when your friend is dating someone not worth it, what will you tell her?

I was in a similar situation before. Your friend's bf is a controller type and she has to be very careful because controllers are also cheaters. You cannot do anything than advice your friend, but you can't force her to break up with the bf the soonest especially if she's so in love. You cannot do anything than wait that she opens her eyes and realize that she does not deserve her bf. She could only realize until a major incident happens. Say, when the guy cheats. It would be of course sad because you cannot do anything for your friend. However, a blinded heart has a mind of its own and sometimes it justifies things that are not right. Let her feel the pain, by then when she cannot bear the pain, she'll learn to cease it and little by little opens her eyes. But, continue nurturing her with the facts. That she needs to have a life other than her bf.

I have tried similar situation before. My friend had fallen in love with a guy in our school. That guy has quite a lot of bad record in school including stealing his roomate's purse when he was young. The most important thing is he was interested in almost every single chinese girl in the school and my friend had fallen in love with him after chatting with him on facebook and skpye for a few times. My other two friends disliked this as well. We tried very hard to tell our friend not to continue the relationship with that guy but it seemed that she could not listen. Luckily, she realised that she had quite a big difference in some point of views with that guy and they seperated at the end.

It's hard to tell your friend whether to leave him.But i think just flow it,if they are not meant to be together,finally the relationship will come into an end.Anyway,you just help her don't do something that could hurt herself.Just be free and do something she like do not restrained by him.

This is what I will tell my friend, "maybe your life isn't my life because it is yours, but I just don't want you to tell me someday why I have not told you if I noticed something wrong, but I just want you to know that I do care as friend and doesn't want to see you someday get hurt. I don't want you hanging around with a liar because he does not deserve you. But if you feel I am wrong and really loves him then it is your choice. All is just up to you. I just want you to be careful."

It happened to me. I saw the boyfriend of my friend with someone else. Im hesitant to tell her about this because she is Pregnant that time. So i just forget it. You know, men are naturraly bigamous. They are also naturally possessive. Let them suffer at their own risk.

As a child growing up in a home of domestic violence and my studying in this field; I first want to say that she should be very careful, because those are the first signs of abuse another term "domestic violence." All you can do is to keep talking to her (offer support but whatever you do don't judge" it will most likely send her into a defensive mode. Second, offer to keep a bag, with important documents and clothes (tell her it's a just in case) It's like insurance, just to cover you, just in case. Help them create a safety plan: Another option, Tell her you are doing it just out of concern or for the both of you, in the case you were in trouble or abused and in the case she was abused as well. (Although you may not, it kinda creates a perspective of a mutual bond rather than it being all about her or her situation. Depending on a couple things,if she lives with him, how she responds back to you, offer her a ride to a resource center, call them to get more info. and ask, what can you do. Being prepared for her when she's ready can be the best thing. By the way, you are a great friend, for being concern!!! Family Violence Center~ 1888-750-4673/Domestic Violence Hotline 1800-799-SAFE /National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline:1866-331-9474 This should get you started in the right direction. Blessings

As I think, a truely dedicated friend will always tell the truth for the sake of keeping a friend from doing something silly, even if it really hurts, as it does in such a case. We can't just remain indifferent to what our friends are doing, for they will surely end up being hurt. Of course, it is possible that they may never listen to us when they are deep in love. But we should not let them go on like that. Try to talk to them in a mild way and make them understand that we really care about them. If they obstinately believe that they're doing the right thing, perhaps we have to give up. But I'm sure they'll eventually come to us and apologize for ignoring our honest opinions.

Honestly, as bad as it sounds, if you already tried and it didn't work then there's nothing else to do. The best thing you can do for her is to be by her side. Listen when she needs someone to talk to and give her the best advice you can without making her feel bad. I was in a situation similar to this and I wouldn't listen either. I knew that I so-called loved this guy and all I wanted was for my friends and family to like him too. I learned my lesson in the end the hard way and wished I had listened to everyone but you learn from your mistakes. The reason he's like this with her is probably because he's got some dirt on him and isn't very trustworthy so he treats her this way to make himself feel better. Stand by her as much as possible.

Well, first of all, I would like to say that your friends boyfriend is showing the first signs of becoming and abusive boyfriend. Controlling her is just the first step, later it will lead to him "punishing" her when she disobeys him. Unfortunatly, the fact is, he can control her, because she allows him to control her. And it doesn't matter what you or I or anyone else says to her, she will continue to allow him to control and eventually abuse her, because in her mind she believes that he loves her, and she loves him. It sucks, but, that is the way it is. Until the moment comes when SHE HERSELF puts her foot down and says, "I've had enough, and I deserve better"! Then and only then will she get out of the relationship. But, it won't be before suffering alot, mentally and physically. And you telling her to leave him, or pointing out the problems in her relationship is only gonna end in her being angry with you. The truth hurts... and she won't forgive you easily for telling what she refuses to admit. At this time, all you can do, is continue to love her, and spend time with her when you can, reassure her, encourage her, and most importantly be there with arms wide open when the tears fall... its all you can do, until she opens her eyes and puts her foot down.

Just let your friend know about the situation. Its up to her to make the decision by the way. We cannot control their thinking but they need our support. Sooner or later she might come up with realizations of her own. Be the good friend that you are as always.