Loner, is it bad to be a loner?

Not much research has been done about the plus or minus points of being a loner and they have been tagged as antisocial. Wrong. Those who socialise have nothing of their own that they can relay upon for company unlike those loners who have their own fertile thoughts that keep them going for hours.

I think it's OK to be a person who spends time alone. It's a matter of degree and actions that might bring the word "loner" into the negative realm. Really, we need only one good friend with whom to fellowship. And it's a matter of balance and moderation as well. Too much alone time makes us feel lonely and alone. But being in quiet solitude has great opportunities for new learning experiences. One can be alone, but not lonely or isolated. We are all at different tempos in that respect. Some people can only feel validated in a crowd or group situation. Others are more comfortable in the quiet places. It's when 'dark thinking" starts taking over that "loner" becomes a negative label. We need to have enough of a support system to be able to have a "reality check" when necessary.

Each one has different attributes. Some are outgoing while some are homebody. Some are sociable while others are loners. In you case, you enjoy solitude and I believe there is nothing wrong with that provided you don't get completely detached from the society. You should also set apart some of your time to meet friends and enjoy being in their presence once in while to make your life balance. It is not bad to enjoy solitude because sometimes we also need some time to be alone to be able to think better and to enjoy God's creations before our very eyes.

Hm.... Well.... that's hard to say really. I used to think the answer to that is no. That being a loner is great and fine way to live. I am a loner myself. Nothing depresses me more than being stuck in a room full of people. The more people, the worse I feel. That said... I have noticed that people who go crazy are often loners. But that still does not equal to cause. Is it possible that being alone too much caused them to go nuts... or did being nuts cause people to leave them alone? Chicken or the egg problem. I don't know. I would wager it is highly unlike I will ever change into a person that enjoys the 'fellowship' of others. Its possible, just not likely. So I guess I'll find out if being a person of solitude causes insanity at some point.

It's not really bad to be a loner as long as you still interact with people. In my case, I really think I work best alone that's why most of the time I prefer to be alone. I still socialize but I have purpose for that. See, if you don't connect with someone, that is a loss of connection to the world. I'm not implying here that you don't talk with friends and all. Yeah, you talk with friends, but you should also form rapport with your officemates and colleagues. This way, you'll form some sort of a web of connection between them. This will keep you informed of what's happening around you and this lessens the danger of being singled out.

I've heard people described as loners, yet exactly what is a loner? Someone who has a small circle of friends? Someone who isn't as socially active as another? There is a lot of room in the description of loner, because there isn't a one size fits all. I don't think being described as a loner is necessarily a bad thing, it's just another person's opinion of your personality, and everyone knows what opinions are like...

It is not bad to be a loner. Being alone is actually good sometimes, you will have time to think, to reflect, and do some other things you want to do alone. I agree with some people find it not good being alone. They think that when someone's alone, they're a loner(in a bad way), thinks like they're left alone and no one wants to be with them. But of course, that's not true. Being alone is a choice. It's not bad. I think people must understand that why we're being alone sometimes.

I'm a loner myself and see nothing wrong in it. Better be alone than surrounded my stress and negativity as most of the people today are. I like society but not when it's too noisy . I work with people on daily basis, so I can't wait to go home and calm down into nature.I understand you and it's ok to be a loner as long as you still have few close and good friends that undersatnd you .

I am also a loner myself, and I would like to tell you, it is not so hard. I found sometimes, human nature is hard to predict, in living this real world, I had face many adversity. A friend's betrayal. The girl I love actually not love you at all, instead of using me. So, it is hard to be close to person, actually in fear of them. So honestly, to be alone can be a good thing.

Hi Investor, I myself was a loner, but not quite. no matter what anybody else says, for me to be a loner is a behavior that is important to clear the air and the mind. There are situations where I want to be alone, but sometimes there are times when I want to be with other people. Depending on the mood.

Like yourself, I am sort of a loner. I love being alone. I love the solitude and the quiet. I love my space and privacy. I have never married and have lived alone for many years. And my apartment is my refuge from the world. However, I am also sociable. I love going to parties and other social events. But, I prefer to go out alone and run into people rather than go places with other people. Loner does have a negative connotation. Loners can be seen as weird, "crazy" and maybe even dangerous. I don't really see myself as a loner as much as I see myself as a person who enjoys the company of myself and enjoys being alone. And I do not see anything wrong with that.

I love to enjoy a quiet life as well. So if someone calls me a loner. Fine. So be it. Who cares? You are happy with your life. Nothing else matters.

For me being a loner is not bad.. Just like the quote "I'd rather be alone, than in bad company" it really depends on you. it is bad if you force yourself to be with them, though you don't like it. It will make a two-faced person. Being yourself is the best gift you can give to anyone. so stop complaining about yourself and be who you are.. ps.. don't forget the feelings of the people surrounding you.. ^_^

I think it is not bad to be a loner. I myself is a loner I don't really go on some party and go drinking. I have no vices like smoking or drinking that's why I have few friends, but I don't need a lot of friend, all I need is a real friend. It is not bad my friend we are not alone just remember that.

i dont like being surrounded by a lot of noise/people. i seldom join parties or out of town getaway. i prefer being alone most of the time, i feel organized and calm whenever im all by myself. its weird to say this but i feel like im in control of everything if im alone most of the time. even to people you just bump with somewhere.

Well, I responded once with a detailed four or five paragraphs so I really hate to retype a response. In short I am a loner! No, there is nothing wrong with it I just prefer my own company as opposed to that of people that create so much drama everyday and tear my nerves up. I work from home so I don't have to deal with people everyday and I like it that way. I never married or had children yet so I can be alone if I wish. I am happy with myself and can entertain myself so I don't really get lonely. I do have a couple of good friends and we talk briefly once or twice a week and see each other about once a month. Just because you might be labeled a "loner" doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you it just means you don't need other people to reinforce your everyday decisions or need their constant company.

Everybody is different. Being loner is not bad at all as long as you are enjoying your life in that way.

You are absolutely my friend if you wants of live alone then nobody will talk with you and you will alone. Privacy is not good for life everybody should be free and frank because lots of problems solved if we talk on it with our nearest. My husband want to live alone and he is not talking with any cousin brothers, sisters aunty, no making friends then nobody tell with him. In reverse everybody wants to talk with me and use lots of funny language with me so I enjoyed with them. They tell me ohhhh surekha you are talkative women then why pankaj is not. So if they are going in party then if they not talk with anybody then nobody talk with him. So meet lots of friends, family members and enjoy life because life is short.

I don't think that being a loner is necessarily a bad thing - its all about how happy you feel with the life that you are living! That is the only thing that matters. If you are happy and satisfied, then you should not care what others think. Being alone sometimes is great - it allows you time to do whatever it is that you want to do while maintaining your privacy. So stay exactly the way you are and be happy!

Being a loner is not bad at all. As you have said, it gives privacy and time which you cannot have when you are with other people. It also trains someone to be self-dependent. However, there are many advantages of being a loner. You cannot and most of the time, would not be able to express your feelings. Man cannot live alone.