parents never stop worrying about children !!!!!!

@apsara60 (6610)
Israel
August 1, 2011 4:49am CST
Being a parent is a real blessing for us. But we love our children so much that we just cannot stop worrying about them even if we know that they are just fine and can take good care of themselves. Some wise people say that we should not worry so much about anything and mediate or relax.......but is it that easy,........are their any parents who can avoid worrying about their children, and if yes.....do let me know as I think I will not stop worrying about my children until I am dead.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
Hi apsara! Good Post. You see worrying is a natural human emotion and we all worry, however degree varies. We just cannot stop worrying, specially about our own kids. We should make ourselves understand that whatever has to happen, will happen and kids are now a days smarter and wiser than us. They can face any challenge better than us. Nonetheless, we can direct them to keep us informed about their position and activities or else we could ring them up to know about them, when they are away from home.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
Yes I know Deepak, whatever you have said is true, but you know it is all matter of love and in love no matter how much advice we take from our intelligent brain, we cannot defeat little emotional heart.....so there is no solution to this.....it is like "keep worrying and still live happily".Thanks for your response.
@jayadevi (17)
• India
2 Aug 11
yes i agree that.nowadays parent are very busy.children are expect their parent's love.parent like to spend their children but not possible for that.children want parent as a friend.if like that parent will leave worry for children because we know like or dislike and want or do not want.then parent have no worry for children.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
It is true that today parents have to leave children and go to work to earn their livelihood., but that does not mean that working parents don't worry about children, I think they worry even more as the child is small and needs parents..Thanks for your reply.
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
I'm a mother of 3 boys. And I think about them all day long. Thinking about them really gives me a lot of stress. I want to stop myself from worrying about them but it is really hard. My eldest is already 13 years old but still I don't allow him to go out to malls or friends house by himself. I think I'm becoming an overprotective mom.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
You are not overprotective dear, you are just a mother like all other mothers. I think mothers are born to worry about their children.......we just cannot stop ourselves from worrying.Thanks for your reply.
@kkanaka (886)
• Singapore
2 Aug 11
I too want to let go a bit, but the thing is I worry when they are kids, I worry for the different problems they will face when they will grow up; I worry for my daughter's safety; worry she will not cross the road carefully (its only one crossing) while going to school; I worry when she doesnt come on time when she is back from school... I worry if she doesnt tell me the full truth whenever she talks about her friends and other activities she involves in. For my son as he is younger than my daughter I worry if he walks out of house to play with his friends, I worry because he is more cuter so he will be bullied by others; I worry even when he is with me that he will fall down as he always runs and never walks along... I am scared that I am going to make them more vulnerable by voicing my fears; so usually I put up a brave front.... but really its hard to be a parent and not worry.....
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
oh dear, you are just like me.......only difference is that your kids are still small and mine are big.......but believe me bigger children bring more serious problems for parents because they don't listen and we cannot even stop them.......Thanks for your reply.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Aug 11
You are quite right. We haev a saying here: If we will bring up our children for 100 years, then we will be worried for them for 99 years. Namely we will keep worring about them until the day we are gone. How sad it is! It is not easy to be a parent. If our children get sick, we will feel nervous and we wish we could have the illness for our children. And when they are not with us, we will wonder how they are. We can't really live for ourselves only. I love China
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
Yes friend what you said is really true, we will keep worrying for our children till the day we leave this world.Thanks for your answer and I love china too
• Singapore
2 Aug 11
This is very true. To tell the truth, my mother is one example. Wherever I go, I will still call home to tell her, whether I'm late or what. It's a 'ritual' which I've been told to do since young. I remember when I was in secondary one, I was in Scouts and they went outside to buy the Scouts uniform, until evening 6 pm plus. I didn't know they would delay till so long and didn't call home to inform my parents. As expected, when I went home, I was punished. This is a perfect example of parents who cannot stop worrying about their children. As what you've said in your first line, it's a blessing to be a parent but it's also tiring at the same time and you have to worry about this and that. As expected of children, they will never ever understand the worries of their parents until they grow up, being matured enough in their thinking, and maybe they become a parent themselves. Some parents are fortunate enough to have an independent child and they just leave their child outside and they know how to go back home.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
That one phone call from child gives new life to parents, this children will understand when they will have their own children.Yes there are some parents who don't worry like us, but most of them are just like you and me.Always worried
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Aug 11
i am not a parent yet at the moment but i certainly understand what you are saying... my parents are very protective over me as i am the only daughter in the family... they also want the best for me... so they never stop to worry over me even until now when i am already married and have my own family... but i guess that is what all parents do as their love are unconditional and unlimited towards their children... take care and have a nice day...
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
I am happy that you understand and appreciate your parents and soon when you will have your own children, you will even understand it better.Some children when they grow up don't treat parents with respect, which really hurts........Have a great day and great lifeThanks for your reply.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
3 Aug 11
Hello apsa. As a parent of middle aged children and teenaged grandchildren I have learned that you never stop worrying about them. After all they are still your children. You have seen them through child hood illnesses broken bones and heart aches and you still worry. I think that you are right we don't stop worrying until we take our last breath.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I always worry about my daughter. She is almost 20 years old and has married someone who is going to prison for his bad choices. she is making bad choices also and has abandoned her whole family now. She is going to have our first grandbaby in September also and she has no stable home for herself and the baby. As of right now, we will never get to see the baby either. We raised her better than this but she likes the corrupted lifestyle for some reason.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
oh no dear stephcjh.....why did this happen with you. I know it is very painful for us when our children don't listen to us and do things that are not right for them. They don't understand that when parents see their children in pain, they are even more sad.I really feel sorry for you and your daughter.....Hope God will help and all will be well.......it really hurts to see what today children are doing to themselves.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
1 Aug 11
I am sorry aspera. I am unable to help you, because I am also a mother like you. I always worry about my children. specially when they are not at home. when they get poor marks than before. when they lie to me. yes, my worries over them are endless.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
Dear johnpillai, you are just like me and I know nobody can help us because we are mothers and mothers will always remain mothers.Thanks for your response.
@jdex_143 (1093)
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
Hello! That's true! My mother is a living proof of that.. She keeps on worrying about me and my sister. I don't want her to feel that way because I would always make sure that I'm safe but I know, it's really hard for a parent not to think about their children. I just hope my mother will have a peace of mind. :) And you too, of course. :)
@thetis74 (1525)
1 Aug 11
That would be so hard for me. For the first time in my four-year old's life, just last week her daddy took her to the mall for a few hours to get something. I couldn't go because I am bed resting ans she went with him without me for the first time. And I couldn't stop worrying despite knowing that her daddy is much stricter than me when it comes to looking after her. I kept texting if they are okay. I even worry even if she is not near me around the house. I think it is natural. Or it may be too much or it's just me.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
1 Aug 11
Thats exactly what I want to say thetis74, once a parent you are then just a parent. Parenthood becomes you first priority, of course we enjoy it a lot, but at the same time we sign a permanent agreement with worries.Well as you said , this is me and this is you.....
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
I am not a parent yet, but I have a mom who also keeps on worrying about me. I love her that way. And i understand her being worried. Even if I know I am safe and I will not do anything to keep her worrying. its just her way of showing how much she loves me. She is like that when I was small and up to now that I am married. I never complained on how she it to me. But I worried that it will affect her health too. I try to talk to her, i'm not getting bored of her worrying about me. But I worry about her health. I know I dont have the right to talk about this yet because im not yet a mom. I know that when I have a child. I too will worry a lot... its a natural way of a woman to protect her loved ones... especially if its her own child.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
I am happy you understand your mother.....just see that you remain like that forever, because as children grow they change and hurt parents which actually kills them from inside , though they look alive.....all that parents want is love in return to love and nothing else nothing else.
@natagi (3)
• Israel
23 Aug 11
That's right parents have to worry about and watch the children because children are curious and can get lost very quickly and take risks... so parents need to be worriers