's time and know each other better and better^^ im sure that someday you be ready to live together but is like people say: one day at a time^^ enjoy your relation^^ and thanks for share your story with me^^
@ReverendShaggy (415)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I am with the the love of my life. It is true love. When a lot of people have a relationship with someone who has children it affects them in their decisions because they are afraid. My love has 3 boys and I immediately fell in love with them as well. I consider them my boys wholeheartedly. I left I certainity in life for stability and have a wonderful life now that was most definitely worth the risk.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im happy that you see your gf kids as your own kids^^ thats so wonderful^^ you did the right thing in risking in that relationship. some people let go of the one they love bcs are too much afraid to fight. that for me isnt a true love. you love your gf truly bcs you never gave up on being with her^^ you treat her kids as your own too what is so cute^^ you are a great guy and im sure that you will be very very happy^^ wish you have a great day^^
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
17 Jul 11
Hi sweet love forever: I don't have a gf at the moment but what I can tell you is that if I started a relationship I must be sure about my feelings and if I fell that there's something wrong I have to talk with my partner and try it to fix it up. If that's not possible it's better to end a relationship. But don't do anything when you feel that love is gone makes things worst.
ALVARO
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
I guess you know my love story or at least a little about it. Yes, I am in a relationship right now in which I know is a very good relationship. I am in love with my bf and I am sure my bf also loves me back. We may not be together physically but we are both in love with each other despite the distance. I agree, being in a relationship that doesn't have love is not enough and is so unfair.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
13 Jul 11
Hi Cat!
I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 8 wonderful years! I love him more now as time continues to pass by. When I first met him I was not interested in him. But after a first date, he made re-think very quickly. He is such a wonderful man, he is very passive, understanding and says I am right and agrees to everything. Because of him, I able to keep the pieces together in my life. We have a very caring, loving and mutual understanding relationship. Something I never thought would be possible.
Yes I am in love with him and can't imagine not loving him. I have not had it easy in life, with my past relationship and feel that I finally got my rewards in life having had him.
I agree with you that I can't be with someone I do not love. I understand that some stay together due to the children, and or grow to accept things as they are. I am just glad I have not had to be in the situation and am blessed with who I am with.
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@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
im very happy that you found the right guy^^ sorry that in your past you had a bad experience but is like people say: everything happens for a reason. i guess that maybe you met that " bad guy" so later on when you met the right one, you felt he was the one for you^^ im very happy that he is wonderful with you. you deserve to be very very happy^^ i guess would be really hard for you to lose him. im sure it wont happen and you will be happy always^^ wish you the best all the time
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
26 Jul 11
Hi there! I'm a "what you see is what you get" kind'a person. When I commit myself to a person, that's only because I truly love him. I don't see the point of being in a relationship where there is no love that connects both parties. That's just a waste of precious time and energy.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
HI Cat!
When my husband was just my boyfriend, life was very exciting and there's so much to look forward to everyday when we're together. The only reason that we fought then was that he was such a jealous guy. I was going to law school then and i had to interact with other men and go to group studies with my classmates and of course they were not all women. Other than that we loved each other deeply and we were just so in love with each other. It was really so exciting.
When we got married our priority changed. It's not just you and me but it's us and our child. When we talk we only talk about our child and no longer about just the two of us. We do love each other until now but i'm saying that the excitement is not as what it was before. So sometimes i'm jealous of those married couples who can still keep the flame in their relationship after so many long years. And i've just been married for 8 years.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
14 Jul 11
hi toni im sorry that you dont feel the excitement you felt at first anymore maybe you can talk with your hubby and tell him how you feel. im sure that he will try to spend more time with you like when you were only lovers^^ you can ask a friend to take care of your son for awhile and go to have dinner with your hubby^^ or to some cute place you used to go to before^^ talk with him.. im sure that he also miss the time when you were always so romantic with each other^^ just talk with him
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
12 Apr 12
When i love someone i also want him to love me back so when i love someone and he don't love me i will just face the reality that he is not the right person for me. Other people said that if you really love someone its not important if he/she love you too the important is you love him/her but its really hard to be with someone that don't love you. I don't want to be martyr.