Would you sacrifice everything for the one you love?
By eynjel_1988
@eynjel_1988 (330)
Philippines
August 7, 2011 10:07pm CST
Hello there people. Early this morning on my way to office,I had read in one column in a newspaper that contains letters to the editor asking for a piece of advice regarding his love life. One letter their caught my attention so I got curious and read it ( though I am not used of reading that particular column in a newspaper )
Well to just to summarize the contents of the said letter, the sender is a guy. He is asking for an advice from the editor of what to do because he was asked by his parents to marry the girl whom he doesn't love. The guy said that he has a girl friend whom he truly loved. But unfortunately, his parents don't like that girl because his parents wants him to marry other girl. he also mentioned that his parents told him that if he didn't marry that said girl ( which his parents wants him to marry)they will remove the guy on their last will so that he will not be getting even a single cent from his parents.
The guy now is so problematic since the wedding is all set on December this year. Well, if you will be to ask, what advice would you give to him?
If I were on that situation, I would rather choose the one that I love instead of the money that I can get. You can earn that money but you cannot afford to live your life in happiness if you were in someone whom you don't love.
10 responses
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
Hi there Eynjel_1998!
I think what he should do, if he really loves his girlfriend, is to write a letter for the one he's supposed to marry just to explain everything and not offend the girl. Then, he should tell his parents how he feels about the whole arranged marriage deal and just learn to stand in his own feet. Find a decent job, save enough money for his marriage with his girlfriend and for their future.
@eynjel_1988 (330)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
I agree with you. If I am in the shoes of the guy, I would rather talk to my parents sincerely about what I really feels, In this way maybe they would understand me. Furthermore, there no parents would want their children be hurt. So i guess it is only a matter of chance to talk to his parents and explain everything until they can understand him.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
So what if the parents will remove him from the last will. Don't he have a job that could support him and his true love, in case that happens.
He should better take his true love , because if he marries without love for what his parents is pining for him, he could be in for a lifetime regret. 
@eynjel_1988 (330)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
You are right. well we can give him so many advice but at the end he will be the one to decide what to choose. Is it the money or the one that he truly loved..
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
Sounds like a Bollywood movie to me, but as to what most Mylotters said here, well yeah go find a job, never mind the last will and be happy with the person you love. Don't complicate things just because someone won't approve of what you like, as long as you know that you don't compromise to stand on what you believe is true and right.
@rikell (25)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
I would rather go for love and leave the money to my parents. Money can be earned and but we cannot buy happiness or love. Although some will say that love will grow soon or will blossom, but we never know when. One will be lucky if that love will grow, but the question is "What if Love will never grow?" It's like just wasting the time of your life. Staying with the person you are in-love with comes with a lot of SACRIFICE.
@inkcity (21)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
Exactly like you said--I'd marry the one I love. After all, it wont be my parents that will build a life with this strange woman they want me to marry right? I'm going to be the one to spend the rest of my life and build a family with the woman, so I'd definitely pick the woman that I actually want to be with.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
I agree... I have been in the same situation. I am a foreigner to my husband and his family did not want me at first. They warned him everything will not be normal again and he will lose his family. I am blessed and he still wanted to marry me. We got married and everything was left in my hand. I made sure that I did everything to make them realize I am not a wrong person for their son. I showed them I love him more than my life. He also fought for me and always tell me everything will be fine. Slowly, everything did went fine and we are happy now. I think the guy should not let the girl of his life go by marrying someone else. And the same time, he should not ruin the life of the girl he is about to marry... if he get married to that girl without love, the nthe life of that girl will be in vain... I hope he acts on what his heart is telling before two girls get hurt.
@marlissamarhe (6)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 11
well, money can't buy love. that's what his parents should know. can't believe in this era still have these types of parents. the parents have been married for such a long time, they should know how terrible experiences will his son be if his son is to be married to the girl he did not love. i can't believe this. i thought this things only happens in movie. pity the son.
as for me, love is the key to almost all the happiness. it's true that without money, we'll be in trouble but if we have money and doesn't have the opportunity to spend the money with our loved ones, that's sad!
hope that person have the idea of what he's going to do next. and hope his parents wake up with their immature decision.
@lydiab (33)
• United States
8 Aug 11
If he makes the decision to marry the girl his parents wants him to just so that he can remain in the parents good graces which results in staying in their will then he is doing his current girlfriend a big favor. His value system places money over the so called love he has for the girlfriend. At sometime in their life he would probably prove he does not deserve her. Better she see it now then later even if it hurts to see the truth.
@rollylolly (2843)
• India
8 Aug 11
Hi eynjel ! thanks for putting up this letter for discussion . Some pertinent questions that are involved in the letter is as to whether the guy is self sufficient , does he have the guts to go against his parents and amrry the girl of his choice, does he have the moral values to exalt love over money and does if have the confidence that he will have no regrets whatsoever to leave the property and marry someone of his choice and not his parents . He seems to be feeble , doubtful and undecided . To take such decision he needs confidence ,strength of mind , moral value and the courage to go ahead with his decision .
I personally would have not thought of money and go and marry someone who loves me and vice versa. I would not in this case go for money and marry someone I don't love . It's a decision of life and I can't go fooling about . As you rightly said money can be earned . I won't forgo my love for the sake of movable and immovable properties of my parents . I need their blessings and not their money . My love is the greatest possesion of my life and I can't barter it for money . I may live a simple life on ragged clothes but my love must make me feel like a queen.
